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No guarantees, only prevention methods
devdoop 2442 reads
posted
1 / 18

The title says it all,  Just wondering how y'all protect yourself from getting ripped off.

-- Modified on 3/5/2020 8:51:51 AM

Cavesong01 2 Reviews 113 reads
posted
3 / 18

As earlier stated research. Just looking at an ad and getting excited by the pictures can lead to problems. Google phone numbers and images. Check for reviews.
I’ve noticed a red flag in some of the lower end sites. If they don’t have a actual location but instead says something like USA or something generic like downtown usually means not a real ad. Bottom line: Trust your gut not your dick!

GaGambler 64 reads
posted
4 / 18

Some old saws are rooted in truth, one of those old saws around here is "stick to well reviewed TER providers" That advice holds true as much today as it ever did.  Simply having a twitter feed and a website does NOT mean a provider is legit. If other guys have seen her and had good/great experiences with her, the chances of you doing the same are pretty good

 
A couple of other common sense rules should apply as well. First off, never put yourself in a position to be ripped off, sending a deposit is one of the easiest ways to get ripped off, once you send your money you have virtually ZERO recourse if the lady decides not to honor your agreement. Another thing to keep in mind is your personal info, if being "outed" would ruin your life you put yourself at an extreme disadvantage if you give a provider personal information that she "could" use someday to blackmail you. One invaluable service that TER provides is a platform for mongers to warn other mongers about providers who lie, steal, provide bad service, etc. but that option might not be available to you if the provider who ripped you off has enough personal information to ruin your life and threatens to use it if you write a bad, or in some cases even a mediocre review. Always try to keep the playing field level. Yes, many providers will refuse to see you if you don't provide them with blackmail material, but it's your money, you are free to spend it on whoever that you choose.

 
Back to social media for a second, if you find her twitter feed and it's plain she hates her job, hates her clients, and pretty much hates all men in general, its probably a good idea to skip over her, the same thing goes for hookers who post on TER who are plainly Man Hating Bitches.  

 
So Melissa, How did I do?

36363jensen 4 Reviews 123 reads
posted
5 / 18

Age old problem right. As others have mentioned, you can rely on reputation (well reviewed) but that only works for finding  existing and established providers. (A bit the same for providers vetting new to them clients).

So I'm going to think about your question from the "I am trying to see some new, unknown provider. Well, how do you make that assessment when looking for someone to provide a service (fix your washing machine, AC, paint your house, plumbing, mow your lawn, whatever) and all you have is a name and phone number.

Well, are they asking your to meet in some dark part of town to make your payment?  In other words, are they doing things that seem a but unusual for the normal activity? How are they expressing themselves? Do they seem a bit evasive (again relative to the norms here) or overly open and unconcerned about safety?  

Also mentioned, you're not getting any guarantee here so not 100% safety warranty but you should have something of a base line expectation on how things should go. If anything is raising a flag or making you feel a bit uncomfortable in moving forward (even if you cannot articulate what) that is your queue to think potential rip-off (or worse).

(Didn't check so not sure what your status is, but if you are newbie you will not have the benefit of baseline experience so listen to Fish!!!!)

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 66 reads
posted
6 / 18

you covered all the points that came to my mind.  Ditto from me.  

Katethecat 105 reads
posted
7 / 18

I also agree 100% with Melissa's observations.  There is nothing better than spending time with an experienced woman and one who you can feel comfortable with and one who makes you feel comfortable.  Melissa is a perfect example!

JIMBOY 149 Reviews 130 reads
posted
8 / 18

There's no FTC, no truth-in-advertising laws, no protection of any kind except for what you provide for yourself. FWIW, I start with the assumption that EVERY element in a provider ad (pics, services, etc.) is false or misleading until proved otherwise. Think about it this way - If Joe Lemon's Used Car Lot didn't have to worry about legal consequences, what would they say in an ad to get you to buy a car? What kind of bondo-covered body damage and/or major engine problems would they try to conceal with glitzy pics and slick marketing copy? Anyone who fails to do adequate homework is asking to be taken to the cleaners. And anyone who is an "early-adopter" (i.e., always chasing the latest, new thing) is at increased risk of being ripped off or finding themselves on the wrong side of a jail cell.

100ProofOfLV See Agency Profile 94 reads
posted
9 / 18

If you venture outside the comfort zone that TER has to offer in the way of reviews, you kind of deserve what you get. Choose wisely!

Sheila Starr See my TER Reviews 92 reads
posted
10 / 18
WICardinalfan 100 reads
posted
11 / 18

Almost every time I have strayed away from P411 or and or TER I have gotten scammed.  You are in this long enough, it will happen to you.  I have learned my lesson the hard and expensive way.

scoed 8 Reviews 100 reads
posted
12 / 18

There are no guarantees in this game. To minimize risk  study the providers reputation. Reviews are great for this.

 Listen to both your gut and your big head. If ether is saying something is wrong listen. Never think with your little one. That head will get you in trouble.  

Never give out info that can damn you. I am fairly nuke proof, others are not. There is always risk in this game and if the risk is to high for you don't do it.

Also never hobby with money you can't afford to burn. There is no guarantees, but if you do your homework by reading reviews, and only see ladies with great reputation the risk is much, much smaller. Don't flash extra money in front a of a lady you don't know. I separate my donation before I get there. Makes life so much easier. Most providers are honest business people, but a few are not. There is no reason flash extra cash.  

One last piece of advice, always, and I mean always treat the ladies with respect. So up clean and on time. Many bad experiences I have noticed on the boards start off with a guy being an asshat, late, and/r unclean the whines about how his session was cut short, the lady refusing to see him again, or just plain poor performance.  

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 44 reads
posted
13 / 18

to know that it doesn't matter to you whether I'm the Pope, or NOT.  

 
All sarcasm aside, I have known may providers who go to great lengths to keep their personal lives separate from their working lives for a VARIETY of reasons.  Why is it so different for a customer to want that separation as well?

scoed 8 Reviews 63 reads
posted
14 / 18

There are real risks on both sides of the coin. I have known providers that have been robbed, raped, arrested and the like. Real information is invaluable in screening to prevent that. Ladies have every right to set a requirement to seen them. I gladly provide real information.

But there is real risk for guys to give it up. I have heard of guys being outed for the smallest of offences. Small stuff like canceling, or being late, or one guy for being extremely fat. I have been blacked mailed myself over a review from a well reviewed provider. Luckily I am nuke proof and flipped the situation on that hooker*. Most guys are not. I guy has the right not to chance it and refuse to give it out.

Both sides have valid cases on real info. Both sides face real risks. So here is what is the bottom line. Every person must decide on what risks are acceptable to them. The best advice to providers is to get real info 100% of the time. The best advice to clients is to never give real info. This obviously does't work as no one would see anyone. So it comes down to each side deciding what risks they are willing to take. Giving real info will protect the lady and allow a guy to see more ladies but add risk to himself. Not asking for real info will allow a lady you see more guys and increase profit, but adds a great deal of risk to their well being. So in short both sides must evaluate risks verses rewards for them personally. Both sides are right in their stance.  

*I would never use that term for an honest provider. (Well unless she likes the term. It can be fun in a BDSM situation.) It is stickily reserved for dangerous ladies of no class and even less integrity outside of sexual role play.

justsauce16 4 Reviews 115 reads
posted
15 / 18

You have to consider the types of scams that're happening, and the effort it takes to pull off.

 
Most commonly, someone will ask for money up-front, and then once they have it, they'll ghost you. This is super common because it's astoundingly easy to pull off. Odds are if you do any research at all, you'll avoid this, but sometimes it's done as a pivot from girls who are getting out of the industry and don't mind burning their reputation. This is easy to prevent, stick to in-person payment, especially for anyone even a little suspect, no current reviews, etc. All of those rules apply to all of the situations below as well.

 
That brings us to the second scam, the snatch and grab. That's common in vegas, because nobody's going to raise hell in a casino/hotel because the whole thing is illegal anyway. Not much you can do about this outside of making sure you're between the payment and the door, but that's not much prevention really, because it isn't like trying to block her exit is going to go well for you, legally speaking.

 
That brings us to the third, which is the same as above, but she shows up with her pimp and he hits you with a pipe until you give him the money. It helps to keep the door locked, but that's not going to really prevent much if you're in that situation, because she's going to unlock the door to let him in. Better to just give him the cash in exchange for your leg privileges and then think long and hard about how you got yourself in that situation.

 
Then, separate from all that, you have blackmail. Best way around that is to be a single guy who everyone knows whores around a bit, and give as little private information out as possible. When you give out information, think about how it could be used against you and asses the risk accordingly. Once you're aware of the risk, come up with ways to get ahead of the blackmail. Odds are, you can explain it away as being fake, and just due to a data breach online. Also, never respond to threats, ghost them, and odds are, they'll go away. Also, do your fellow whoremongers a service and give us a heads up, use an alias, give it a month or so, you'll be in the clear.

SexyKacy See my TER Reviews 105 reads
posted
16 / 18

Many, many good points above vis-a-vis avoiding a scam (reviews, ongoing social media presence, etc.)
The consistent advertising that benefits me as a provider (e.g., nurturing prospective clients that see me in the same ad space month after month) can also aid a hobbyist.
Caveat that I'm only speaking of a provider being real and not speaking to "quality".  
If a provider invest$ in advertising on a quality ad site year after year, that's a chunk of change that scammers usually don't put out.
And some such ad sites also verify that the pictures and ID of the provider are for real.
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to contrast the foregoing to the old BP listings where a scammer could program their ad to pop up in the listings every day at no cost & without providing any bonafides to the ad site.
As I mentioned, just another tool for y'all to find the right box :-P
xoxo
Kacy TGirl

Hpygolky 233 Reviews 119 reads
posted
17 / 18

Now I know it's a common term used, I get it, But if I hear the constant term "Baby, Honey, Sweetie", when she's referring to me after we've text/message a few times. Or the "Don't worry, you'll have a good time"  when you ask the most innocent questions. Also if she say we can meet within a hour. I find that strange when doing outcall.
But there's no sure way to tell. It's mostly a vibe or gut feeling. And your gut feeling is usually right.

devdoop 104 reads
posted
18 / 18

Didn't expect so many responses, you guys are awesome, thank you!  
 And yeah, I guess the whole point of this site is to help folks not get scammed.  

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