too long to go into.

But I decided to just leave and told her it was not working. I wanted to grab the envelope on my way out that had 4 Benjamin in it.

Thought better of it, besides who wants bubba chasing me down the parking lot with his 9. lmao

and this includes several decades of experience on several continents at all "strata" of the game.

If you are flexible, open, curious, positive, and willing to make the best of things; if you do not have a fragile ego; if you are not easily put off your stride, these things need not happen.

This even includes a delightful, pretty and petite little streetstroller called Michelle whom I met whilst on shoreleave in Marsielles.

First, she tried to set me up for a couple of toughs from the wharves to roll me. That did not go well for them.

Then she presented her ballisong knife to me. Which I removed from her pretty little wrist at the expense of long thin scar I carry to this day.

The preliminaries out of the way, and I remaining characteristically unphased, Michelle decided that making me happy was the best choice.

She made me very very happy. All night and a good bit of the next day in fact '

The moral of the story is that you never can tell when you might be passing up a good thing by reacting to a relatively minor provocation.....

Trapped at an incall....at her place, things were going along swimmingly......

....until after about the third glass of wine she got indignant and testy about the relationship between "gents" and providers....things only got worse, until I made sure she got to bed (without me, ahem) and FINALLY got a taxi home....after a four hour wait....

When I opened apartment door to leave, she appeared at the top of the stairs with a gun....

I check the next morning for bullet holes....

had a girl come with two guys in the car. She was not at all what was advertised (way before I found TER) She tried to play the sympathy card first, saying she needed to take the money out to the car. Told her no chance, as she advertised no driver. Told her to leave. After that, she got tough and said she would call her "friends" in to get the money. I told her to get out, and told her she and her friends would have to go through my friends, mr smith and wesson. They did not attempt anything after that

OMG! I think I hear my husband! He wasn't supposed to be paroled until tomorrow! Quick, out the window!

-tessen

We got about 20 min. in, and I knew I could not do 3 hours with this person...we were just on completely different pages.

I, of course, had all kinds of concerns about damaged ego turning violent and/or outing me to management at my hotel...thankfully that did not happen.

I gave him his deposit back and explained that the chemistry just wasn't there...that the lack of chemistry is not any fault of either of us, and that I wanted him to spend his *hard earned* money on someone that was going to be everything he wanted and more, and truly appreciate what he had to offer.  His initial reaction was to try and start over...  He wanted to hit a reset button, but I knew that wasn't going to get it.  After he left, he called to thank me and wanted to send a gift or money to me for my time, which was very thoughtful, but not necessary.  I was glad he called me back though, as it made me feel better about sending him away.  I was not happy about "rejecting" someone, as that goes against why I am in this business.

These types of situations are just one more thing that factors into screening for me...  I don't meet with (obviously) arrogant, ego monsters because of the possibility of this scenario coming up at any time.  Things could go seriously wrong seriously fast with an ego-maniac...especially if he has any underlying issues with women (as many of those types do...).

Now there have been other situations...when I first started doing outcall through an agency where I had to figure out how to gracefully exit, but that was much easier to figure out...  As you stated Lauren, hosting at your location, then getting someone to leave is much trickier...

xoM

I had this happen once in Brazil. A provider showed up at my hotel room talking on the phone in Portuguese(which I only speak minimally), after three or four minutes she is off the phone and kind of apologizes about the call.
We proceed to chat a little during which time she takes the donation off of the desk and counts it. We had agreed on 3 hours so I wasn't in a hurry at all. We start to get comfortable and we end up going at it she was very business like the entire time. Her phone rings and she goes to answer it not once but 4 times. I voiced my displeasure, and she stated it was her mother. I don't know much Portuguese, I do know that she wasn't talking about what she was talking about with her mother. Anyway I found enough time between calls to finish cup 1 and had about an half left, when she takes another call and talks for about 15 minutes. When she got off the phone I told her to just leave,not in a bad way at all. She starts to get all lovey dovey and wouldn't leave. At this point I started to get my temper up and she still wouldn't leave. At one point I took her purse and threw it in the hall way she still wouldn't leave. it was like she was in a hurry to leave when she got the to the room, then for some reason wouldn't fricken leave no matter what I did. Well as I stated earlier I know minimal Portuguese so toward the end in a heated verbal volley I called her a fu..ing Puta(look it up). Talk about change of demeanor, when what I said registered with her I felt like the next minutes would be my last, she came absolutely unglued. Not physically, but verbally. She was going about 2000 words a minute. I heard in between all the other words gun, die, big man come to see you, and a bunch of other stuff. Then like a light switch went off she without another word turned and left picking up her purse on the way never looking back.
Needless to say I didnt sleep that well that night.

The lady arrived late, it was not the lady that was in the photos and she was drunk, unattractive, and rude.  I asked her to leave immediately and she threatened to make a scene if I didn't give her $200 for the "driver and her" for making the trip for nothing.

Extortion, blackmail, basically bad situation.

I gave her the money and she left.  At the time I didn't think I had a choice.  When I think back to it I think that I should have told her that I would call the police if she didn't leave.  I was younger, stupid, and inexperienced in those years.

I just tell her ...

... that the voices in my head are telling me to go home and play in my chemistry lab.

Works every time.

I think if I said something like, "Go ahead, bring your friends in, I'm not afraid to go back to prison", that might do the trick.

Seriously, if it ever happened, I'm pretty sure I would just leave, and forfeit the money. It's not that important. I'm almost 59 years old, and I weigh 160 lbs. A few hundred bucks just isn't worth having a couple of apes kick the shit out of me.

Once a provider told me she had a solution for such situations when upon the hobbyist arrival she knew she did not want to go thru - she would bring her finger to her lips and make a "hush" sign - then grab paper/pen and write a note:  "Your a nice guy and I don't want you to get in trouble - I was arrested earlier today and the police have bugged this room and are waiting to come in once you pay me and we start sex - if you want to avoid that leave know and just say loudly that you are sorry you are in the wrong room"

She said she had only used the trick twice, but that it worked very well.