: TER General Board Discussion : No there is ZERO way to protect yourself except for one

mrposition 10 Reviews 2253 reads

posted 6 years ago

1 / 20

...so a few local providers are offering discounts for future hangs for down payments now..i trust most of them..but wondering how the you guys feel about that...are there touring providers offering the same?..i dont want to get screwed financially...but still want to get screwed physically...what say you?...any way to protect cash deposits in lieu of liquid deposits???

impposter 49 Reviews 148 reads

posted 6 years ago

2 / 20

Re: Virus Retainers

Posted By: mrposition

...so a few local providers are offering discounts for future hangs for down payments now..i trust most of them..but wondering how the you guys feel about that...are there touring providers offering the same?..i dont want to get screwed financially...but still want to get screwed physically...what say you?...any way to protect cash deposits in lieu of liquid deposits???

Set up an escrow account.
Let Provider borrow (her CC; her bank) against the escrow.
When things resume, and commitments are fulfilled, the escrow is released and she pays off the loans.

GaGambler 141 reads

posted 6 years ago

3 / 20

No there is ZERO way to protect yourself except for one

and that of course is NOT to do it. If you do choose to send a favorite provider a few (or more than a few) bucks, here is my advice. Do NOT send it as a down payment or a pre payment on a future date, or at least don't do so mentally, consider it a gift, if she ever makes good on it, consider it "found money" but don't do it expecting her to make good on it some day, do it out of the goodness of your heart, you are much less likely to end up disappointed that way.

Here is the problem with expecting repayment, by the time this is over she is most likely going to still be in a very deep hole and hardly in a position to be repaying debts by giving out free sessions, so what's going to happen is that she is going to avoid your calls, put off your sessions, because she knows she owes you and you will end up being out both the money AND whatever relationship you previously had with her.

If you want to help, by all means help, but do so WITHOUT expecting repayment if you truly value your relationship with her/them.

Robertini 4 Reviews 106 reads

posted 6 years ago

4 / 20

Don't (eom)

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AlexandraMilw See my TER Reviews 113 reads

posted 6 years ago

5 / 20

Re: Virus Retainers

Huh. Really? That is a good way to do things actually. Learn something new

LostSon 43 Reviews 153 reads

posted 6 years ago

6 / 20

Re: No there is ZERO way to protect yourself except for one

Posted By: GaGambler

Re: No there is ZERO way to protect yourself except for one
and that of course is NOT to do it. If you do choose to send a favorite provider a few (or more than a few) bucks, here is my advice. Do NOT send it as a down payment or a pre payment on a future date, or at least don't do so mentally, consider it a gift, if she ever makes good on it, consider it "found money" but don't do it expecting her to make good on it some day, do it out of the goodness of your heart, you are much less likely to end up disappointed that way.

Here is the problem with expecting repayment, by the time this is over she is most likely going to still be in a very deep hole and hardly in a position to be repaying debts by giving out free sessions, so what's going to happen is that she is going to avoid your calls, put off your sessions, because she knows she owes you and you will end up being out both the money AND whatever relationship you previously had with her.

If you want to help, by all means help, but do so WITHOUT expecting repayment if you truly value your relationship with her/them.

This is as accurate as it gets... especially the part about her being in the hole and needing to make every session shes doing count. situation sucks but its what were in.

Lost

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 98 reads

posted 6 years ago

7 / 20

I would like to be there . . . .

while you explain to the escrow officer that you want an escrow so she doesn't fuck you before she fucks you. Lol

trex44 9 Reviews 121 reads

posted 6 years ago

8 / 20

As GaG (and Ben Franklin) said...

...Never a Borrower nor a Lender Be!

So don't do it, unless you consider it a gift with no expectations.

Buena suerte!

impposter 49 Reviews 126 reads

posted 6 years ago

9 / 20

Re: I would like to be there . . . .

Posted By: coeur-de-lion

Re: I would like to be there . . . .
while you explain to the escrow officer that you want an escrow so she doesn't fuck you before she fucks you. Lol

Invite the escrow officer to be in on the deal. Or, set up the account for "web design services" or "house cleaning services." What are some of your ideas?

jj1270 146 Reviews 153 reads

posted 6 years ago

10 / 20

Re: No there is ZERO way to protect yourself except for one

That's is the best advice you'll ever get. If you feel sorry and want to help her do it for that reason and kiss the money good bye. This has happened to me several times with the same end result. They befriend you and make you feel like you're their "special friend" that they confide in. They tell you a hard luck story and make you feel guilty for not helping them. You give them what they need thinking that she's so hot, love spending time with her, and this is a good way to secure that. Then they ghost you. I even had one chick respond and tell me she doesn't do freebies. It was a loan, not asking for anything free.

Posted By: GaGambler

Re: No there is ZERO way to protect yourself except for one
and that of course is NOT to do it. If you do choose to send a favorite provider a few (or more than a few) bucks, here is my advice. Do NOT send it as a down payment or a pre payment on a future date, or at least don't do so mentally, consider it a gift, if she ever makes good on it, consider it "found money" but don't do it expecting her to make good on it some day, do it out of the goodness of your heart, you are much less likely to end up disappointed that way.

Here is the problem with expecting repayment, by the time this is over she is most likely going to still be in a very deep hole and hardly in a position to be repaying debts by giving out free sessions, so what's going to happen is that she is going to avoid your calls, put off your sessions, because she knows she owes you and you will end up being out both the money AND whatever relationship you previously had with her.

If you want to help, by all means help, but do so WITHOUT expecting repayment if you truly value your relationship with her/them.

lester_prairie 12 Reviews 125 reads

posted 6 years ago

11 / 20

It's in their DNA to ghost

I've preached against advances, yet on occasion I've done it. About 4 out of 5 times they ghost. The sad cases are when I was setting up some future meets with sugar babes who ended up being homeless. Once they get your number they are always begging for a handout.

ERAWatts 21 Reviews 129 reads

posted 6 years ago

12 / 20

Re: No there is ZERO way to protect yourself except for one

Agree with GG. Expecting a "future date" in the fuzzy future sets up disappointment for both parties. If you are in the position to help, just help without expecting repayment in any form. Some providers can weather this mess financially but others are really hurting, so every little bit helps.

inicky46 61 Reviews 127 reads

posted 6 years ago

13 / 20

I only gave an advance once and it worked out.

But the difference was she was a good friend of some very good friends and was slated to attend a M&G with us. She needed the money to fix her car, so I sent it to her, knowing she was highly unlikely to piss of good friends and get shamed at (or have to miss) the M&G. If none of this was the case I would not have done it. She was as good as her word. But that was six or seven years ago and I haven't done it since (or before).

RussellBitterman 109 reads

posted 6 years ago

14 / 20

An engagement ring

Is a retainer as well. Try it and see how much ‘future’ sex it will get you. Consider that before you send a ‘deposit’ on a still illegal service, and then try to enforce that contract.

Oldtimemonger 138 reads

posted 6 years ago

15 / 20

Re: It's in their DNA to ghost

Absolutely!! I have had guys tell me that even when they got "makeup" sessions the girls were lousy in presentation and in the sack.

If a hooker knows she is not going to make money sucking cock her transmitters turn off in her brain.

The guys who were ghosted (most of the saps who are stupid enough to pay ahead) were actually better off than the guys who got lackluster makeup sessions.

squagga 20 Reviews 109 reads

posted 6 years ago

16 / 20

I've got a bridge to sell you, partner.

Posted By: mrposition

...so a few local providers are offering discounts for future hangs for down payments now..i trust most of them..but wondering how the you guys feel about that...are there touring providers offering the same?..i dont want to get screwed financially...but still want to get screwed physically...what say you?...any way to protect cash deposits in lieu of liquid deposits???

These women will never meet you. You will never hear from them again. This is a scam. Never send a girl money before meeting her, ever. In the overwhelming majority of these cases, the girl will vanish, you will never meet her, and you will never get your money back. And by the way, to anyone who suggests offering it as a loan and charging the woman interest...uh, yeah...since this is all ILLEGAL in the United States (if that is where you reside), how exactly are you going to enforce this? That this is a real loan and must be paid back?

mrfisher 115 Reviews 117 reads

posted 6 years ago

17 / 20

Ahem...

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