I was walking through the mall today and this thought randomly popped into my mind. Have you ever just been walking around a public place like a mall and seen a previous client walking around with his wife and kids or something like that?

Must be an awkward situation, I'm sure the client would pretend like he didn't know who you were.

once at the casino, guy came up and kissed me, and then tells me he's there with his wife, came up to me 2 more times, kept trying to "hang out" with me.

once at the optometrist with my son. guy was with his wife, eye contact made briefly, that was it.

i dont mind if a client walks up to me and says hello, how are you ?..... but dont address me by name, dont kiss me and above all else, DONT act like a tacky turd i cant shake.

i would never ever approach a client, or smile at him or show ANY sign whatsoever of recognition even if i was sure he was alone, it's just not appropriate.

with whom I am fairly well acquainted, on the premises. There was no one about, and she looked at me quisically, and asked if I had an appointment with her.... funny thing is she does not host in call at her place! I laughed and told her I was visiting a friend. I think she must have known or known about the provider in her building because she gave me a smirk and told me to enjoy, and remember to look her up sometime.....  I've also seen familiar providers while on the town. If I can do so *subtly* I will acknowledge them briefly with a small smail, inclination of the head and / or a wink (something not unlike common flirting with a pretty lady...) OTOH I have had a provider walk right up to me in pubic, say hi and start chatting even though I was in the company of another lady.....

I did'nt mind...
They both were discreet and polite and called to see me again.

I see a lot of providers have not posted yet because when I saw a former provider with the husband and baby at a local resturant - I spoke and she did not remembr me. Not that she was acting she did not, she actually had a convo with my date while we waited for our tables.

A VIP Provider not to be named here of course is a sorority sister of my ex girlfriend and we had lunch with her.  I was shocked when she walked in. She was on my to do list.

I fortunately haven't been in this situation  but if I did  I would nit make a big deal and make it obvious that I know you and it would only be common sense for the guy to act that way too.  We can see the chit chat for our next date.

Once was while walking out of Frys.  I was walking into the parking lot, when a client whom I hadn't seen in over a year called my name.  I was astonished that he'd been able to pick me out, as I was very casual.  It was great!  We exchanged numbers again, and told him about my new website.  Still haven't heard from him, although I know he just had a new baby.
Next, was after being invited to the Bellagio pool by a client whom was staying there.  He gave me a key, and offered the pool to me, since he'd be in meetings all week.  Well, when I was walking through to the pool area, wearing my nice little two piece, I glanced up and saw my friend.  Sure enough, he was engaged in a meeting, but managed to catch my eye.  We gave each an aknowleging stare, and giggled about it later.

I was out with friends one night and a man came running up to me across the venue calling my work name.  I tried to ignore him and he wouldn't have it.  He got quite the chilly reception.  Fortunately my friends know all about me so it wasn't a disaster but it was still VERY IMPROPER.

Another time I got an email from a client saying he'd seen me in the Apple store.  I'm glad he'd thought it was cute because I'd been livid and had a very intense experience with the store manager that day. I didn't mind at all and thought it was nice to hear from him.

Yet another client stopped me in the hallway of my pilates studio as I was walking by. We were both alone.  He reminded me of who he was and where I met him before (I try to never "assume".)  I said hi and went on to my class.  I haven't heard from him since.  A shame, I adored that one and have wondered how he is ever since!

It's only awkward if someone is a fool and doesn't understand what discretion means.

PS - and some fellows wonder why ladies are sometimes hesitant to advertise their face?!  It's one thing if you recognize me because we enjoyed time together.  It's another thing entirely for you to recognize me because you were fooling around online one night...


-- Modified on 4/10/2009 9:20:25 PM

I have ran into many clients in the NYC. Most ask if i remember them and then schedule a follow up appt within 24 hours lol... unless there with there wifes

-Kyla

Its happened three times now....

First time I was at my niece's school function with my family. The guy was someone I refused to see after seeing him once. I was mortified that he might make a scene because I had refused to see him again, but he didn't appear to even recognize me.

Second time, I was in a department store, was looking at something on a shelf and turned around to see a guy looking at me with a deer in the headlights look. He was with a lady who I assume was his wife, and I imagine the poor fellow was frantically wondering how to explain himself if I was dumb enough to walk up to him and start talking to him. Needless to say, I looked right past him as if he was not there and quickly moved on.

The third time, I was again with my family at a Rennaisance Festival, and spotted a gentleman I've seen many times. He spotted me and immediately started walking toward me with a smile on his face. I gave him a look that clearly said "don't you DARE come near me" then turned my back LOL. I don't know what sort of stammering explanations I'd have made to my family. He got the message though, and when he called me to see me the next time, he asked me if I would wear the fetching little corset I was wearing at the festival that day, except without the underdress LOL. I was happy to comply, but gave him a mild little scolding for even contemplating the lapse in discretion he would have caused if he'd walked up to me in public with my family standing right there.

Once, while grocery shopping, I live in a small town. He was there with his wife and child. I made eye contact recognized him immediately then acted as I would normally. Wasn't strange at all just thought oh great what's this guy thinking? The next day I got a call from him. Did I see you yesterday?...lol....That turned into another date.

Second time, was at a local event. There standing guard of one the entrances was a familiar face. It had been at least a year since our encounter. It's funny because he disclosed his profession during our date. Yeah sure you're a Sheriff buddy...lol. That's what I was thinking. Well, he wasn't pulling my leg. I made eye contact and gave a little nod with a half smile. He looked surprised but in a good way. Now if only I could remember those pointers he gave me...lol

I have run into women I knew professionally (theirs not mine) in public a number of times.  No problem what so ever.  We simply ignored each other each time.

But I've also been recognized by men who have seen my website and decide to call for a date after seeing me in person.

And old clients have seen me in public and found renewed interest.  

So never any harm done and sometimes a benefit.

I have a lot of presence.  People tend to notice me whether I know them or not.  so 2nd nature for me to be rather aloof to situations where anyone is staring me down.  

(-:

and kids and i was with my daughter and this sorry guy introduces me to his wife in FRONT of my daughter as "SHANA"
I just smiled, chit chatted....then my daughter says to me, "why cant people EVER remember your name" (since mine is so unusual but close)  im like yeah i know.....WHEW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But he actually got back to me and apologized, he told me his wife saw him look at me in recognition and asked oh who is that do you know her.....so i think he actually did the best he could in that situation....LOL....

then i was on the metro and this gorgeous greek guy kept staring at me.....i get home and he emails me and says that he recognized me and would like to make an appt....(turned out to be a great regular of mine.....)  YES YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!  YASU!

i was sweating my little heart out at the gym, and all of a sudden he walked out of one of the side rooms. my heart skipped a bit when i saw him, i wasn't sure how to react, so i just continued my workout with my head down (i was on a treadclimber). out of the corner of my eye tho i noticed that he paused just a foot in front of me to wipe his face with a towel. he seemed to take an especially long time to do this. but he eventually walked away.

when i saw him next i told him about it and he claimed not to see me, but that from that point forward he would be on the lookout! lol. in his case he is single so it really wouldn't be a big deal for us to acknowledge one another in public.

Providers...  and clients (as I am)...  must be discrete in public.  I've seen lady friends in public & we make eye contact, exchange a brief nod of the head...  to any observer, we're acting as polite strangers.  Unless you're behind a closed & locked door, you must assume you might be observed.  Such indiscretions are unforgiveable.

The only exception is a planned dinner date & I would sure hope both parties would be smart enough to A) go somewhere you are both unknown  B) have an airtight cover story.  

When I began this hobby, I promised myself I'd not do anything stupid.
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YEp ..On the plane he was sitting next to me ...
on coffee shop..just yesterday..
Well... happens
lol..

Once upon a time I was sitting at a bar

Who would have thought!!

Rarely do I do tha..but there he was behind me. He started buying me drinks.. To take advantage of me later. Yes..he did want me again!!
That was cool.

Another time I was out to dinner with my family and he stopped by my table.

Another time I was working a silent auction at a Choral Performance and was noticed.

The most memorable time was meeting a few providers.
On one ocassion , my server told me there were a few friends of mine at a table.
I was touring in DC.
I thought ..that's weird.
So I walk aroiund the corner...and see 2 ladies. One I had met a few years before at a social.
What happened later that night was mind-boggling. These 2 ladies and I sit and talk..share a few martinis. the bar help seems to know them well. Before we know it a guy comes over and offers us a bottle of wine to go up to their room. The lady I knew..says here you go. She writes down her website addy for him and he takes off.
Both of these girls were hours away from home and supposed to be leaving that night for a 3 hour trip.
One of them drove home alone...after drinking all night. The other left with a guy. I left with my eyes wide open.

So needless to say...if you ever sit in your hotel bar...like I did on these two ocassions..you never know who or what you will find.
Both of these events were very early in my career. My habit is to keep my business to my self and my hotel room.
But I'm sure some guys will want to be solicited...One fine lady I met at a social..told me I should come and work some time with her ..and she would show me how to work the hotels...I was like no thank you.
To each, his own.

considerate he is while busting someone for this!!!

One time was perfectly harmless, but the other few times I wanted to knock both of them out of their socks -- dumbasses. They both used the name Ciara in front of my friends. I wanted to kick the crap out of them but I didn't. I gave them a very scowl look and pushed them away. They were drunk and obnoxious.

Hugs,
Ciara

I have never initiated anything unless the gal starts it first. But one time I remember I was out with a date and a gal I new who was tricking from the same pad as my ex-ATF, recognized me at a club. She walked all the way to where we were sitting, leaned down and whispered two words in my ear ... "Ass hole", I smiled  said thank you as she walked away. I immediately, turned around to my date who had a confused look, and said she thinks you are cute to which she smiled. What a relief.

-- Modified on 4/11/2009 2:53:51 PM

wow...that is insanely ironic...i go shopping like any other female, (one of my hobby's..wink wink) So i was walking in a mall and spotted one of my regular clients with his whole family..(wife and 2 kids) I said nothing and acted no different. We noticed each other but we also have an understanding, its not like i would say, "Hi "BOB" Last night was G-R-E-A-T!" lol. I believe in confidentiality..and would hope to recieve the same in return.

" Hi Bob last night was great is pretty funny. I couldn't help but laugh out loud..

I live in a big city near several major universities and am young so many younger grad students will make incall dates with me.  I am also a student so I hang out at the local college bars.  I hate it when they say, "Do you ever go to such-and-such bar? I could ahve sworn I have seen you there." That's often followed by a comment about how I am too hot or sexy for him to approach, and can I say hi to you if I am with my friends (in otherwods, have I pad for bragging rights)?

Makes me want to stick to older guys only, or at least not local college students.


Since I live in a metropolitain area, I also get a lot of out-of-towners here on business, which i usually prefer to local guys.  But a young guy I have seen regularly for a year just visited with me this weekend and said on his last few trips he saw me walking around town, obvoiusly back on my way from the gym, and that he got so hot by seeing me that way that he had to call me that night.  Talk about free advrtsing!  

But I don't lie running into clients because I am super private and have another job, so if there is any ever contact it must be initiated by them.