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If it's free, then it's WAY MORE than I can possibly afford!!!
The equation is not equal. You can't actually compare the sex portion of marriage against it's paid counterpart, and then somehow try to compare your financial burder from that marraige to escort costs. As human's we skew things mentally and I do not believe that a fair comparison would ever be made.
I've been happily married, unhappily married, had serious long term relationship, had a more casual dating with sex relationship, been single with no dating by choice, and then single with some professional friends.
Each of these situations are so radically different in their scope that to try to pull the sex component out of each to compare, I believe is ludicrous. I'm it's kinda fun to think and talk about, but it can't be taken seriously.
Then I think of all the guys I know (most of them) who have this attitude that "I don't have to pay for it" or "I'd never pay for it." and then I compare who their spouses are or girlfriends are, along with what the guy may say about his sex life, and I realize: "OK, I see your point, but NO ONE would EVER pay for the sex you get from your gal."
Providers, I believe, are more attractive, more sexual, more open minded about who they will spend their time, and more in tune with the man-ness of men, with compared to the female population in general. Unless I was uber-rich I could not spend intimate time with a non-professional woman who is of the caliber of the ones I have the pleasure of knowing right now.
I think the only way to compare MIGHT be to see what a 1-year exclusive rate might be with your ATF, with an agreement of her doing mundane work-a-day things with you as well. What might that run you? quarter million? that's what, $650 a day? half million? I don't know.
My happy marriage didn't cost ME that, and the sex was so good. And bareback with no worries. And not criminal. And not something I had to keep on the DL.
HH
I have such a great experience with providers, and that is over and above the typical reason a guy might visit one. Let me put it this way:
It's just goddamned refreshing to spend time with a woman who lets you be a man, understands and enjoys it, while she is fully a woman and is enjoying that too.
Is every experience like that? Of course not! That's just the way everything in life is though.
I happen to be able to have fun and a cool time with a gal that is 30 years younger than me. You have to do your hiomework an be selective, but there are gals that young that have their head on straight, along with a spectacular everything else.
That's not gonna happen in civie life.
I can also have a fantastic (actually a better) time with a gal my age. I find very few if any civies my age that are not 'closing up shop' so to speak. Providers that are in my age bracket are not at all that way. It's fantastic.
So I am enjoying myself and gaining even greater appreciation for the female of the the species than I already have.
You know, I don't disagree with your point of view, but I don't take it so negatively. That's a state of mind that one chooses. And you certainly don't have to hang up your ball to think that way either.
HH
When you marry as a teenager you don't realize and cannot know each other and that you both have not yet become who you are going to be.
Sometimes that other person can turnout to be someone with what's called a "personality disorder" by qualified professionals, which doesn't fully show itself for years to come.
HH
@wifefucker
Again...by my logic, you have to factor in "time spent"...you have to find the lady, spend money on your own presentation, wine and dine her (even as little as a picnic in the park takes time, which in my analogy costs money), etc., etc., I still feel that providers averaged out dollar/hour are cheaper than the "freebies"...not to mention the occasional nightmarish ones that go from a supposed great one night stand to Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction crazy.
You even mention yourself, "you do get points for patience" (time again...which equals money).
So, I stand by my original assesment.
-- Modified on 11/30/2011 12:28:44 PM
Sex for considerations are easy peasy - but when you want any kind of 'normal' relationship you will be in debt quicker than a jack rabbit fucking a bunny (!) Women generally want men to buy everything when it comes to 'romance'. However, if you want to just fuck then it will cost you I would think the same amount or less with providers depending on their considerations. I personally stay away from 'civilian sex' for obvious reasons (this is another topic completely..!) but when it comes to sex - it's NEVER free (unless it's a one night stand of course!). As I mentioned, women want to be 'woo'ed', romanced, spoiled and all the rest that you must do - as most women these days want - longevity, the build up of relationship etc in their romance department which requires time and LOTS of energy (ie. lots of dough!) Just my two cents!
Kisses,
Chloe