I have a zero tolerance policy for people who waste my time.

I think it’s rude to reach out without providing any information I require when contacting me. As a professional provider who has spent lots of time, and money into building a brand/business the least you can do is read the content before emailing. If you read the providers fantasy reviews, and website before ever contacting them that’s an excellent way to see if you may have chemistry. I do reply to all my emails personally because I am 100% independent. I have $100 unblocking fee for those who continue to contact me & don’t respectfully read my entire website. I truly believe you never get a second chance to make a good first impression.  

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Mental illness, bots, extremely shy, trolls, etc. I think we tend to think everyone who ever contacts us, be it in the RW or this one, is a person probably generally well adjusted. Can you even fathom the number of anti-social men with little to no interpersonal skills that the addiction and overuse of smart phones and computers has created? It's a massive problem so the reasons for "hi" or "u avail 2nite?", to me personally, are numerous and sadly, quite understandable.  
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Personally, I would never respond to just a "hi" from a total stranger but that is me. You see fit how to handle these things in your own way.

And I’ll tell you why. I Wanna make sure she’s still alive.
I’ll see old reviews or profiles on sites that haven’t been updated in months or sometimes in years. And if she’s even still in my area..She caught my eye.. but is she still around??? Who knows  
So instead of me going through this whole long intro about me and what I’m looking for.., I’ll send out a flair. Hence the “Hola”. If she answers with the “Hi” back , then I’ll spill my guts  
See… does that help??

They change is up a bit:

 Quick question...

 
Remember me?

 
Our date...

 
Been a while...

 
And so on ad nauseam.   They are always spam because no one that I give a fig about would ever title an email or even a text that way.  They go right to trash without a moment's hesitation.

 
My guess is that a lot of people are susceptible to this, and as the old saw goes, if only one in 10,000 grab the bait, it was worth it.

Not something I do. Why as a potential client I reach out nicely and don’t get a response at all. Just the way shit is I guess 😝

Venting your frustration?  No wrong answer here.  But I don't think you'll ever get to the bottom of it.  Just decide you are going to reply asking details or ignore.

I also accept text messages and frequently experience the same thing via text. “Hi”, “hey”, or “what’s up” are all popular introductions. Responding to same may be followed with a “how are you?”, then maybe 1-2 more mundane pleasantries before the conversation dies. Once in a while these exchanges include a question about my services that is answered on my site, in which case I send the link and that’s the end of the exchange. It’s rare to never that the “hi guy” turns into an actual appointment.

Just got a text message saying "Are you working today?" Even as an agency we get those kinds of text messages all of the time. No introduction at all. So all of the Hi, Hello, are you available bullshit just gets ignored and deleted. Even after 18 years we still get a whole new generation of time wasters who could never in a million years get screened. The more things change, the more they remain the same. N-E-X-T!

Tell if it's an introduction, or testing to see if someone will respond. However someone who have done their research and see that you're  an established provider should never make such a lackluster  introduction.

The poorly worded emails that you get and end up responding to, in grand scheme of things, cancel out the properly worded ones that we send and never hear back from the provider.  Go ahead and keep responding in order to keep the balance in the Universe intact.  The Universe loves balance.  

 
This is an actual email I sent.. Personal info is redacted.  Never heard back from this person.. Great reviews on TER BTW..  

 
Hi  xxxxxxxxxx-

My name is xxxxx.. I am a 43 yr old gentleman of East Indian descent from Northern Va. My TER ID is SinCitySinner. I came across your profile on TER and would love to see you.  

 
However, Annapolis is a bit of a hike for me.. I wanted to ask you if you ever venture down south to Tysons Corner or Frederick MD.  

 
You can reach me at 202-xxx-xxxx  Also feel free to drop a line on TER PM.. This way, you can be assured I am who I say I am.  

 
Sincerely,  
xxxxxx

 
OK Jokes and sarcasm aside, I don't see value in responding to low value emails.  But i do expect that reliable providers with good reviews would take time to responding to well put together emails.  But hey.. Run your shop as you please..

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Even in a professional environment like work, I ignore anyone that just sends a "hello" or "hi" or any of that shit. Send your fucking traffic.

I see it as disrespectful, laziness. What, you can't even form a whole sentence? What a waste of time.

I think the largest message this is sending is lack of commitment. There are many many reasons why. But in all likelihood, someone who sends a basic simple minded message like "hi" is almost certainly not committed. They probably have some level of interst, but have not really put thought into it. So, when you write them back, they may actually first start thinking about it. It's you who triggers a step that for other guys is a natural step they take before sending you a message.  

 
There are a ton of guys who look at ads and take this step without sending a message to the provider. And many of them come to the same conclusion as the person who sent you a simple zero thought message. While you heard from Simple Joe, there are thousands of men who gave a lot of (or some) thought to booking you, but in the end never even sent you a message, likely for many of the same reasons as the Simple Joes who never wrote you again even though they did initiate contact.

 
Heck, I was that guy for awhile. I looked at ads for years and never tried booking. I had various reasons at various times. One of the biggest was being scared. While my first message was more complex than "hi", it was also much more simple than messages I send these days. It was probably one sentence, something like, "Hi, I saw your ad on XXX and I'm interested." I was scared, I had zero experience booking, there was no instruction manual, I was not on a forum that provided some guidence, and I wasn't even sure if I was fully committed.  

 
My hit rate when I started was less than 1/2 of the providers I wrote would respond. I'm guessing because my messages were so simple. Over time, I got more complex with my messages. My hit rate now is probably 85%-90%. I have learned how to approach a provider. But to expect a noob to be crafty is a lot. And, to expect every noob, or even half of them, to know what to do next or follow through when you respond to their simple messages, is probably expecting a lot of them. I will say it does help if you make this clear in your ad and provide guidence. In those cases, you can at least fall back on the fact that the joker didn't even take the time to read your ad.

I pretty much answer every email and text personally or via auto-responder (shortcuts on iOS are a game-changer). However, after a while, I definitely streamlined things a bit and created template messages for common inquiries, etc that I either keep in my drafts (emails) or notes (texts). And if someone asks something specific, I can tailor my response to fit the context. It's been a time-saver!

When it comes to texts like “hi,” I’ve learned to be blunt but still polite. I’ll respond with something like, “Hi! Thanks for reaching out. Unfortunately, I can't do much with just 'hi,' so to make this easier for both of us, could you provide the following details: your first name, preferred city of meeting, date of meeting, time of meeting, duration of meeting, incall or outcall.” Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t, but when it does, I've ended up meeting some great clients.

It’s definitely about finding that balance—when to engage and when to walk away. And hey, some of those “hi” texts have led to some interesting and long-term connections!

If I had to guess, I’d say that a lot of these are kinda socially inept guys who are not good at conversation, and this may be their first foray into the sex business. Maybe they’re just testing the waters and not actually looking to book an appointment yet, but they’re in the “thinking about it” stage. They are probably unsure exactly how to get to the awkward  topic of sex for money—do you get right to the point? But that seems so direct… do you beat around the bush and hope that she knows why you contacted her and will lead the conversation? Maybe they are a little intimidated with what they are considering going through, and think it would be a little easier if they go slow, build a little rapport with a warm woman who will “hold their hand.”

 Email lends itself to longer messages, but I can see for texting, maybe they are looking for more of an initial back and forth.  So the first thing you say when greeting someone is often “hi [name]”. Followed by a hello back. And then maybe a little more back and forth about who each person is, what they’re looking for. Maybe it seems too blunt or impolite for them to just say it all in the first message?

I’m not defending this type of interaction, just guessing what is going on in their thought process. I agree they are going to have a low response rate, and rarely if ever successfully meet up with a provider with this approach. They probably don’t realize how busy you are and how this comes off as a huge waste of time. I imagine after not getting responses from this, a lot of them DO change their approach and will start including more info in their first message. Do you get any responses to the “How may I help you?” I am curious if you do a little more back-and-forth if you will eventually get to what they are wanting and an appointment.  Or maybe the conversation drops off and they quit responding?