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finallyfun 8 Reviews 2010 reads
posted
1 / 16
Asking for proof?

Ok I'm sure this is another old question but tough!  

Now asking a provider or hobbyist about their HIV and STD status is not exactly an easy ice breaker but a necessary one in this day where there are so many little germs to be afraid of.  My question is how exactly does one prove it?  It's not exactly like getting a license where you just show a card.  I myself get tested regularly because of work but when meeting a new provider, how would she know this except to take my word...and me take hers?  

Not trying to freak people out but kissing and oral May not spread some things but it can others so what are we to do, stop or suck it up as acceptable risk?

SinCitySinner 67 Reviews 605 reads
posted
2 / 16
No one has asked me this....

Risk of contracting HIV is very very low unless you are having BBFS...

AnotherDonJohn 554 reads
posted
3 / 16
Refer you to prior std threads but curly is correct.

HIV is not a very infectious virus. Outside of unprotected Fs and needle sharing and direct transmission to a newborn.

mrfisher 115 Reviews 521 reads
posted
4 / 16
As Julia's response indicates, this is not a question that is going to go over very well....

so don't even try.

If this is a big issue for you, then the hobby is not for you.

But, if it's any consolation, transmission of any STD through the hobby, at least as how it is practiced on here, is fairly uncommon.

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 495 reads
posted
5 / 16
Just wear a full body condom, or find another hobby.


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harborview 10 Reviews 486 reads
posted
6 / 16
Think about this for a second...

If you ask & she doesn't hit you or kick you out...  what's she going to say?  She's going to say she tests & is clean.  If she said she has something, you are going to walk.
Now if she asks you...  you are going to say you are clean.  If you said you had something, she is going to push you out the door.  
Unless you both tested recently and you had not had contact since your previous clean test (knowing there are incubation periods for many things)...  you really can not be "sure" and neither can she.  You have to deal with best guesses & that's about it.  But why ask questions that neither party can answer truthfully?
If this hobby is not for you, fine, no harm, no foul.  It's not for everyone.  You have to make your own decision.

anonymousfun 6 Reviews 499 reads
posted
7 / 16
Do you get regular physicals?

If not start.

clairecavendish See my TER Reviews 572 reads
posted
8 / 16
Hahahahahahahahahahaha


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MasterZen 34 Reviews 549 reads
posted
9 / 16
There is no way at all...

to prove a damn thing. Tests or not. Test timing and incubation periods, sexual and other activity between test and results receipt, false negatives and false positives... the list of issues go on and on.  

There ain't no certainty. Forget it. It is a risk.  

You gotta decide if it's an acceptable risk or unacceptable risk for yourself.

captain7 437 reads
posted
10 / 16
Thank you MZ. Enough with this nonsense!

Along those same lines, the day you get tested, the results reflect your status from 90 days ago. So, old news is just that: Old News!  I was going to post this 9 hours ago but since nobody reads my posts, I thought it pointless. lol

MasterZen 34 Reviews 429 reads
posted
11 / 16
Word! -e-


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anonymousfun 6 Reviews 397 reads
posted
12 / 16
Special request just for you (e)


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HooktardGold 389 reads
posted
13 / 16
Almost the dumbest thread ever...

No way to get proof. I can show you a negative test result from yesterday but if I had sex even one time in the past six months, that test is useless as I could have caught something that did not yet show up. How can you prove YOU are safe? You can't. Next time, post this on the newbie board so you won't get flamed so bad. This is where the big dogs hang out.

Vivid 341 reads
posted
14 / 16
Awesome!! STD App

I think proof is a great idea. Whoever tells you it's weird to ask is either immature or worse actually has an std themselves- check out this article on an Std app: http://healthland.time.com/2014/01/07/std-tests-theres-an-app-for-that/

In the poly community it's normal to have a written note of physical and std status - not that I'm poly but I respect the open communication.  

Std is part of my pre-screening process ~ V

AnotherDonJohn 398 reads
posted
15 / 16
Agree but dumbest had to be the guy counterfeiting money to get back at a hooker LMAO Eom


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Dave76015 38 Reviews 570 reads
posted
16 / 16
There's a village missing their Idiot, and he's in Federal prison...e



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