It really sucks when a hobbyist is so careless with e-mails or phone calls that an SO interecpts.  Number 1, she is very, very hurt.  This is the only area that I hold conflict in my participation.  Number 2, my yahoo account has been hacked 2 days after I get the call from the angry SO.  Don't know if it is related, but if it is, it is very possible that I have correspondence or folders of friends who are now vulnerable.  This is the 3rd time I have been contacted by a lady who feels very betrayed and humiliated since I have participated in this arena.  So if anyone who has corresponded with me recently, or we might be friends of any type gets wierd approaches. This is probably why.....Be smart, think about who you might hurt.  If married or attached guys must participate, than at least have enough compassion to protect your woman from pain.  I have been forced to change my domain and rebuild my website, as well as change my e-mail for YOUR protection.  My profile here will be updated shortly  My .com website is still open, I can't delete it until YAHOO finally responds.  Can't even cancel it unless I can login.  So sending tons of e-mails to yahoo, and getting generic responses, so whoever is sending e-mails to the old address are possibly being monitored by hostiles....... same domain name, but with .net now for new info....Please be safe and careful!!!!

The world is full of f*ck-ups and cautious caring people get impacted.

hopefully, time and inconvenience is the only price that you will have to pay.

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. . . I was no longer attached when I started hobbying, so it's fine with me. You have a kind heart, but that would cause you to lose some business -- I'm sure you already know that.

Like SilkShaft, I also applaud the spirit of your original post. But I don't quite understand your second post.  I fully support your prerogative to see only unattached, unmarried men (I leave to you the challenge of sorting the wheat from the chaff).  But who are you afraid of being rejected by?  You don't want to see married men and single guys shouldn't care, should they?

Best wishes going forward.
MD

Why I think that escorts, for the most part, are quality people!  especially the ones that I have met.  Having laughed with them, cried with them, sharing issues surrounding child rearing etc.  

I am divorced, have been for a few years.  I did not hobby while married, I was faithful, and supportive.  After years of an abusive marriage (she to me) - she divorced me - and I embraced this hobby - along with several parts of female anatomy!  I find that I am now more exploratory and indeed have more fun.  My only complaint is that I am not as young as I used to be...  But, the women I have met in this hobby seem to be genuinely warm, open and caring.  Even the occasional bitch who comes on TER has something of value to say and a perspective on the human condition to offer.  That other men who are married are in this hobby no longer bothers me.  What does bother me, is that they would be so careless as to permit their hobby to be discovered.  There is little of good that could come from that.  

I would care too much for the ladies that I see,  to wish them to have to deal with a painful (and potentially harmful) encounter.  But that is just me, and I am green.

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Thanks for the feedback, guess I was a little overzealous.  I meet lots of great people.  Every one has their reasons I suppose, but geez, we girls are always hearing the word "discrete"!!

Thanks for the feedback!

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-- Modified on 2/17/2006 3:53:34 PM

I think you'll do a lot more business if you still see married guys. Married guys have to make up what, 75%+ of all clients? I know I never needed to hobby til I got married. Funny how that works.

That must have been a difficult decision for you. Now that you've made it, put it behind you, have fun and be safe.

I must point out that the shocked and upset wife is also often at fault for reasons that I'm sure do not need repetition in this forum.
I believe that many times, escorts do not break up marriages, they may actually save them.  (Whether they are worth saving is, of course, another matter.)

I have always estimated married clients represented about 50% and the TER surveys seem to support that.  As for wives being at fault, sometimes that could be true, some times it is certainly true, and often times it is really NOT.  I have been a neglected wife, who was doing my best, to be attractive, sexually enthusiastic, house clean, good meals, civic minded, blah blah balh.... but, I liked daring, adventurous guys, and that didn't change when they married me.  I really don't care about the reasons.  I am only trying to provide a quality service.  Regardless of who's fault, guys need to be discreet as well.  People get hurt.  I am currently very worried about who might be in my inbox, reading correspondence that is personal between my clients and myself.  Some of them can be hurt professionally, and perhaps loose livelyhood, marraiges, children through this incident if that is what is happening to my e-mail account.   It really has me worried.  Besides the fact a woman is hurt, a very unstable person, could cause serious problems for YOU GUYS. Many people could be impacted, even children.  That is one of the problems with this cloak and dagger act we have to do.  I have been working at getting the old site down for 2 days now because I can't edit it, so more are sending e-mails to that account that is listed on that site, ugh.  I have figured out a way to avoid this in the future now.  All e-mails will be forwarded to a second e-mail account prior to opening and e-mail address listed on my site will always be empty.  Don't know what else to do to protect those of you who are careful not to hurt important people in their lives, even if they don't like them..... *shrug*

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some guys don't like their wives too much and probably want them to know that they are cheating on them.  Unfortunately it's part of the hazards of the business.  Even if you change the phone/email, some guy will purposely leak the info to his wife someday to drive her crazy.  ...and who know, maybe she deserves it.

OMG...have you been away, or have I? I honestly can't remember....

How your email or website is hacked.  Unless you are bad at picking or protecting your passwords....?  Just include a random set of letters and digits and you'll be fine.

I haven't posted much, but I've been around, where have you been LEX?

Not necessarily, any password, no matter how cryptic it may look to a human is utlimately a series of characters.  In theory any password can be hacked by just running through the endless permuations of characters.

In Jenni's case I would seriously consider not keeping any email on a hosted server.  If practicle, you would be better off dragging your email into a folder and encrypting it with something like WinZip.

...I'm in Turin, Italy preparing my go at synchronized snow-angel-making. The competition is tomorrow...wish me luck!

The world of the internet is not private. Emails form work remain on the bosses servers for ever, emails through AOL remain for ever, remember  its a cruel world

Bwahhhhhhhhh Haaaaaaaa!  I'm sure you'll bring home the GOLD!

Great Idea Nerd!  Thanks.........

I know some men throw it in their wives faces.  Happened to me when I was married at the age of 21.  I had a SHITTY, mean, nasty asshole for a husband who always wanted to prove to everyone what a stud he was. He's old, broke, still hostile and all alone now.  You sound just like him.  Any man who is that unhappy or just plain selfish to purposely do something like that should get divorced and move on. I had done nothing but try to be a good little wifey.  So I moved on.  This thread is not about bashing wives.  It is quite the opposite.  Sick of it ALWAYS being the fault of the wives, PURE BULLSHIT......Shame on you.  I don't believe monogamy is any healthier for a woman than it is for a man anymore.  But I bet you believe SHE should be true don't you?  Even if you hate her.  Ugh.

Passwords can be made that will take a century to hack. Some Hobby guides for safe computing are:

1.) If you are going to leave any history on public mail servers or store client details there you have to have a rock solid passcode that can be remembered and never written down.  A minimum of 8 to 10 characters that is essentially nonsensical like  "46#29Ze68B."

2. Then make sure you are running good antivirus software that is updated every few days. Check that software frequently to see if any programs are bing exempted from screening ( Some programs like NetNanny, Spectorsoft and others that are used to screen and record every movement on a computer will shunt themselves outside the antivirus detection schemes.)

3. Use a browser like Netscape or Firefox that can be instructed to wipe out all traces of any internet activity when the browers is closed.

4. Internet Explorer uses should make it a practice to clear all cookies, objects and browser history before exiting a session. Never walk off with the browser left open, alwasy clear it and close it.

Leave no tracks, have a great crypto passcode and never write it out or leave it laying about.

Hope this helps.

daPlow

"This thread is not about bashing wives.  It is quite the opposite.  Sick of it ALWAYS being the fault of the wives, PURE BULLSHIT......Shame on you"
Jen,  Reread my message, I wasn't trying to bash men or women, but I am telling it like it is.  You know how these things get between men and women, one trying to hurt the other one (both men and women).  I guess you could have thought that I was against guys since I stated that I think guys are capable of doing this sort of thing (after all it's a rotten thing to try and hurt someone in this way), but you took it as a purely antifemale thing.  Shame on you!  And do I think women deserve this type of this thing, sure, if they are trying to do the same.  I heard of a story of a doctors wife having an illicit affair with a man, telling the husband about it and driving him crazy to the point where he killed her in anger, ending his career and essentially his life.  Personally I know of a wife of a college professor who, when mad, took his very expensive wine collection and dumped it.  This was his hobby, one that he loved and took him a while to collect. I bet you were hurt back when you were 21, but I can tell you that this happens to both men and women. Guys can be mistreated by women, and in my opinion it happens 50% of the time.  Good luck with things.