You found relief in us providers to help you out .

Never had a problem finding civvie dates or sex and I had never paid for sex.
When the Dr said I had 50/50 chance I wouldn't
be here in a year, I should get my affairs in order,I started hobbying to insure I would make the most of my affairs.
Many civvy ladies worth the chase demand romance,and I wasn't sure I had the time.
Now I'm a cured medical marvel, hooked on hobbying, and have much more patience with my civvy romances.
Life is Great

With a demanding business schedule, heavy travel, in a predominantly male industry it was difficult for me to find someone and be in the same place and time that they were.  I had always wondered about this hobby...partook regularly when traveling overseas...but had no idea how to get started here.  Took the plunge by asking a concierge at a hotel I was staying at, he connected me with a provider, and she told me about TER after the session...the rest is history.

She'd pretty much lost her sex drive, and it was causing a lot of tension. Then I found TER and said "screw it, I'm going for it".

I got tired of playing with Rosie Palm and her 5 daughters.  I also did not really want to remarry, so a LTR was not something I was looking for. So after I retired from teaching, I began investigating p4p.  I have met some wonderful ladies and even a few guys that I now consider as friends.  Have not looked back since.

Swim

First time was a BJ/CIM from a stripper in a club.  I was just 19.  I still remember her, it was great.

After that I tried street girls a couple of times.  It didn't take me more than a couple to realize that these girls were not for me.  Sex was bad and the area was not safe.  

When I was 25 I was in New Orleans and I called an escort service.  It was great, and I was hooked.  
From them on whenever I was staying in a hotel I would check to see if any escort services were available.  Had some of the best times in cities that I never would have thought had any adult entertainment.  I guess that if no strip clubs or other legal outlets are available, people turn to escorts and other outlets for relief.  

Then with the internet the business changed.  It became possible to contact ladies directly, bypassing the services.  I was able to choose ladies based on their reviews, making it less of a mystery what service you would receive.  

I have been involved in the hobby for some time, seeing escorts when I was single, dating, and married.  I don't see me stopping as long as I can still perform.

Smoking hot lady. Got propositioned all night walking back to Venetian from Hooters.

Young black girl. Beautiful. Had to have her.

Got hooked ever since.

When I got to my hotel room, I heard sounds from the room across from mine in the hall.  Damn, someone was getting laid, and it wasn't me!  Before going to the strip club later in the evening, I googled "escorts", found TER, signed up for VIP a few days later, and three weeks later, became a hobbyist.  Once that happened, there was no turning back...not that I would want to.  I had suffered a four year drought, and I promised myself that would never happen again.  And it hasn't...as a hobbyist, you have a much greater degree of choices and control of your sex life.  

Please indulge me:

"But it was only a fantasy.  The Wall was too high, as you can see.  No matter how he tried he could not break free.  And the worms ate into his brain..."

The hobby allowed me to escape...no more wall...it's gone.    

I was single and had an affair some 25 years ago.

Went round to her house twice a week, had lunch, had sex and went back to work. A bit like hobbying, except it was free and lunch was thrown in!

When the affair came to an end I figured that for a bit of money I could continue the experience (It was also on the list of “things to do before you die”).

I found I rather enjoyed the sex with no commitment thing and the rest is history.

After the end of a 19 year marriage that was characterized by her "letting me" have sex with her once a month (IF I was lucky -- sometimes I went 2 months without), I discovered legal brothels while on a business trip to Reno.

Continued to play there and in Pahrump (although they pronounce it pah RUMP, I always thought it should be pronounced PAY rump, considering that's what you're doing there outside of Vegas.

Got back into civvie dating and didn't stray into the p4p world while doing that. After the last civvie relationship of 5 1/2 years faded away (the once hot & frequent sex had frittered away to nothing in the last 8 months), I started looking for p4p alternatives. With the advent of the web, it was just a matter of time before I came across TER and was able to conduct research to make more informed choices.