I'm more upset about the period thing! I posted about what to do when touring on one's period etc about two months ago. I would never engage someone and deny DATY. And to say, don't look or smell? Yuck!
Then to TALK to your SO. This woman must be stopped! Out her. If she's that unprofessional, chances are, she's not a TER member. Out her ASAP. She gives all providers a bad name!

WHO is this dangerous disaster of a woman????  

WHERE is she from (what city)???  

WHY was she bugging you at home ?

WHY did you TIP this bitch after a CBJ and she's got a rag on????

I feel for you Bro!  I've had some psycho providers in my life as well. many are not wrapped too tight, and have emotional, substance, or mental issues.

I fuck chicks on the rag all the time.  It's the covered  rubber cock sucking, and talking to his wife that gets my dander up.

Patooie!

Went to see a new provider 2 weeks ago.  Price was right, and even gave a tip.  Should I complain that the expected BBBJ was really a covered BJ, and this is after I took a shower at her place upon arriving after a long day. Oh yah, when I attempted to get friendly with the kitty, I was told it she was at the end of her cycle and therefore I needed to keep a little distance.  Hands were okay, but no smell or taste.  Oh yah, one more thing, she texted me earlier in the day trying to make my appointment one hour earlier-I had left my cell phone in my car and did not see the message until I left work, which was later than I expected.  Since i was going to be 15 minutes late, i asked her if she just wanted to cancel, but she said come on over anyway.  Now i am a relative newbie so I need help from the experts.  I am usually upfront- i tell the girl my name, what I do, and she can check me out and make sure I am not a cop.  Well this broad calls my office phone (thereby involving other people) last night, and my phones are transferred to my house since I am a professional in a small town.  Well my wife answers the phone and says some girl expects me to call her personally because she has a headache.  Naturally I am in hot shit.   I will text her never to call me again.  I hope this ends things. She has right to make a living, but I have a right to be left alone except when I want some action.

Just because someone charges a fee doesn't make them a qualified professional in their field. Hey, I could put out a sign offering plastic surgery for $200 and it wouldn't make anyone who hired me wise. (Note: I am not a plastic surgeon.)

I do not stereotype based upon price, as when I hobbied I found no appreciable difference in the quality of offerings once a certain threshold had been passed. Even so, it seems to me from your wording that the price was an important consideration in your choosing that particular provider.

I'm going to give you my thoughts on this, and you can feel free to ignore.

When you are picking someone with whom to have sex, even p4p sex, price should be your last consideration. FIRST ascertain the woman's professional qualifications (good rep, been in business for a while, etc.), THEN if what she offers is what you want. Then try, through various indirect means to make some assessment as to her character.

Then, look at her rates. If she charges $100 or if she charges $1200 doesn't matter. If she is readily affordable -- great. Go see her right away. If her rates are high -- save up. It is better to have an excellent experience once in a month or two or three than to have a so-so experience frequently.

Sex is heavy duty stuff, and it can certainly have the result of spreading STDs, but can also result in other unforeseen events. In my opinion, it is better to leave your clothes on and walk away than to bed someone you feel cannot be trusted in her professional capacity either because she just has no clue or has the potential for active malice.

In the future, my advice is to look at price AFTER you have assessed the lady's other qualifications. If she turns out to be affordable -- and many great ladies ARE affordable -- great. If she turns out to be a bit pricey, save your pennies.

Forgetting to assess a lady's other qualities in pursuit of cheapness when it comes to sex partners is a false economy in the long run.

Bummer about what happened, and what didn't happen, on your date.  I'm not sure I would have even wanted to use fingers if she was in the situation you described.  

The phone thing is what really bothers me.  Although you should have kept your cell phone with you, for just in case emergencies, she was wrong to call your office phone at night.  Did you make it clear to her to only call during office hours?  You don't mention that.  However, she should have hung up or made up some kind of story when your wife answered.  I would recommend staying away from this gal, don't think she can be trusted, IMHO, which you seem to be trying to do.

This appalls me!!! It's women out there like this that give amazing providers like myself a bad name! I take great pride in myself and how I do things. And I have the worries of stalkers that threaten to post fraudulent posts because I won't see him.....and then I read this. I post myself as 'The Keeper of Your Secrets'.... just tragic this woman took it upon yourself to impose herself on your private life after subjecting you to such an awful visit....AND why on earth did you stay for all of this.

I have to agree....some of this just doesn't add up. But it's just too bad in general. For the good providers...for the good hobbyists....it's all unfortunate. I do agree....check out her reviews, and rely on consistancy. I take pride in my reviews...but do have a bad one as a man insisted I keep an appointment the day my pipe busted in my house after it had already been rescheduled...we ALL have a bad day. AND it cost me a review. YOU must put up a review on this provider if possible....but as noted....if she is the MESS she seems to sound to be....she is not a member of TER.
I am all over the place with this reply as it sends my mind swirling into anger!

I don't get it you saw this provider 2 wks ago so why is she calling your work# last night?
You are right you are in deep shit with your wife because a provider did not know the meaning of being discreet.I would suggest in the future if you give a provider your work info to specify a certain time she can call or the hours you are available.Doing your research will guarantee a much better time than what you described above you did not say the lady you saw was well-reviewed or not.If not stick with well-reviewed ladies so you know what to expect.
good luck sorry to hear that your appointment ultimately has turned into such a disaster.

Like Date Check, P411 or RS2000?  The sites will minimize what info you need to give the provider. I sure hope you have a hobby phone!

Newbie rules 1 & 2: Get a hobby email and hobby phone.  Why you gave her your business info as a means to contact you is baffling.

Rule 3:  See well reviewed ladies... Should solve the nasty Ho surprises.

Hope your wife believes your excuse.

on your work number and then talking to anyone else who answered.   Provider 101:  never talk to others who answer.  
Do you use a hobby phone?  I thouoght you might because you "left your phone in your car" which is what I'd do (leave it locked in car trunk) if I had other business prior to a hook-up.
Can you block her number from your home/office phone?  

Thank you all for your advice.  A hobby phone is probably a good idea.  The girl had  most all good reviews.  I am a professional in a small town - I drove 90 minutes to see this broad.  I certainly don't want any trouble. my wife knows i am human.  I do not want this girl to bother me at work. I made my date with her on my personal cell phone.  it would have been embarrassing enough if she had called it while I am with my wife. I had told her I was a medical specialist and where i lived so she put 2 and 2 together and looked up my office number.  Now what happens if she calls my office during regular hours?  I have an office staff AND MY WIFE IS THE OFFICE MANAGER!  i do not need any blackmail issues.  Most every provider I have been with has made comments about the economy.  Obviously they want to make some money so they try to hustle old clients.  i still can't find where i placed my cell phone so went on the Verizon website this morning  and logged onto my account and texted the girl:"lose my phone number!'  i will let this die down a bit then i probably will give a rating- until then let us just say that she is an independent outside Tampa