Ok, I've read some of the responses.  First, in my self defense, I just started looking at this board a few days ago so that is why I never seen any previous questions regarding this.
Secondly: Regarding my age and hers, shes in her late 20s and I'm early 40s.  I'm not a rich man and she knows it. In many discussions we've had even before it got this far I can tell she is NOT money hungry, is very down to earth and sees things much the same as I do.  Much of this was revealed to me before I told her where I was at on issues.  She has a very good reputation as an honest person and has only been a provider for a short time.  I haven't left my wife yet and our long term plans are to wait it out.  She is hoping the economy picks back up and she can restart her previous business that went sour w/ the bad times.  Right now we are taking it day by day and hope it works out. Now tell me what you think.

Nevermind.

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Good points all of them, and yes we are both discussing the situation as we speak.  Nothing drastic is planned for the short term and whatever is done is a ways away.  I've told her I want to wait until my youngest is in college.  She has her reasons to wait also which I think are valid. Keep up the great comments. I'm all ears.

You and your wife both a plan for what to do after the kids are gone, the problem is yours doesn't include her.  What are going to do when she asks you where you want to live when you retire etc.?  Are you going to tell her, as soon as the kids are gone, I'm out of here?  Does your wife work now, because if she doesn't you need to tell her to start finding a career.  Better then about cutting the old profit/pension fund in half too and see how that works.  If you have more than a year or two to wait, this isn't going to happen.  If you can keep it togehter that well to have a happy, healthy household for your kids, then I don't see you ultimately leaving her.  And if you really care for your wife at all, this really is unfair to her.  She is going to be an old hag and you are going to have some young chick you have been cultivating all this time.
Hey, but if your wife already  knows you are gone after the kids are gone, well then never mind.

you wrote:  She is going to be an old hag and you are going to have some young chick you have been cultivating all this time.


You remember .... we didn't INVENT the double standard .... we merely profit from it!

Every time I seen a 60 y/o man walking down Waikiki Beach with a 22 y/o bimbo on his arm ... I say to myself:  THE SYSTEM WORKS!  LIFE IS GOOD!

The good news too is after the 22yo gives the 60yo a heart attack, she will right around the right maturity and monetary level for me LOL GRIN