I can't control whether she actually IS attracted to me - I am who I am - but I'm going to do what I can (read: hygiene) to make it so.

Yes, I care. I guess it's not something we're really supposed to know for sure...

but, at times, one can tell

don't know about "attracted"...

i have always had supreme self=image problems, so i still find it difficult to believe anyone finds me attractive physically.

however i do find it important that a lady enjoys herself with me.  i have a fun personality and am quite humorous, and they don't call me "big peter johnson" for nothing (i gotta pay them a fiver every time they do).

so if i get the feeling the lady is just there for the envelope, yes, it bothers me.  and those are the ladies i don't see a second time.

of course the bottom line is, if she can make me think she enjoys me over and above the p4p aspect, then no, i don't care if she really does.

well, maybe i do.

naw, i don't.

maybe.

dunno.

did i mention i was big?

It's not likely any of the ladies I've seen through this arrangement would look at me and say "Oh, I've gotta have that".

I hope and think that a few I've seen may be attracted to my personality once they've spent time with me, but physically, I seriously doubt it.

Personally I like to think that she likes my huge knockers, long light brown hair, clear blue eyes and tasty pussy

...the rest of me, on the other hand...:-/

I just care that she treats me right without drama.

Better by far if you are...

Don't you like it better when men are attracted to you???

Well, alright then!

Being thought of is nice but...

I own a mirror and get I am a 4 (up form a 3 do to weight loss) and most women do not find my looks attractive. Do I care, yes, yes I want to be attractive to women. But I also get what reality is and I am not male model material. That is not to day no women are attracted to me, as I know of at least on that I turn on, just many will not find me physically attractive. And given She is likely taking me site unseen, even if I was a (insert hot male celeb name here) look alike some still wouldn't be attracted do to natural variance in tastes in male looks among ladies. Yes I care, but it isn't a huge thing. I do take steps to make sure what I have is as presentable as possible and clean.

But I don't think I'm ugly either. I have to admit, I always wonder if/when I see a provider what she's gonna think. I have to assume she sees some not so attractive guys. So the answer is YES, I do care Miss Erin

I would just assume she isn't.  

It's not on her menu that she has to be. LOL

Of course, that would not be my case.

8o)

But as long as you don't have to put a bag over my head, I'll be fine

If not entirely attractive on the outside, at least on the inside...

I'm sure I'm not every girl's cup of tea physically.  However, I am going to be confident, because I am a confident person. (Not asshole confident like Trump.)  I am going to be funny, because I find humor and irony in seemingly everything around us.  I am going to be passionate.  And I am going to treat each and every lady I meet the respect they so richly deserve.  

Hopefully these qualities, along with some limited smarts, will help overcome any physical attraction issues.  

Does it matter that I am "holistically" attractive to the ladies?  Absolutely!!!

these guys are much sweeter and a ton more fun and sexy to be around and are anything but cheap. Not like the guys who "think" they are gods gift to women here who act like complete dicks out to use this world as an ego-boosting mind game. Players if you will and typically don't think they should "have" to pay because they think they are hot (most aren't anyway in my eye) and cause all kinds of problems lol.  

No thanks...you ladies who swoon over guys like this can have them lol. I prefer the other any day of the week. You sexy men you lol...

There is a large age gap between me and the providers I see.  No way to avoid it.  There is basically no possible way that I can expect there to be any physical attraction.  If I cared about that reality, then I would not hobby.  

What I do care about is how they feel beyond the pure physical side of this question.  I think it is important for the provider to be at least somewhat attracted to my personality and how I treat and interact with them.  This is in some ways selfish, because I think it leads to better sessions, both the first time and in repeat sessions.  I can tell the difference when there is no attraction at any level.  

If they can't see past the physical mismatch, then I find the session sucks.  This has happened maybe 10% of the time.  On the flip side, there are some where they are really convincing that they are attracted to the interaction and relationship we have. And the session is great no matter what she thinks of me physically.  

This question reminds me of a drop dead gorgeous provider I saw a while back.  This girl was a spokes-model for major brands and was just on the verge of breaking in with a high end modeling agency.  I think that must of worked out since she disappeared a few weeks after seeing me.  There was no possible way she could of been physically attracted to me.  However, we interacted really well, with lots of banter and humor throughout the session, and her performance was a 10.  

During the down time we were talking about the hobby, and she started talking about how she looks for the attractive parts of a person, no matter what.  Then she reminds me of how she greeted me when she first saw me, where she said something about how great I looked.  This was an oops moment, that I overlooked, because it was clear what she meant.  She was essentially saying ”physically you are out of my league, but it didn't matter".  But I didn't care one bit, because she said exactly what I knew had to be true.   Not just for her, but for anyone I see.  In fact, her kind of letting the guard down and speaking freely was positive for me.  I would have been an enthusiastic repeat if she had not retired.

Then again, maybe I have this all wrong, and she decided that she had reached the pinnacle of her hobbying career, and that no one could come close to me in terms of looks and performance.  So instead of risking disappointment the next time, she chose to retire instead.  

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who made it perfectly clear from the beginning that she found me unattractive, but she was attractive and performed well (she had very moist climaxes each time) when we were together.  After the third visit, though, i decided not to continue seeing her.  Let's be honest: i am in my mid 70s, not bad looking for my age (I have all my teeth and hair, for example.) I am a type: well trimmed beard looking like the professor I spent most of my career being. People generally find my personality appealing (I had a radio show for years and the station conducted regular surveys and found that most radio listeners found me "appealing".)  Would a young or even mature woman find me as attractive as a young muscular broad shouldered .....etc etc etc? Don't make laugh.  
So I would like it if I felt the provider found our encounter pleasant and certainly not repulsive and me considerate and respectful of her. .

It all depends what "attraction" means to a woman.

Yes I care, even if she's attracted a little bit.  IMHO if she is attracted it means she's into me and hopefully because of that our session will go more smoothly.

With experience I'm learning who's attracted to the envelope and who's attracted to me and genuinely happy to see me again
(Yes, there are a few lol).

D.

My dates are always pleasant, easy-going times and the chemistry usually forms easily.  I have no idea if I'm attractive to the 40-somethings I've seen, but I doubt that any of the younger women would give me a second look.  That said, the relaxed, pleasant hours we have spent are probably also quite comfortable for the women.  That's enough for me.

Do you mean simply physically attracted, or attracted to the whole person? ? If she seem to genuinely enjoy her time with me, it's a way better time than if I'm just another client.  If she thinks I'm a mutt but really likes what we do, I'm fine with that.