Besides, I have no interest in dating someone anywhere close to my age (almost 64).  I am divorced long time, but still like to get my noodle wet and serviced.

I understand about the aggressive ladies at your office, but never had that happen to me, I was a teacher.  Most of the women were married, or young enough so that they would not give me a second look (they didn't know how talented my tongue is).

So, after I retired, I started hobbying.  Having a blast, loving it.  I get laid by hot women, but don't have to deal with the drama of dating.

Swim

It's great when every once in a while a post like this shows up. Somehow someway some bastard feels the need to vent and it makes for great discussion.
You want to know why others do it, maybe to justify why you do it. Otherwise why would you even take the time to put it out there.

You're married. You fuck around. You justify it.
That is the classic example of most males being nothing other than little boys. You want what you want when you want it and getting it only prevents you from throwing a tantrum.

"cannot resist the temptation".
Bullshit spineless pussy statement. A man makes his own way, makes his own decisions, his own values, and does whatever it takes to live his life to that standard.
You? Not so much.

You, and every guy here who fucks around, are merely selfish with no fortitude.

Just sharing. You asked....lol.

I've always been a scum bag,low life cheater, no matter how great my GF.
 Its in my blood. I sometimes wish I was different but when the urge hits, I'm happy I am not.
I've never had a problem doing my friends GFs, or my GFs friends, or my ex wife's sister, when we were married.
Many GFs knew how I am, but convinced themselves they could tame me and make me monogamous. It never happened.
 I cheated on my mistress when I was married.
I noticed as the birthdays flew by , the harder the next score became.
Once I discovered TER and felt  the ease and simplicity,I became a lazy cheater.

But in the process of getting all worked up you make no sense at all. That's ok. This whole taking a stand thing is new for you, as is this hobby apparently, so we cut you some slack.

How you and the OP have any affect on my paying my "rent", I'm still at a loss to figure out where that came from. I own the trailer park and the land it sits on. That, with everything else I own, allows me to live any way, and do anything, I want to.

So you are open and up front with your wife about what you feel the need to do with your old, shriveled balls. How nice for you both.

As my post was predicated on those who don't do things out in the open and therefore "cheat", what the fuck does it have to do with you, and what got your little panties in such a knot?

So nothing but good wishes to your north of 60 ass, your justification for things, and your old-ass wife who's probably fucking the pool boy, yard guy, UPS man, and filling in time between with seriously powered battery devices ever since the day you couldn't fill the need.

Oh, and to end, LOL!

I can relate... I'm not shy Homer but I have had ZERO luck in the civie world and I have my entire adult life.. Very few g/f's and I am pushing 47 now...

That's about it for me, it's the lazy approach to getting laid, or my plan C for a given night.

The types of places where you can meet girls interested in casual sex aren't exactly full of winners, and sobriety is often an issue.
Outside of the seedy nightlife, there are numerous hoops to jump through on your way to the bedroom. "Hobby" - the stupid fucking term that it is - equals cutting to the chase.  

I'm just curious why most of us hobby.  Please be honest if you care to reply.  

Here is my reason:

First of all, I have been married for 20+ years to a wonderful woman.  Our sex life was always great and then she hit menopause.  She still loves me (and I love her), but our sex life is only about twice per month these days.  If she still had the sex drive I have I might not hobby at all.  (And please don't think she is screwing around on me because her job does not provide that option - that is all I have to comment on that).

My problem is I simply cannot resist the temptation of younger women.

I hold an upper management position at my company and work with many younger, very attractive women.  Some are what I would consider to be predatory ("let me try to fuck an executive") in nature.  I used to go to the "happy hours" on Friday nights, but always left around 7:30 pm because I could sense some women were being too flirtatious.  I do not want to lose my job.  So, since I cannot take that kind of chance, I took the plunge into hobbying about 8 years ago .  I figured it would provide me with the outlet to satisfy my urges and to be with younger, attractive women, but with no strings attached.  It's worked well so far.

I usually only have about 5 sessions per year and do so with mainly repeat providers, although I do dabble in with a new provider now and then based on reviews on TER.  I usually schedule appoinments for 2 or 3 hours.  About 5 years ago, I thought I might get addicted to this hobby, but I've been able to control my urges and not over indulge or go bankrupt in the process.

Anyone else care to share?

You pretty much described me, except I may dabble twice as often at half the appointment time length.

Not that I really have a problem with that in civvie life. Not married, don't give a fuck what anyone thinks what I do. Just the idea of handing over cash without going thru all the bullshit of dating and knowing you're gonna get laid appeals to me.

Did anybody buy that? lol!

married longer.  Once menopause came and we were raising a family, the home sex began to disapear.  I enjoy being with younger women and have seen ladies from 20 to 40's.  As long as the equipment works, I want to use it.

So who the fuck are you to judge?  If it weren't for guys like the OP (and me) you'd wouldn't be able to pay the rent at the trailer park.  OK, I flamed.  But only because you did first.  The reality is there are lots of guys north of 60 who still have libidos.  In the meantime, our wives, whom we actually do care about, have lost theirs.  Some of them (like mine) know we hobby.  So we're not even cheating.  Point is, don't be so quick to judge until you've walked in our shoes.  In my case I told my wife I could no longer live in a sexless marriage and that, while I wanted to stay married and work things out, I was not willing to deny my sexuality and my condition, going forward, was for an open marriage.  She agreed.  I hobbied.  Fuck anyone who wants to judge that!  And don't weasel out of your posts by adding LOL at the end.  Pussy.

Yeah, I do.  See my post below re the judgemental alias douchbag.

Sorry, but someone had to use that cheapo line.

8o)

But seriously folks...

I started hobbying right out of college.  I was a virgin and getting no where in the civie dating field.  I tried it and I liked it.

I did have some civie dates, some psychotherapy and then found a wife, so I had a few lacunae in my hobbying but never for more that a few years which is about all it took for my sex life with the wife to go south.

As income rose so did my frequency, though now both are on a bit of a down turn but I'm not complaining.

I find it a wonderful social life and know many wonderful women without the hassle of dating.

I am too shy so have almost zero luck in the civie world. I am in my early 30's and only had one GF many years ago. All I remember it was a lot of stress and headache! I know for most 'normal' people civie sex is as easy as 1-2-3. I wish it were like that for me..

Was monogamous with my wife for 10 yrs, infact she was the only one till I started hobbying. However after two kids, her sex drive took a big plunge and now hardly get it once a month. She is still young and super sexy which makes it harder on my sex drive....

Feeling it was too soon for curtains to fall on my sex drive, I made a bold move and took the plunge and have been reliving my frustrations for the last year.....

Chronologically speaking, you are far too young (so you claim to be in your early 30's) to have given up on civvie dating altogether! I think that for someone like you, the Hobby is a perfect complement as a confidence booster. Providers do put on an act, but some are more genuine and caring than others. Try to pick their brains and tell then straight out about your shyness with civvie women. Women in general, find vulnerability in a man an attractive attribute, unless they can detect inherent weakness. There are also many books which you can read, but I would generally stay away from any book which teaches and preaches "pick up lines" Try to learn jokes and hone your skills on topic of humor! Woman love to laugh and be with a humorous person.

its too easy not to, and i can. although i fear prolonged activity here, with little to no civie stuff recently, may be a bit detrimental. but i am having a hell of a good time here

Wow, I'll bet you really do own a trailer park!  How classy! As for what this thread has to do with me, have you noticed this is actually a discussion board?  As for my north of 60 ass, spend more time worrying about yourself.  My north of 60 ass kicks younger ass (like yours?) all the time.
PS:  My wife gets to fuck the pool boy, the UPS guy or anybody she wants.  That's part of our deal.  And, as for not having any balls, keep hiding behind your alias, pussy.
PPS:  As for being new to the hobby, I was doing it before it was called a "hobby" and before there was an Internet.  Back when your mommy was still changing your Pampers.

I wish i had started years ago. I love to have sex, but it's just really not worth all the drama in the civvie world. I'm mid 40's, two kids and a few businesses. If i meet a woman my age, she also has children, and usually one or two "recent" ones. Almost all want to immediately move in and "become the mother my kids need". Most are looking for their "retirement husband" and that's not going to be me.  My kids are teenagers and will be in college in a few years. I'm going to be as dedicated as possible until it's an empty nest, and then I might re-evaluate the civvie thing.

This hobby is perfect for someone who wants to meet interesting people and have a great time. I live in an area where there really isn't any local talent, and so visitors are always booked! For some real TLC and GFE I've met a MP girl who is by far the best kisser I've met in a long time! And at the end of the hour, I'm refreshed and back to my sane little corner of the world.

So for me, this is a great little escape. My marriage ended peacefully after 20 years, but i'm in no way ready to be monogamous now that i've found this hobby.

Married a bit longer, wife has no interest in sex at all. Amused myself for a few years. My wife and I also have always liked to spend a lot of time apart. She likes to be alone, enjoys having me out of the house, and I have always had a lot of friends and hobbies. This works for us, though we actually spend more time together and are more comfortably affectionate now than ever.

This is just my newest hobby, as well as an excellent way to satisfy my sex drive, which has not gone away quite yet.  Honestly, while she would not be happy about me hobbying, she is very happy about my new, more relaxed, more affectionate self, and to the degree it gives her more alone time, that works, too.

Or you can just call me a horny, old, unfaithful, scumbag who like to diddle ladies half (more or less) my age - that works, too. Or maybe I am a repressed sensualist who is learning to let go and explore my sensual side. Sometime I think I do it just because of the joy in experiencing a virtuoso performance, for that is what I have experiences at times, and no I do not mean just because it felt very good - I can tell when I am in the presence of a very talented person who is at the top of her game, and it is great.

There is more than one truth, more than one reason. Some just do it to screw and others do it because it works for us on many levels. It is an exploration and an education, much more so than I expected.

Zig

No doubt you are right, zig.  Don't worry, I'm done.

but I married a younger woman, had a couple of nice kids and she turned out not to be marriage or mom material.  she took off when the going got tough in the last couple of years.  man, the hobby is perfect -- hotties, hello, goodbye.  I like being a dad and when i think of civvie women now, my big head's first thought is "good mommy for my kids?"

not how i pictured things going, but it's working this week.

...everything about them. they are extremely sensual and i feel drawn toward them (like a bee to a flower), how can one have enough of them?! it´s only natural, after all deep inside we´re all mammals and as such, only 7% of us will be (or are) monogamous (ok, it may not be a fair comparison but makes you wonder...) i´m in my mid-30´s and happily married. when i met my wife i knew right away i would marry her someday, although i wasn´t looking to get married at that time, which became a problem. i could not "freeze" her until i was ready. so we went back and forth being together and not for a while (i saw other girls but could not get her out of my mind), and when the time came to pop the question (6 years later) i had to make a decision/compromise: what type of woman i saw myself growing old with? in my (maybe twisted) mind there are two types: cute and hot (and some very rare exceptions which are both). i understood that a soulmate (yes, i know what you´re thinking, but i do feel we are soulmates) would be much harder to find than a hot, sexy girl. so, to me, hobbying is a way to have a taste of both worlds, with no drama or complications.

I'm also single and in my early 30s and stumbled onto hobbying relatively recently.  Significant health issues which have developed over several years have prevented me from having the desire or energy to build a meaningful romantic relationship.  I can offer a woman little more than bitterness and cynicism.  However, I can sustain the energy and good cheer for an enjoyable hour session and in this sense hobbying has turned into a real solace, although it's very frustrating when poor well-being keeps making me put off sessions week after week.  I hobby to briefly live the fantasy and remember in short flashes the carefree joys life holds.  It's better than drinking and more exciting than therapy.

Quoted for truth.

And I'd like to add that for some of us, the wife cheated first... multiple times. How can you judge me if you don't know my story?

Ditto and fucking ditto.  When we had our first kid, my wife completely changed.  I got pushed to the back burner and she lost all interest in sex.  That was 11 years ago.  I went 8 years without. EIGHT YEARS and stayed loyal.  Then I found another woman...and another...which led to finding hobbying.

If she isn't interested in sex then that's her choice.  But as I told her, I will NEVER go without sex again.  And I haven't.  Her loss.

You got it right.  We all love women but our marriages are still important to us.  Better to hobby than to get a girlfriend who tries to ruin your life.

Same reason here.  I recently had a GF, who decided to end it with me I guess b/c she wanted someone with exp.  I also have not had any other since really way many years ago if I even want to call it a relationship.  I am an emotional wreck.  I don't know how other guys can civie date and get into bed so easily. I can't. Its extremely hard for me, and hence has led me to here.  I have yet to have my first appt, and hope it will bring some relief and encouragement.  Its nice to know that there is some others like me out there.  Thanks for the post and information here.

I could play in that arena if I wanted to.  But at 50, with four failed LTR's behind me, the hobby is where I want to be at this time.  I've done things as a hobbyist that I could never have done in the civvie arena...having several ongoing friendships with ladies w/o the exclusiveness and petty jealousies, having choices on ladies I want to spend time with, being able to do doubles at will, being able to travel just about anywhere and being able to arrange for fun and games with almost 100% certainty that the outcome will be positive.  Yeah, this is the place far me...