I wonder how the ladies transition from this profession to something else.  It must be somewhat difficult not only from a financial perspective but also from a lifestyle change.  

Any thoughts out there?

however, if you are simply here for extra money or to get from point A to point B, not that hard at all to walk away when your goal (s) are reached. As for the lifestyle change, mine did not change much, except for the obvious not having to make excuses to get away, constant travel, etc. I never lived beyond my means when I was a provider or before and after I was in the business.  

If you have no education or job skills, then sure, it's not going to be that easy to land a position that pays a substantial income for you to live on and support a family so I pity women in that position but more and more former providers are starting charities and houses to help such women who have no other options and feel trapped. A 4 year degree does not mean shit today, unless it is in something like Engineering or Health Sciences... Business and Marketing, you pretty much need a Masters as I have learned and acted on years ago. Even with that, it was still hard to get a salary I was comfortable enough with to stop providing.  

My prediction is that in the next 10 years, we are going to see more and more houses being used for women and children who truly want to get out of this business, but can't because of drugs, a stalker pimp, financial reasons and the list goes on.  

Those who are literally addicted to such a lifestyle have the hardest time breaking free and really see no reason to ever stop altogether, but a very small percentage of the women I have met would fall into that category. They are smart enough to realize that the older and uglier you get (yes, it happens to everyone) that the rates will decrease and more will have to be done to even get it. By that time, there is a lot of resentment towards men and the business, I would assume. The key is not to let that happen, which is why I would never suggest anyone come here out of desperation.

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If it would be compared to a jazz musician walking away from a life in music?

Or would it better be compared to a dealer walking away from a career in the casinos?

Works on her graduate degree. She is askng herself this samee question. She is wondering how she will get used to having less or more monogonous sex. She isn't worried about the money she s worried about the bordom.

I would think the lack of constant attention and requests for encounters would have a withdrawal effect that would be tough to adjust to.  

To joke that HTG will never quit posting!

Is most likely the easy dough... Which is not there to withdraw (from her account). Lol.

A lot easier than it is for a guy to quit.

How dare you suggest that this porn star turned hooker isn't working on her PhD.  I've seen a few gals with these degrees...and many more taking the necessary accredited classes to earn this prestigious diploma.

Who is trying to get out of the business.  She's young, stubborn, won't accept help from social services or from hooker rescue organizations (they exist) and doesn't have the self-discipline to save money.  Has no schooling past high school but wants to be a psychologist.  She's very bummed out about her position, but too stubborn to accept advice or help.
She was sort of raised in the business if you get my drift, and has no other marketable skills past food services, etc., which would piss her off with the very low pay.  She can make in an hour now what it would take a week at McD's.
Going to be a difficult transition for her.  She's looking for a sugar daddy, I think, and have already told her that I'm not that guy.

Another girl I know has a business degree and part way to her Masters.  She has a potential job offer in the mid $40s, which if she gets, she says that she'll quit providing since she'll be able to survive OK on her civvie pay, except for a couple guys who will go on freebie status.  (We'll see about that part.)  So the transition will be easier for her.

I think it all depends on the girl, obviously...
I have had two jobs that I make more money at. I missed the freedom of being able to do what I want when I want.  
Some girls do this to get from a - z..

For me, I just love new experiences. I always need excitement...

I have never been one to have a specific "look".. I go from Kevin James to Bruno Mars.. I honestly don't find many men that I meet to be gross or anything like some of you expect we do.. I don't like when a guy smokes or smells bad, but I try to leave out mints and always offer showers.. I just like when people are fun/funny, nice and have a passion to enjoy life.  

I have never been one to want to be tied down...

I honestly love this lifestyle.. Whenever I meet someone that sucks, I remember the best advice that I was ever given.. 60 minutes is nothing. You're already at 59. Luckily that rarely happens.. So, why would I want to quit something that I like??

Sensitive topic but yet a true observation.  

The lifestyle, the sex, the money, the love etc can be addicting.

Its a matter of choice, responsibility and the enjoying the journey, not anticipating the destination. While I find it all fun and pleasurable, I am aware that the ride should be short lived, unless I choose otherwise.

Angel.

considering so many hot girls escorting and it's less of a drama than dating,  why would a guy want to quit....?  

unless he found true love,  like our friend ADJ.
but even then,  hobby is hard to quit.

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As with any career the individual must have both a short term and long term plan.   Usually the more a career leans towards fast money the more likely short sighted workers are to be pulled into it.   Smart people always have an eye on the long term desires and how they plan on getting there.

I'm not telling who the f she is.

Maybe left hand?  

move on once she achieves her goal(s) of degree, bills paid, or whatever.

Many ladies have made the transition successfully. Yes, it can be done.

Great post, HG.

Coming into the business with a clear head, financial goals and some self control goes a long way for getting out too. I started out of desperation, but with the above. With the exception of having a little more fun and being more charitable with money, the majority is being paid against debt and savings. And, I will never quit my day job because I have my family's health insurance, my 401k and life insurance policy through my employer.

I can see how it's easy to get sucked in and carried away into this lifestyle. It's a powerful feeling when you have more cash sitting in front of you than you have ever seen all at once in your whole entire life. I think when my mom looks at it, sometimes she cries relief tears. And, it's too easy to spend when you're not swiping. It's easy to lose oneself in the feeling, especially when you come from nothing.

And, the men. Oh, the men. When I do remarry, he's going to have to be a poly-amorous freak with the sex drive of a jackelope because I am spoiled now. Not only the men themselves though, but the rituals, the self transformation and the feelings associated with seeing them. Packing the bag the night before, watching the clock all day at work, checking into the hotel, showering, getting dolled up, dressed up and transformed from my regular self into my hooker self. And then that feeling when he calls for the room number. There's an anticipation, the nervousness, the butterflies and the wetness between the thighs when I know he's in the elevator and I know what's going to come, but I don't! And, then he knocks. The hairs on my neck stand up and my heartrate becomes elevated as I rub my glossed lips together and run my fingers through my hair while walking to open the door. It's that right there. Right before the door opens. It's going to be hard to shake for me. I imagine the ones who have retired successfully have had to add some type of true excitement to their life to replace that feeling. Nothing beats it besides an O.

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I don't truly know if she was or wasn't pulling my chain. Does it matter? Why would she? Everything about her that I read, on her website, in her reviews, etc. was confirmed by what I saw around her house or in her actions. So I have no reason to be a cyniacl jerk and just automatically figure she is lying. She had nothing to gain. It was just a little recoup time conversation. Not even a conversation really. It was just a statement that was part of a bigger conversation.
It never ceases to amaze me how eager this group is to jump on every little thing and start attacking. I know that maybe I am not a "seasoned" as some of you. If your cynicism and mean little attitudes is what comes from years of hobbying then maybe I need to quit before I become a jerk like some of you seem to be.
I don't know. I don't want to jump to conclusions about you people but I have read a lot of hateful speach. It is a shame that so many people that are all benefitting from the same activities are all at each other's throats all of the time.

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To see nothing has changed...

Most girls only lie to protect their identity, so nothing wrong with that.  Lots of girls tell me they're working their way through school.  Are they telling the truth?  I have no idea and I don't really care. There are more important things to worry about.

That was an amazing description of what I bet I would miss IF I were a woman and was an escort!  LOL   I can't imagine the adreneline rush when meeting a guy for the first time just knowing that you're probably going to get pounded in a hot way from someone who is totally into it, or even with a regular client who you really like that turns you on and who you know will be bringing their 'A' game.  The whole fantasy thing for me would be the part I would miss the most....just sayin"

that never happened to me because it was a job not a lifestyle. Posting on TER was more of an addiction than sucking d(ck.  The anxiety I felt was wondering more about if the guy was going to kill me even though when I screened him, I was 99 percent sure he was who he said he was. I never got off on fkin married men... I got off with them, but not off of the notion in and of itself. I did not wake up every morning smiling because I was fkin so and so's husband that day lol.  

Even the compliments some are so addicted to, never affected me because it was not something I could not get in the real world if I needed that to make me feel secure. For others, the men here have been their only source of security and treat them better than any other man ever has. Many women come from broken homes, relationships, etc. and draw their security and happiness from this. I never understood it, but I do have empathy for such people to an extent.

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Suck a duck
Verb: Exclamation of angst, dismay, and/or frustration. Does NOT involve actual poultry.
"Mom! James just flushed your keys down the toliet!"  

"Oh, SUCK A DUCK!"
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Your statement might have some validity if she had anything to gain. She didn't.  
Maybe Barnum was famous for another quote.... , people can be real jerks!  
Once again you prove to me that you are just a mean spirited person. I don't know why and I don't care. It is your perogative to be that way. It is my perogative to not give a shit.

Exactly! Who cares? That was not my point. My point was that she was wondering if civvie life would be boring after having so much sex as a provider.