For me I try to stick to a budget. Have automatic savings so money needed for investing and other things is invested before it gets to my checking account. I will admit that if the money stays in my checking account too long I will spend it on the hobby.
I have a rule, never hobby more than once every 5 days. On Sundays I take out a certain amount for the week. If I want to see a provider for multiple hours or someone out of the normal hourly rate, I will save up, by taking out on the next Sunday and not spending the current weekly amount that I took out.
I know in the past I would spent bonus, emergency funds, house down payment, income tax rebates, vacation pay, etc on the hobby like water going down the drain.
In the past, I used to hobby once every couple of weeks. I tried to cut back, but no amount of saving measures worked for me until I found some meaningful goal to replace my goal of having pussy after pussy after pussy.
Initially it was buying a house, which I achieved last year. One has to be stupid not to buy house in this market with home prices still low and interest rate at the lowest..
Then I replaced it with another goal.
Now, I only hobby once every couple of months and couldn't be happier..
Will it work for everyone? I don't know....It definitely worked for me.
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I'll probably die broke and homeless, on a park bench.
Hey...we can't take it with us...can we?
Posted By: perfectstorm
I'll probably die broke and homeless, on a park bench.
Hawaii's not such a bad place to be
Or so she commented on a different post...something to that effect LOL
It's going below zero here tomorrow...so I hate you and that paradise you live in 
Posted By: perfectstorm
Hawaii's not such a bad place to be
And it's cold here too! It got down to 59 the other night! 
You know what your hell is gonna be? Sibera for eternity, LMAO...
When are you gonna pop for LR? I say bring her this week, she'd love the weather, lol
A wild card is that 3-4 times a year, a girl on my bucket list comes in, our scheds match, and I drop whatever it costs to see her for as long as I can.
when I have enough I can play. If opportunities don't come my way, I can binge when the stars align. It takes a lot of decipline. Oh, yes, my method does not tie WDs to dates I wander off.
Logical restraint. Good grief what a stupid question
It is a legit topic to talk about. Do you feel guilty seeing how guys like myself gave up things to see ladies like you ?
I am trying to help someone else before they over spend like I did in the past. Many guys won't admit it but they are doing the same thing or have done the same thing in the past.
I have also heard of stories where some hobbyists have sent their kids to really hard colleges so they could flunk out so they would not have to continue to pay for college expenses. They did it so they could spend the money on the hobby.
That would put the brakes on his obssesive splurging.
"Hey everyone, I snort several lines of cocaine every day and I feel like it's affecting my behavior, and it seems to be draining my bank account. What do I do?"
That's how your question comes across.
You want discussion? Post a thought-provoking question on morality or favorite restaurants. This is a pretty simple one: either learn how to manage your finances (income vs expenses) and take a little more time between sessions... or don't. If someone needs to tell you how to *not* spend money on escorts, then you're beyond help.
Virtually everyone struggles with how much to spend on ass. Relax chief. He was just looking for some pointers on how not to let the hobby ruin his life.
Should be able to exceise some kind of self control. Before vice spending becomes a threat to ones lifestyle.
At least in the case of alcohol or hardcore narcotics there's a physical addiction that has serious side effects during withdrawl. Visitig escorts is NOT in that category.
This thread comes across like the all too common mentality lately where people refuse to take personal accountability. Nothing is ever anyone's fault, there's always something else to blame. Should I pat him on the back, coddle him like a child? I have no sympathy for people who lack self control, and even less for those who come to a group of potentially like-minded self-imposed addicts for advice.
Join a support group for overspenders. Hand the bank card and checkbook to the SO or a friend. Or be a responsible adult and set a $$ limit every month, and use ol' righty when that money is spent. This isn't rocket surgery, it should be common sense.
Been there...done that lol
Posted By: ericdravn242
"Hey everyone, I snort several lines of cocaine every day and I feel like it's affecting my behavior, and it seems to be draining my bank account. What do I do?"
That's how your question comes across.
You want discussion? Post a thought-provoking question on morality or favorite restaurants. This is a pretty simple one: either learn how to manage your finances (income vs expenses) and take a little more time between sessions... or don't. If someone needs to tell you how to *not* spend money on escorts, then you're beyond help.
Apparently nothing. Grab a brew. Pop a Xanny. And chillax, Julie.
i try to keep my wallet away from my dick..they seem to like one another..
Posted By: wrps07
For me I try to stick to a budget. Have automatic savings so money needed for investing and other things is invested before it gets to my checking account. I will admit that if the money stays in my checking account too long I will spend it on the hobby.
I have a rule, never hobby more than once every 5 days. On Sundays I take out a certain amount for the week. If I want to see a provider for multiple hours or someone out of the normal hourly rate, I will save up, by taking out on the next Sunday and not spending the current weekly amount that I took out.
I know in the past I would spent bonus, emergency funds, house down payment, income tax rebates, vacation pay, etc on the hobby like water going down the drain.
Stick to your budget. For me, that generally means once or twice per month. All bills get paid first and a certain percentage is put away for major expenses like property taxes and emergency home repairs. Whatever is left over is available for providers but at today's average rates, 1-2x each month is all I'm a able to do. There's no way in hell I'm going broke for this hobby. I have a target retirement date and fully intend to retire on time.
Get a reality check by analyzing how much you spend on providers and that should be enough to shock you into controlling yourself. Stick to your budget or you'll be working until the day you die. Now there's a reality check
I try to do it twice a month, so every 2 weeks I go to the bank to withdraw money ( 100s and 50s bills, some ladies don’t like the bunch of 20s) and put it inside a boring book. But a few months ago I got a small 2.5K Bonus at my job, and it went up to the hobby... I don't know if I'm already a "sex addict" that prefers to use the euphemism of “hobbyist”. Of course, I mean I’m a responsible adult that takes care of the important stuff first, but this new hobby has taken precedence over all my others.
I have regulars, so I try to see a regular and 1 or 2 new girls in between, but sometimes I wait a week or two to see my fav girls.
But everyone is different, and if that works for you, great.
I just do the math in my head and know what I can afford. Pretty simple.
but that doesn't seem to do the trick, but it probably helps.
If you are married and the log could be discovered, make sure it is coded. Tell the meme that it is a fantasy football log or some such shit if she does find it.
To keep tabs on average monthly costs, etc. Also average days between dates. I have another rule where I try not to see the same provider in less than 30 days (i keep track of the dates I see each provider). Sometimes that is hard to do if a provider gives good service.
You are over thinking it. Simply ALLOW yourself x amount of dollars per week to spend on escorts and don't go above it...done deal.
Posted By: wrps07
To keep tabs on average monthly costs, etc. Also average days between dates. I have another rule where I try not to see the same provider in less than 30 days (i keep track of the dates I see each provider). Sometimes that is hard to do if a provider gives good service.
You are not a man and will never understand. You have no idea on the strong impulses (it is like a drug) and what we have to do to keep things in check. Writing things down/ie keeping a spreadsheet keeps things in check. It is a self reminder. Having internet on 24x7 makes it worse, especially with the smart phone technology.
Not ALL men have your same lack of self control though. That in itself proves you need a professional therapist, and not really advice from other addicts. I may not understand what is like to be a man, but I do understand self control. I have had my own issues with impulses, but they were easily mastered when something more important was brought to light. If writing things down helps you, then by all means do that.
Posted By: wrps07
You are not a man and will never understand. You have no idea on the strong impulses (it is like a drug) and what we have to do to keep things in check. Writing things down/ie keeping a spreadsheet keeps things in check. It is a self reminder. Having internet on 24x7 makes it worse, especially with the smart phone technology.
Well, I think I'm not alone. Most men have constant thoughts on sex. In the gym if you see a hottie, in the supermarket, in the office and even worse on the internet. I haven't missed my financial obligations because the hobby, just when I had extra money I decided to spend it on women. No remorse, but just the thought I might not be able to control myself.
I think it is the novelty of the hobby - just been on this like 9 months -- the thrill of meeting and having sex with beautiful women that in normal circumstances won’t be possible, it's so good, like a drug. I'm not a lonely guy; I have family and have had some flings. It’s just what Evolution has imprinted in my genes: need for variety.
I also think most of the frequent ‘contributors’ in this forum are constantly thinking on sex, not only on girls, but also what other men think, are doing or planning to do, and of course the fine sport of sarcasm, that sometimes is just plain cyberbullying.
Well, I'm now preparing to choose my next date, as my ATF extended her vacation ...
1) Watch my budget
2) Use the big head to think when the little rears up
Both sure fire solutions. It works.
Posted By: wrps07
For me I try to stick to a budget. Have automatic savings so money needed for investing and other things is invested before it gets to my checking account. I will admit that if the money stays in my checking account too long I will spend it on the hobby.
I have a rule, never hobby more than once every 5 days. On Sundays I take out a certain amount for the week. If I want to see a provider for multiple hours or someone out of the normal hourly rate, I will save up, by taking out on the next Sunday and not spending the current weekly amount that I took out.
I know in the past I would spent bonus, emergency funds, house down payment, income tax rebates, vacation pay, etc on the hobby like water going down the drain.
I don't think 'addiction' is an accurate term to use in the sex trade. Let's assume you have a normal sex drive ( for argument's sake, let's say sex three times a week). If you're paying for it every time, then three sessions a week will financially break most guys. Given the price range of girls I want to fuck, I'd go broke at that rate. But the problem here isn't an 'addiction' to sex--the sex drive in this example isn't unusual. Even fucking every day is pretty common for young couples. These people are not sex addicts.
If you're in the sex trade, then you have to accept the financial necessity of curbing your libido. Otherwise you're looking at financial ruin. --z
That simple. Yes, first you take care of business, then whatever is left over.... it is budgeted to the cause.!
jack off,jack off jack off...kill the urge...
It's just like many who keep track of their poker sessions. I am amazed how this truly appears to be an obsession for some. I scheduled an appointment last week.....provider was a no show. Didn't break out in hives. Tried to schedule one for Saturday....didn't hear back from the lady until Sunday afternoon. Didn't feel the need to contact 3 or 4 others to get my "fix" and didn't break out in hives. I'm hoping to schedule with that same gal for this Friday, but I don't think I'll break out in hives if it doesn't work out.
To each their own!
That is why I have a back up plan. Last week the wife was too tired. The civie on the side had something come up a work, then I called up a provider to get my fun in.
Other times if a provider is not available I will call one up for as a backup plan. Nice to see a provider I have never seen before.
I just don't spend more than I can afford.
That's where get in trouble...as Robin Williams said "God gave us two heads and enough blood for one."
That, and have other priorities.
budget, budget, budget.
have payroll deductions into a harder than usual to access, savings acct., have money deducted for retirement savings. Your house payment, utilities and food are first!!!!!
If you can't discipline yourself on the hobby regardless...... your F***ing yourself in the long run.
If I'm lucky, I'll be every 5 days, usually every other week, or in one case I waited over a month for an extended date, i just abstained....
Good luck out there, be safe.
Posted By: wrps07
For me I try to stick to a budget. Have automatic savings so money needed for investing and other things is invested before it gets to my checking account. I will admit that if the money stays in my checking account too long I will spend it on the hobby.
I have a rule, never hobby more than once every 5 days. On Sundays I take out a certain amount for the week. If I want to see a provider for multiple hours or someone out of the normal hourly rate, I will save up, by taking out on the next Sunday and not spending the current weekly amount that I took out.
I know in the past I would spent bonus, emergency funds, house down payment, income tax rebates, vacation pay, etc on the hobby like water going down the drain.
I don't pay for sex, but I have strong urges for other things that I pay for.
Quickens helps me keep track of my spending and maintain a budget.
I can create a budget to spend no more than $x on a pleasure of mine. Quicken keeps me updated on how much of the budget I've spent.
It's all about being aware of your finances and having self control.
Remember, it's just pussy.
Posted By: wrps07
For me I try to stick to a budget. Have automatic savings so money needed for investing and other things is invested before it gets to my checking account. I will admit that if the money stays in my checking account too long I will spend it on the hobby.
I have a rule, never hobby more than once every 5 days. On Sundays I take out a certain amount for the week. If I want to see a provider for multiple hours or someone out of the normal hourly rate, I will save up, by taking out on the next Sunday and not spending the current weekly amount that I took out.
I know in the past I would spent bonus, emergency funds, house down payment, income tax rebates, vacation pay, etc on the hobby like water going down the drain.
Almost everything you see and read is designed to get you to spend money. Ads ads ads everywhere.
Just work more. It is hard to spend if you're too tired or at work.
Works for all spending - at least the kind that takes time. Doesn't work for amazon.com or gambling.
