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OMG....I am I getting old??
rocdoc 5 Reviews 1509 reads
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I can't believe it but after a recent session with a pretty, sexy and really fun provider in her 20's, I left feeling like Grandpa! I had no trouble with performance, but I left thinking I was just with a college kid, YIKES!

I'm 46 , in good shape, soon to be 47, am I too old for this??
I'm much more comfortable with ladies in their 30's or 40's, but that's tough to find in my state of NJ.
What to do? Quit the "hobby"? Look for providers who specialize in " the elderly"? ...lol

...but seriously, maybe you just need to take a break.  I'm almost 65 and have been out of action for about 15 years, which may explain my enthusiasm.  Was just with a very horny 30 year-old and left feeling invigorated.  You are definitely not too old for this!  Try some supplements and Sally Forth! (remember her? there actually was an old stripper with that name)

Men are only as old as they feel and look.  I'm 40+ and don't have problems sleepin with 19 and 20 yr olds if they are my type.   30 yr old women are not bad either if they are fit and experienced - they go skills.

I'm on the plus side of fifty and see gals from their mid 20s to a gal with a few years on me, and everything in  between.

As a society we tend to fixate on things that don't have as much relevance as we sometimes attach to them.

If it feels right then forget what everyone else thinks and have a good time.

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You're never too old as long as your mental, physical, and emotional ages give you the go ahead! Look at a lot of foreign cultures where it is common for the "older" man to see younger women. In addition, I've been told by a number of the ladies that they prefer an "older" guy for a number of reasons. Ciao!

Of course, I take pills (thread below), but it's just as exciting seeing a young lady as an older(?) one.

But my money goes to the ones that know what they're doing. I repeat with the ones that fuck me up, or some of my bros tell me 'Mikey! You gotta see this girl!'.

GaGambler241 reads

and hope to see another twenty something tonight, I don't know who she is yet, but I bet you in a city as big as Bogota, I will find some young chica to share the rest of the evening with me. lol

43 is barely out of puberty. Why do guys get so hung up about age? I routinely take women, both civvie and P4P, that are decades younger than me on "real" dates.

As someone else on this thread mentioned, it only seems to be an issue in the US. I am presently posting from Bogota, Colombia and no one looks twice if a man is two or even three times as old as the woman he is with.

I can't wait for my 54th birthday, I plan on celebrating with three 18 yr olds. lol

GaGambler108 reads

I think I am going to call it an early evening, heading to Medellin in the morning.

I would like to take a moment to tell you all how much I miss you, but I hate to lie. lmao

For some of us, being with a lady who could easily be a college student, is a big turn on. It's even a big selling point some young ladies use on their websites. You may have images, in your mind, of how others would view you and this young lady, together.

I'm in my early sixties, but I don't see myself as such, so it's no issue for me. And, since I'm not inviting anyone else into our boudoir, I'm not concerned about someone's opinion.

HumbleHobbyist210 reads

at that age, I'm old enough to be her father.
But she had a really mature personality beyond her years & we bonded very well.

Hell, roc, I'm older than you & I "don't feel too old for this". I used to only prefer seeing
providers in their 30's, but most recent session
had me change my mind in re to that.

If you had a session with "pretty sexy & really fun provider", & had no problem with performance
then sounds like you had a great time !

The only problem I see was after the session you were "overthinking" things & your conscience went into a "puritancial Grandpa" mode. Fuck that ! Forget the chronnological age difference ! You should tell your conscience to STFU & see that provider again !--------:)

Too funny, love your comments!
And you are right, it was when I was walking to the car, the crazy guilt shit kicked in.

But so what? Really, I'm 53 and in lousy shape but I still have a great time with my favs who range in age from about 23 to 37.  Will my body do what it did 20 years ago? Well, no, but I honestly think that my sex drive is higher than t was back then.  

We are not necessarily looking for the same things from a provider as we get older.  You may have to accept the fact that younger ladies are not your preference anymore. I still see girls in their 20's on occasion but I prefer my ATF, who is 37, for longer dates and overnights.  Sexual compatibility is part of it but we are closer in age and also have more to talk about than I do with the younger girls.

It is all a mental thing do not get caught up in the age difference.Also,there are ladies that are in their 20's and carry themselves as if they are in their 30s.I have seen plenty of mature gentleman and when I leave I do not think "wow he was the same age as my dad" I say "wow I just had a kick ass time with a mature gentleman that not only stimulated me physically but also had a great conversation with."Most of us ladies prefer gentleman older than us anyway.

Let us just put aside all the cliches and all the motivating and feel good phrases set forth in here by the various participants in this thread.

The fact is that in the U.S. (I am originally from Europe) I always detect a stigma with age differenece in the Civvie world of dating, unlike I have seen in the other parts of the world. If older guys (I'm 45 and physically speaking, I can now run circles around myself as compared to when I was 35!) who are in 40+ age range dare to join one of these cr*p civvie dating websites, they soon get a very rude awakening as to how very plain and average looking women who are barely a 6, come across as so darn demanding (putting up false high walls) when it comes to desired age in their perspective romance and dating partners. Mind you, there are many people in their 30's, 40's, 50's and 60's and beyond who do not take care of themselves at all, in terms of physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, etc. I think that it a cultural influence factor and the cr*p which runs in the mainstream media and female magazines, when it comes to the age difference stigma, unless one is a Darling like a Hugh Heffner!

In the Hobby world, the factors are quite different and if the mainstream Media wishes to call it exploitation or what not, let them beat that horse to death! The fact is that this is P4P and even if the young ones (Providers) are acting to achieve their financial goals, then so be it! You make the $money$ and you make a conscious decision toward the infamous four F's in the Hobby. It is your money and their time/service. Go ahead and knock yourself out and do what pleases you while sticking with the rules of being a Gentleman within the realms of this Hobby. Imagine what p*ss poor options we would have if we were all institutionalized by what the society and Pop culture determines to be "right" for us!

In closing, here is a cliche which i read in here somewhere: "it's mind over matter, and if you don't mind, it doesn't matter!!!" :D And one more thing for those who say, "she's young enough to be your Daughter", well she is not your Daughter!!! (I hope ;) )

Good point!  And the age discrimination isn't limited to the civvy sites.  On Alt.com where I cruise sometimes they've got compatibility charts that compare you and the person whose profile you're visiting.  I continually find green check marks showing I'm compatible with women in every area, but then comes the dreaded red X next to "age."  How dumb.  A few days ago I went for two hours straight with a 30-year-old. Never a droop, unassisted by viagra, a pump, splints, cranes or derricks.  I'm slim, fit and, as I've aged, my dick now bends up so that, in mish, it hits gals' g-spots.  I tell ya', they don't know what they're missin'!

To see the expression of a young lady when she realizes that not only you haven't forgotted what to but she loved it. jaydalee, thank you for your insight. Tabb age 62.

Posted By: rocdoc
I can't believe it but after a recent session with a pretty, sexy and really fun provider in her 20's, I left feeling like Grandpa! I had no trouble with performance, but I left thinking I was just with a college kid, YIKES!

I'm 46 , in good shape, soon to be 47, am I too old for this??
I'm much more comfortable with ladies in their 30's or 40's, but that's tough to find in my state of NJ.
What to do? Quit the "hobby"? Look for providers who specialize in " the elderly"? ...lol

You're younger than I am.  So stop!  Smile.

As I've gotten older, my clients have gotten younger and better looking.  Go figure.  Guess that they're looking for something different.  VERY different.  And with that, I used to have the same "what in the hell and I doing" feelings when I was boinking someone in his early 20's.

That's when it hit me about age.  Remember when you were 21?  I felt like a complete adult and completely aware of being a woman.  Was I?  Well, hindsight being what it is, probably not fully ... but I was certainly sexually active at that age!

So you being attracted to a much younger woman seems reasonable enough.  

The newest book on my Amazon wishlist is:  
Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality (hint!)

It actually goes into WHY a man isn't meant to be monogamous but gives organic reasons why we're the way that we are, sexually.  I can hardly wait to read it.

And .... hmmmm.  46.  In good shape.  Comfortable with older women?  Can I interest you in a tryst with an older woman from Texas?  Me?

Hugs,
Elisabeth

My first provider was 18 and I was 59, no problem.  I have seen them from 18 to late 40's.  Why should I give a shit how old they are?  If they attract me, I will see them regardless of the age difference.  Oh, I'm 63 now, and have no intention of stopping......

Swim

newandlearning142 reads

I am 15 years older than you and a fairly recent entry into the "hobby".  Over a few years, I have seen women in their 20s, 30s and 40s and each was special, much more a function of their personality and sexuality than their age. In one instance, I actually saw a young woman who was only 19 - was I nuts, she's younger than my youngest daughter and only 5 years older than my oldest grandchild.  I was  hesitant at first but she seemed so mature and womanly from her website and emails that I couldn't resist ... and it was really very special. Don't feel guilty - enjoy the moment!  A positive experience is much more a function of the personality and attitude of the provider than her age.

If your conscience won't allow you to accept your depravity, you must limit your search to women closer to your own age.

you take care of yourself physically by getting plenty of exercise, sleep, and eat a balanced diet, you should feel and act 10 years younger.

I too am past 59 and have seen providers who ages range from 20 (I was 55 at the time) up to early 50's (she looked and acted like mid-40's.  As long as your equipment works and you have the desire and discretionary income to support it, hobby on.

There are only 2 ages applicable - alive and dead. Numbers are immaterial.

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Your tastes are just changing. Nothing wrong with that. I am sorry there is not a plethra of women the preferred age in your area. Maybe you should travel a little more;)

I like em older & You are at that perfect age that I usually go for.

Oooohh!  I'm almost 65!  Does that mean I move to the head (!) of the class???

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