or helplessly in lust. Man this is hard.

😜JK. But honestly I think you made it sound harder than it is. I have a couple of friends who are escorts and in successful relationships. It's not hard. It requires more dedication and nurturing. It's probably harder on the guy for sure.

It is really just LUST.  We get hooked on the endorphins we get from having hot sex with certain girls, and then we can't get enough of them.  The problem for some guys is that they cross over to the dark side and fall in love.  Then they're screwed.  Being in a one-sided love match is the worst possible position and you open yourself up for all manner of hustle from an enterprising girl that realizes you have fallen for her.  

12 years and I've had several neverending relationships. Still going strong or staying in tune with most, unless they retired or moved.  

Which is neither (romantic) love nor helpless lust. Probably the closest I can come for a label is "friends with benefits."  That's what I strive for with providers.  Someone who's like a good friend, who's lots of fun to hang out with and talk with (about anything), very comfortable with each other.  Oh, and they'll have sex with me, and have fun doing it.  If I love them, it's the love one has for a friend.  There's gonna be some lust there too, but viewing these women as friends (with benefits!) helps me keep it under control.

I call it "friends with PAID benefits."   It seems more accurate to me, an keeps things in perspective.

and one I usually easily comply with. It just so happens I enjoy everything you describe a little more than usual with two women.  

With time and distance. Even sometimes closing the deal can derail lust. Love can fuck with even the perfect situation and is to be taken seriously.  
    I know a 35 yr old man who could have had weekly sex with a smoking hot 20 yr old college student nsa until she finished her masters but completely fucked it up by telling her he loved her, tried introducing her to his 8 yr old daughter.  
    Lust that can be fulfilled can be amazing. Love that can't will only lead to heartbreak. In this arena lust can most likely be fulfilled. Love? Honestly I won't tell you no chance but good luck.

With enough money I believe your lust is a non issue. Love is your own mess to deal with.

It's not lust if it's just one.  Know how you feel, though.  I had to make a choice between two for this week-end...it can be difficult, and it wasn't supposed to work that way when we first entered the game.  But I am happy with seeing the lady I've known for over eight years...overnight planned, dinner, movie, and then back to her hotel or my place for...   Just enjoy while you can...play it right, you might be still smiling years down the road.

Don't tell me that there is a pussy out there that you never got tired of fucking.

Utterly in lust?  Enjoy the ride while it lasts!  Surf's up!

Absolutely!!!

The ladies retire, and I get older every day. In both ways, the lust fades. Don't try to manage anything. Just enjoy the hell out of it while you can. Thinking about upcoming sessions with my lusty friends got me through many a tedious day at work. My co workers used to ask me why I had a far off look in my eyes, and a nasty smile on my face.

I fuck someone else

I was also asking how YOU handle(d) it. I know it's hard for some guys to admit certain things that they enjoy or similar situations  
that they've been in.  

do you have the impression I don't ... for example, if I wanted anal and had a plane ticket to Atlanta, I'd be fucking ...... who?

Standard advice, continue to diversify. That's probably the most effective way to power through an obsession.

leave home kind of attached.  As two of my favorites told me they were getting attached and no longer in the business, I wished them both well. I still hear from time to time for the one that left for Florida, particularly when she needs medical advice and I have not heart from the other one in Indiana. In any case i wished them both well and no separation pain or anxiety.  
My real danger occurred when I fell madly in love with a friend with benefits and she with me.  I finally had to cut it because i was ready to leave my wife, kids, grandkids etc.  
This was hard because we are sitll both in love with each other and have not even had dinner together as that would be too painful.  
The one crazy "love" I had was a deep lust and this one was easy. I used strong negative feedback to turn myself off of her and within a week or two every time we ran into each other I got a bit nauseated.  
You can handle the even deepest lust disguised as love;it is the true love that risks to get you.

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... even trying to define 'lust', I say let's try and experiment and look at this question without using labels.  

Do I love and cherish some of my providers?  Do I care about them deeply?  Would I do anything within my power to help them in bad situations?  Hell yeah...but I don't "own" them, and they don't "own" me.  They don't have just one lover, and I'm not going to have just one lover.  A rotation keeps us balanced.

always an option to chase the blues away when you lose a regular for whatever reason.

and more and more and more ... not til I'm blind, but definitely  
until I need glasses ... 👅

Or at least being too far "in lust". A simple cure for being too far in lust with a hooker is too simply book her every couple of days until there is no "mystery" left. Most of the time lust will fade without going to such extremes. Case in point, I saw a little SB last week who I had a "very nice" time with, the next morning I went and saw a hooker, a cute little Thai spinner who completely knocked my socks off, so much I couldn't get her out of my mind for days. I saw the same SB Tuesday night, had a great time with her, but and then saw the Thai hooker the next day on Wednesday. The sex was great once again, but not so great that I found myself drooling over her for days. Most likely the next time I see her will be my last. The infatuation will have run it's course.

... such as there's money involved.  If you want to be brutally accurate, you should say "PAID friends with PAID benefits."  Although in a couple of cases I developed friendships with providers that transcended P4P.

still going strong ... just not as often and not tired of her yet. If you only knew .... can't say I'll ever tire of her, but then again ... it's not a contest. We'll fuck like bunnies until our ears fall off I reckon.  

If you are paying the same woman for eight years.