Just curious.

With all of the criticism, just and unjust that providers receive regarding their "appearance" and "appearance" vs. photographs has a provider ever freaked out on you and given you a dose of how she really feels about you?

Providers: have you ever done this?  Was assuaging your bruised vanity and ego worth it to let the truth fly?



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was naked and she was being truthful. This aint no party just a hobby.

Yeah,

A gal once got pissy with me for noting how late she was.

She said a guy like me couldn't be with a beautiful woman (unless I paid for it).

She added that if I wanted to see her again, the hourly rate would start the moment I made the call to her. Meaning: if I called at 3 for an 8 o'clock appointment, I would be in the hole for 5 hours even if she were right on time. Her point was that a loathsome "beggar" like me couldn't be a "chooser" about when a beautiful woman blessed me with her company.

Needless to say, I stopped being a regular.

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I enjoy men of all colors, shapes, sizes and ages, so as long as a man is kind and charismatic, I am happy to spend time with him. Truth be told..I'm a softie for chunky men, I love men who have a little something for me to hold onto!
--Sitara Devi

Honestly, I think I would rather cut my tongue out before I ever said such a thing to a man. I just can't imagine ever being that mean.

Except of course, on the discussion boards when IQ'less crybabies whine about provider's rates, or getting a CBJ etc. That is different :P

I sure hope you wrote a review of your experience and really let her have it!

I've never said anything negative about my clients' appearance, and I doubt I ever will.  Unless it's their fetish, lol.. degradation.

fat and ugly?

If you had hit her or something,I can understand her saying something so mean. If it were me and you'd hit me, you'd hear a string of cuss words coming out of my mouth that would make you blush. That and you'd get a lamp upside the head and a heel up your butthole.

Katie

the Boston Phoenix about nine years ago.  She was doing her incall through her apartment, and things seemed to be going pretty well until all of the sudden they weren't.  We were kissing, and kind of pulled away from each other to, I thought, do some more exploring, when she blurted out: "What the fuck am I doing." Then she kind of stared off at the ceiling and launched into a litany of self loathing, describing all of the bad things she's done and so forth.  During that, she looked at me and, well, included me in with the bad with what I thought was a rather unfair description. "And here I am with a blank, blank, blank, fuckhead with a blank, blank, blank." You get the picture.

She stopped suddenly and started making this strange humming sound while rocking back an forth.  I did what I could.  I held her for about three hours, wondering how it was going to end up, and had just about made up my mind to call someone when the roommate showed up.  She took one look and gave me a look that could freeze fire, so I started stepping and fetching about what had happened.  She looked at me again and said, "Oh, she does that."  WTF.

I console myself with the thought that only the crazy ones think I'm ugly, but am usually brought back to reality when small children spontaneously weep at my very presence.

Me think she needs glasses

All I saw was a Hot,Sexy,StudMuffin Cabana Boy *wink wink* and you know I don't say stuff just to build one's ego ........... I mean it !!

Miss you baby
xoxo CindySpice

Being in the wrong place at the wrong time is REALLY no fun, but it happens. It's difficult to do the right thing and I applaud you for not bailing.

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who know if they are fat and ugly ?

who cares

hit the lightswitch
ive never had an orgasm from lookng at a guy anyway

its the boffing thats important

however if u been partying all night and cant get ur weiner hard, i might get bitchy
mebbe

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If I don't have something nice to say.....I  don't say anything at all.

but I also never say anything I don't mean.

Have I talked to clients about diet or exercise? yes,but never in a derogatory/negative way.

More like a doctor,to give advice and offer support.
Hey been there done that,so I have many helpful tips to share.

but why would a provider "freak out" on you ???
was she drinking too much??(some are not happy drinkers)
was she on(or not on)meds?
Or drinking with meds(not good combo ) .......... or other ??
Or did you provoke her in any way ??

Since I never "freak out" on clients,that would never happen.

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no matter how "beautiful" she was I'd guess you just saw her "ugly" side. The real beauty is a person man or woman who can look past the surface in them and see their soul their Heart and the good in them. Their inner beauty.
Woman in this business need to be able to look deep into their Gentlemen and see their beautiful Soul. This is where you hear about that great "connection" made with the lady they see. Thus, we gain regular Gentlemen as our clients. Someone so vein and rude has no inner beauty.

and you know how to satisfy me, not just behind closed door, in more ways than I wanted. Thank you for the best dinner date last January. Just the way  you looked at me, I felt like my ego was jacked into  cloud-nine. Cindy, thank you again.

I can't agree more.


Your inner beauty works to make:
Attractive ladies gorgeous.
Gorgeous ladies become stunning.
Nasty ladies turn into ugly trolls.


Real beauty comes from within and you can't hide that fact with any amount of make up.

Shame on that provider.

Rebecca

None of the providers I"ve seen has said anything about my appearance.  If they ever did, in a mean way, I'd obviously never see them again, and I'd also put that in their review.

I just want to know if the remark was made upon her arrival...  Had she picked up the donation?   Because, the next thing I would have said is "Don't bother staying."  I can get abuse for free and many great ladies enjoy my company.
I appreciate my lady friends & respect them as they do me (I hope).    
skb

The words I hear most often from ladies in the years I've been doing this are that I am a real gentleman; courteous, respectful, looking to give. Not bragging, but I really am 'one of the nice, considerate guys'.

I was visiting an incall at a hotel of a traveling lady. I went up to the floor she was on. It was one of those hotels with many right angle turn hallways. As I was getting closer to the room, nosey house-keeping was right around the corner from her little side hallway. They asked if they could help me. (The lady I was seeing had been there a couple days already, so I don't know if they were suspicious.) I said, "No." and went to her room. I knocked softly since I didn't want nosey house-keeping looking around the corner.  No answer. Now, in all my years I have always had the door answered quickly, especially since via the two-call system they had just spoken with me. I could hear the tv on rather loud in the room. I knocked a little louder again. No answer. I was beginning to think I had the wrong room. (Worst nightmare.) And I could hear nosey house-keeping getting closer. So I knocked one more time louder and longer. Well, the door swings open, there is the lady I am to see, tv blasting, and she says in a rather irritated voice, "Were you knocking for a while???"  I was taken aback. As she ushered me in I tried to tell her I didn't want to be too conspicuos with housekeeping around the corner. Everything went downhill from there. I am pretty well-known on TER for years and she and I had exchanged PM's for a month prior to this day. She became an interegator, questioning everything I said. Very combative. Again, I am the mild-mannered Clark Kent type. She went so far as to accuse me of not being the one to write her the PM's and emails. ??????  I tried to salvage the time by offering to give her a very nice donation even though I knew we wouldn't be doing anything. She didn't want it but calmed down a little and we proceeded to talk for a while about travels etc. If the last 15 minutes had been the first, and she hadn't answered the door with a chip on her shoulder, we would have had a nice time. As it was, she thought it was her duty to lecture me on things she knew nothing about, and which I am very familiar with, as a way to put me down. (Classic European Art and sculptures.) I should have taken heed of a few of her reviews which said she could be this way. So I left feeling 'slimed'. It is the only time I ever thought I met someone unbalanced. Looking back I am amazed I remained so composed. If I had tried to defend myself, who knows what she would have done.

So, I think getting called 'fat' would have been preferable to a verbal 'prostate exam'! LOL.

because as FAT and as UGLY as I am, I REALLY and TRULY know, deep in my heart that Cindy was in love with ME (at least for a couple of hours)


OK, OK, I apologize for the shameless outburst, but I couldn’t help myself.

and how they act in person.

guys are always surprised at how nice i am in person. i ask them why would you call me if you thought i was a bitch ? LOL

im a bitch online cuz it keeps the jerks away, plain and simple.

No need to get jealous, enough of me to spread my love around.

I will admit,that evening I was in love with you *wink wink*
All I saw was a wonderful,caring,loving,beautiful(not ugly)FUN(not fat)man........or do you prefer boy ?
yes I really did have a great time with you and you know it.

Can a girl have a few(or more)ATF's ???
So many great guys, each one special to me in their own unique way.
Miss you too,( just didn't have time for another post last night)
xoxo CindySpice

Katie,

I'm not criticizing, of course, but I'm noting this trend of things upsetting you and then someone gets your heel in his butthole...

Is this some secret fantasy of yours?  

It frankly sounds Freudian.

At least now, if things ever get rowdy in a bar, I know what I'm going to say: "Back off, dude. If you keep that up, I'm going to have to smash this bottle on your head, and then call Katie to come over and put her heel in your butthole!" :->

Oh the memories. Such a beautiful romantic dinner with a beautiful romantic guy.
Wasn't trying to jack your ego,just treating you like you deserve to be treated.
Always happy to welcome you to cloud nine

The only time I was in a bar fight (not my fault, by the way- they were trying to rob us) there was no heel in holes involved. I was actually in flip flops. Doh!

Katie

But, I have heard of this happening to a handfull of girls. Not always by the men.

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Yes,
My ATF told me I was developing a gut and do something about it.
She was right!  LOL

I decided to break off a professional relationship with a provider I had seen for a while. Fast forward to the next day-

She messaged me to tell me what a loser she thought I was, and that I had to pay ladies because I couldn't get any on my own. She kept sending me mocking text messages about how much money I had spent on seeing her, and how all I was good for was money.

She threw a dark secret of mine in my face (I suffered from a type of abuse that I share with no one), and told me that because of that, I wasn't a real man.

She knew the type of person I was (a bit hot headed when pressed), and that last bit sent me right over the edge.

You need to learn to smile, and quietly walk away. It's an art form, and very satisfying.

fire discipline, and it may keep you alive.

"Lex, I know we just met and all, but that was the best three minutes of sex I've ever had. I think I might be in love with you."

OK, well, it's not exactly "criticism", but it can be awkward nonetheless.