Clients who are high-rise challenged should not book a provider expecting to be cured.  Carol, I don't doubt that you try your best to make a gentleman enjoy his time so don't worry about it.

I for one work hard for my money and tend to go for the best value (not often a wise move) When a provider just doesn't do it for me, i don't expect to be reimbursed.  It's just another bad choice and more bad luck.  I move on and not use her again.  As far as advertising goes, it's your time that a client is paying for- what happens in that time cater to expectations. Your reviews show that you provide what is expected from an average hobbiest.  

You're doing fine so don't feel guilty about it.  You may be a goddess but you don't have the power that our fine drug makers have.  

and I'm speaking as a hobbyist..  You were paid for your time with the gentlemen, if he is unable to perform, that is his issue and not yours.  You upheld your part of the agreement but he didn't, so you have no obligations to give him a freebie the next time.  By giving a free session, you are forfeiting the opportunity to make a living by spending it with someone who isn't paying.  If you really feel bad, just give the gentlement a little discount the next session but not a completely free session.  I'm sure the gentlement would understand.  *shrug*  I guess you are just a nice person.  It's good to see that.  Thank you!  

I think it's very sweet of you to feel that way, but as others have said, you're being compensated for you time and some erotic companionship.  There are no guarantees as to what will happen.  If you've upheld your part of the bargain (and it sounds like you do) then it really is "just one of those things."  While the client may be disappointed, he can't blame you, nor should you feel badly either.

While it's true that a woman's sexuality, beauty, skill and chemistry are what arouses a man, the inverse is not true.  In other words the lack of arousal doesn't mean there is some deficiency on your part.

There are a lot of factors that can affect a man's ability to perform.  A while back, I posted a list of things on the LA Board that I'd found to cause problems, and others added some as well.   For example, I've been taking cold medication for two weeks now, and it has totally killed my sex drive. Stress at work or concern over finances can do the same thing, even when that stress may be what brought the client to your door in the first place- the list goes on and on.

If this client returns, a little extra time added to the next session would be a nice gesture that would surely be appreciated, but another session gratis would be too generous.  While it's nice to hear that it's not "just about the money" with you, it's also not fair that you be penalized for something beyond your control.  Having said that, I hope as you get more experienced in this business, you always stay as caring as you are today.  It's what will bring clients back to you for years to come.  

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I agree with the others....

It would be a very sweet gesture and would be greatly appreciated. At the same time it is totally unnecessary as you have fulfilled your commitment of providing companionship for that period of time (remember that's all you were offering).  

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I have had a couple guys actually blame me for the problem.  They have gotten angry and tried to make me feel like it should be free or that they should get a rain check.  They would storm around the room and say things that dropped hints that it should be free.  The first time it happened to me I started to cry because I thought I wasn't going to get paid.  I think his plan was not to pay me, but I cried and said it wasn't my fault so he gave in and paid me.

Now I just ignore the problem and keep playing.  If he says anything that suggests it is my fault I tell him I am not a miracle worker and I ignore anything he says that suggests it is my fault.  Usually they learn to shut up and enjoy what they get.

I have also had guys tell me they don't work.  Then it is easy because I ask a few questions and take care of them how they ask.

It is not your fault.  It can happen to any guy for any reason.  You owe them nothing but your best attitude and effort.  Take a little control of the situation and don't apologize.  Just keep smiling and doing your best.  Try not to draw too much attention to the bad situation.

I have had a few occasions where the flagpole was up but later lowered to half mast. Or didn't get the salute that I expected. Sometimes it was stress on my part, a couple of times it was a stupid comment or a rush by a provider. The fact that you are this concerned indicates it isn't (I'm not going there) a problem with you.
Hey this whole thing is as much in the brain than in the pants. So sometimes the big head is somewhere else than the little one. You get paid for your time if your partner/participant isn't there it isn't your fault.

I would only adivise giving a break to an established client as a way to restore good faith and keep the client "coming" back.

This may sound silly but who says the gentleman is not getting value for his money? I've had an experience with a provider where I was unable to pop and the provider was more concerned about it than I was.

We had alot of "active" fun up to the point that I realized it just wasn't going to happen and after that, I had time left and really enjoyed lying next to this terrific person and being physically intimate with her (not to be confused with being sexual). I realize this is different than the situation you are describing but I think there are similarities.

Even though the first part was terrific, the intimate and non-sexual part of the session was even more fulfilling to me - but then again, that's the kind of person I am and the type of thing I am into.

If a person was completely unable to enjoy their session for unexpected reasons (maybe they received some terrible news right before the session or something *shrug*) then it would be kind of you to offer to reschedule (assuming that no more than a few minutes of your time had been invested).

If the customer was unable to perform but still participated in the session, I would suspect that this is not their first time having this happen - even if they swear it to be so - and they likely knew the risk.

If you are encountering this type of situation on a regular basis, I would wonder if people are trying to take advantage of your generosity.

-Satori-

I think it's a good idea if your instinct tells you it's the right thang t' do.

A classy client will be grateful and look forward to the next session. He probably will pay you next time anyway. I would... um, ah, like, if that ever happened to me, which it didn't! Well maybe it did.... Doh!

The classless slob will come back, work you hard (again) and leave. Not many of those around.... Yeah right....

I say very generous of you.

No Rain Check

Carol, it is very good of you to offer a rain check.  Some men might take advantage of this.  

I know sometimes I have not been able to perform, I admit it.  I would have performed better had I not been tired, or sleepy but that is not the point here.  If a man is not able to perform, then he should ask himself, "is it me or her?"  Let's face it, it is definetely the man's fault, the provider is doing all that she can for him to be able to perform.  As to the hard earned money, maybe you can offer a discount not a freebie.

Just my 3 cents.

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