Interested in hearing experiences and perspectives — has anyone (else) managed to copycat the premise of the movie “Pretty woman” (Julia Roberts / Richard Gere)  

My psyche is not best suited for relationship - hooker or otherwise.  I need a lot of alone time to thrive. The moment I cum into woman's pussy, I have no interest in that person, until of course I need to fuck her again.. It's not like I am rude or disrespectful towards her, it's just that I am aloof and uninterested.  Just think of it as another passenger on the subway train, riding along with me in the journey of life..  That person means nothing to me at that point..  

Although I know that you really enjoyed being with the young lady, but just like the lady of the night said on "Hooker's at the point", you will always remember how you met her and she will always remember how she met you.

I could see myself in a similar situation with my atf some day.  

Nothing wrong with how they met

Bi-polar disorder

uncutpackage.  
  BPD is Borderline Personality Disorder. Having any type of disorder is a struggle. No matter what you do for a living.  

My experience has been that most ladies that I see don't want to be rescued.  There is some sort of connection - more than most clients - but mostly they just want my money and I know that I am at least tolerable.  I wouldn't want to ruin a good thing by even thinking about going down that path.  Also, I just want to see the really hot ladies - or ladies that I could not pull in the real world.  That said, when I saw middle tier ladies or older TER ladies years ago I had multiple experiences where they wanted something more or to see me outside of an appointment.  That was because these ladies were comparable to ladies that I could date in the real world (TER 8's or the older ladies on TER with inflated ratings) whereas that is no longer the case.

or Borderline Personality Disorder.  

I've met a number of providers that I could be with. Maybe it will happen some day.

I know all this quite well… and sadly she experienced being tortured, being tied up and held hostage for several days, and being stalked by various psycho “clients”… among other mistreatments.  She actually reported some of these to law enforcement.. but not surprisingly nothing ever happened.
I wake up every day amazed and thankful that she had/has the inner strength to realize and give me the chance to prove I cared about her.  It’s been a challenge for both of us, but worth every second.

Makes me wonder why providers prefer a driver's license pick and Facebook page over reputable provider references for screening.  SMH

outside relationships with providers, but they were still active, not retired, which presents additional challenges than those you have encountered with a retiree.  None of them were exactly like the "pretty woman" scenario because I'm not a billionaire.   Lol    They usually last 3 to 6 months, with the longest so far being 10 months, and have all ended due to jealousy . . . . . hers, not mine, because as long as she is still working, it's not a level playing field unless I see other providers as well.  They agree in the beginning that transactional sex is NOT cheating for either one of us, but then they try to walk it back later on and want me to be monogamous while they continue to work.  Not going to happen, so I move on.

the individual who tortured her had good references from other  providers, and was active on another board.  But in reality he was a sadist who liked to abuse women.  He held a loaded gun to her head as he tied her up.  He later stalked her and threatened to kill her.  She eventually made contact with 2 other providers who experienced similar abuse from him and agreed to report him… but LE never did anything.   So provider references aren’t perfect.

Jealousy is a sign, though, that there  was really something there.  Ironically.  She views client sex as work (she may or may not enjoy it, but only does it for the bucks) whereas she views your sex as entertainment -- intimacy, and therefore in a different universe.  
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I think your choices are friendship, partnership (probably financial) or intimate relationship.  In that later category, polyamory is really hard to carry off.  So it usually fails.

Well said.

I completely agree with you there. I’ve been in several relationships with former clients, and I would never in a million years expect monogamy on the other side while I enjoy all of the variety I can possibly enjoy. That one has always really confused me as far as it being a common scenario.

providers attempt to compartmentalize their working life from their personal life, but if you initially met your boyfriend when he was a customer, their work is always going to be part of our joint reality.  Most men can't handle it at all, but those of us that can just want a level playing field.  I always have this talk at the very beginning where we both agree that transactional sex is NOT cheating on our real-life relationship.  So as long as I'm paying the other women I see, and she is getting paid by the men she sees, everything is equal.  In every case so far, they are the ones that go back on their agreement, usually when they learn I have seen someone professionally that they know.  Then the jealousy and insecurity kick in.

Your comments are intersring but irrelevant to the scenario ..
She is absolutely completely 100% retired.  She shut everything down .. websites, any means of contacting her.. etc…
She wants a monogamous, “vanilla” life.

I acknowledged the difference between your situation and mine in my prior post.   This one just expanded on it after the provider responded to ME.  I could also say that YOUR comments are irrelevant to MY scenario, which should be obvious if you read my first post on this thread.  I said there were additional challenges in my situation because the providers I had relationships with were "still active."  This means they were NOT retired yet.  When there is more than one post from a responding member on a thread, you should read all of them before responding to the last one, lest YOU look like you missed the point.  Lol

You are correct, I apologize for missing your earlier post.  

I readily concede and admit I missed your prior post.  Touche’

how r u

A wise person once told me ..”when engaging with an idiot, don’t fall to their level.”  You’re well known, but not well respected on these boards.  No need to say more.

When you have nothing to add of substance to your argument, a personal attack just shows desperation.  I bet I have a lot more friends on this board than you do, both monger and provider.  Those that don't respect what I can add here from my personal experiences are usually those that are petty or jealous.  I will not say you are either one of these, so you can choose for yourself.   Lol

80-90% of your posts ARE personal attacks, not only because you have nothing of substance to add to your argument, but because you are extremely thin-skinned.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

CDL have you ever considered that your provider/gf was turned off by your basement apartment at you mothers house?

Ouch, harsh truth.  I used to be able to hang out OTC (Off the Clock) with providers, deluding myself that there was a connection.  But not today, even from the GILFs.

are both petty AND jealous, even when they are on ignore.  What kind of idiot keeps posting to a guy who has him on Ignore?  (This is called a rhetorical question.)

publicly proclaim to the world as CDL did on November 2:
"I'm cancelling you and putting you on ignore.  I'll check back in 30 days..."
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/if-you-want-to-believe-one-bloggers-----1001828?frmSearch=1#1001828

In a heartbeat!

that a blocked message from you is stalking me, so write whatever you want.  I can't read your post, so you are just doubling down on moron.  Stalking is a form a mental illness, so thanks for confirming you are mentally unbalanced.

without equal.  You have 39 posts on TER in the last year and none the two years before that.  Do you see the irony in admitting I have a provider GF and then suggesting I live with my deceased mother?  Nothing quite like making YOURSELF out to be a liar.   LOL

Oh that's really gross, you mean you live with your deceased mother? Wow just like Psycho. By the way spending your life on a sex board with a dozen other lonely guys and a half dozen elderly hookers is not I place I want to spend too much time. So I take being insignificant here as a complement. Thank you Cou Cou xoxo

At 2:02 he posted the above statements:
"I'm not reading your posts..."
"I can't read your post..."

Another loser stalk!!!  

Are you always this socially awkward?   The stupidity of yutes never ceases to amaze me.  Lol  

Do you see the irony in accusing someone of bashing other posters when all YOU do is bash other posters.  In fact, you even bashed the poster you accuse of bashing other posters when you called him "socially awkward" a stupid 'yute'.

about your predisposition towards psychosis according to a police psychologist explaining a stalker profile.  Try to explain why each one of his points does not apply to you and your behavior here.  Good luck.