Real girl (5'8, 160lbs, 36DD, pretty, intelligent) trying to make ends meet by setting up a GFE with a man who has previous experience with similar situation. We'd be meeting on a weekly basis of unknown length of time and he's offered $1000/month. Is that low? I question it because he likes to tie girls up and he told me he's visited doms before, leading  me to think it's going to get real kinky. Having zero experience in this sort of arrangement, what are the standard financial arrangements for this sort of thing? I'm just trying to set a fair price.

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considering it's BDSM appointments, and there is no determined length of time...What if all of the appointments were like 4 hours long??

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he justs wants to use and abuse you..make your ends meet somewhere else..your health and well being are worth a lot more than a thousand..

She has some great experience in story telling  LOL

But you'll have to work on the embellishment factor in your story.  Your bud likes to "tie up" girls and sees Dommes.  Kind of bizarre as that is just backwards given YOUR story.

And as long as he likes his gals on the "athletic" side...you'll be fine.  But if you're fudging on the weight issue...might be closer to BBW.

Maybe you can get him to prepay for two years worth...that would be $ 24,000.  Give that a shot first!

I don't do SD type deals any other way, so be warned. If you allow him to pay you weekly, you never know if that's going to suddenly stop. For a g a month, he would only get an hour at a time each week, but by my normal rate that saves him a lot actually.

Do what you feel comfortable with, but don't let him pay you weekly. If you do it that way, then tell him the fee is more...end of story. If he wants an "arrangement" and not an escort pay as you go, he has to pay upfront.

Nor mine...but it is still fun

And generally less costly than a GFE

Re: Nor mine...but it is still fun

I hope he doesn't tie you up and run away.

When I was a kid, we used to ring people's door bells and run way.  Best sport ever

but alas, I stick around and see if they can get out of the predicament.

But they can't...and then the real fun begins!

But in all seriousness, not a game to play if the participants aren't on the same page.

I used to fill paper bags with dog shit, put them on a random doorstep. Then I would cover it with lighter fluid, set it on fire, and ring the doorbell then run away.
I would hide in a nearby bush and try not to laugh when the average asshole tried to stomp the fire out.

You won't be seeing London's buddy sercapsunkompus any time soon then.

and serpikompricorus hasn't been around.

I think he may have contacted Dr. Who to try and learn how to properly regenerate.

To me that sounds low, but I've heard stories of girls doing far more for much less in the sugar world. It really boils down to what you are comfortable with. Since you are coming here asking it tells me you are not comfortable in the arrangement. If you're trying to make ends meet why not become an escort? You can do one dinner date a week, and almost make what he is offering for the whole month. He should at least be covering your bills and offering up a few shopping trips & dinners.

Does he know how to tie up a submissive properly? The BDSM board on this site has some dominants and submissives who can advise you on how to check this person out and make sure he knows what he is doing and won't leave you all marked up from badly placed ropes. Some say to do it in a supervised dungeon first. Anyway, somehow $1K monthly seems a little low if the hours are not mentioned.

Hours need to be defined.  And paid up front.  Supervision at first.  No Marks.  Safe word.   You are taking the greater risk here.  He clearly wants more than GTE...  
if I were you, I'd pass.  If you decide to proceed, baby steps & nothing that makes you unsafe.  
H

1.  Anything you agree to has to be paid upfront, in advance.

2.  You need to establish guidelines and boundaries, from safe words to rules during session, to time of session.

3.  Only you can define whether the rate is good for you.  That's $250/week.  How much time are you willing to put in to get $250 every week?  Only you can define that.

Hi CPA,

... and travel back to 1908 to watch the Cubbies win the World Series!! Oh yeah, i need to bring along Van Morrison so he can sing Brown ( Blue) Eyed Girl as I'm w/ her behind the stadium ( West Side Grounds), making love in the green grass!! :oD

Bottom line is if you feel comfortable with him and the money. Talk about it first and set ground rules (no BDSM if you don't want to do it)  He is getting a good deal so he should expect some limits.
Have you been with him before, if not you should spend some time with him before setting an arrangement.
Finally be prepared for the worst (feelings on either part, expectations not being met, one gets tired of the arrangement)

While you may need the money based on my experience in a similar situation there are alot of other things that come up that make it good or bad.

Are you in Raleigh? i'm looking to replace my current arrangement