Over the past couple of weeks there have been two providers I was excited about seeing. When I contacted them they insisted on me giving them my full name. This was in addition to references. I was not given another screening option. Is this becoming the new norm?
I politely declined, but I’m curious, how many of providers ask for it? How many hobbyists would actually give their names?  
This seems to be a big piece of info to give out to someone I haven’t met. I might be willing to entertain it if the woman gave me her real name, but fat chance of that happening.
What do you guys think? It’s a shame because I’ve been trying to make these women work with my schedule for a while. And I’d really like to see them.

This might be THE most talked about topic on all of TER.

It depends on who the provider is. If she has a descent reputation and seems trust worthy, I would give her my full name. But I feel more comfortable giving my full name to known provider because it is better than spend a picture of your face or scanning photo ID.

Eh. I don’t really read the forums.

No one gets my real name.  You can have my P411 info with more than a dozen OKs and check with any of them.  I'll also give you two of my most recent references.  If that's enough, then bye and on to the next one.

and you can also take a quick look at any member's previous posts by clicking on "see my posts"

If P411 isn't enough...........  well, I've never come across a situation where P411 was not good enough.

... who shared their real-life identities with me.  And I knew that if it got out about their providing career, it would be big trouble for them.   In other words, the M.A.D. strategy.  

given my real name - won’t do it.  Several times I got into a email debate - for-fun- with a Provider who insisted on knowing my name.  Once, I said, “what’s your real name....”. Crickets of course.  
Fortunately, there are many other options for me to choose from🙂

I don’t read the comments a lot here.  And the info I was writing about earlier didn’t include my real name. I haven’t had anyone ask for it before 3 weeks ago.  
And, when I do a search of YOUR name, I see you prattling on about the same things over and over, so would it kill you to indulge a repeat thread?

and have never had trouble with any of the 50 or so gals I've met this way.

I give my name if asked.  Of course I'm not a public figure or a big executive or even a notable member of the community.

..to anyone I don't know. No one is that irresistible. If that were a problem for a provider I would move on.

Larsen E. Whipsnade.
Or, alternatively, Carl LaFong.

I have no problem with giving a provider my real name. I'm not married so there's nothing for me to worry about. In fact the current provider I'm seeing fessed up and told me her real name. Not really sure why she did this. I didn't even ask her for her real name. She even showed me her Driver's License. to prove her real name. I assumed her working name was her real name.

So ok, I will indulge you.  

I too follow the second option - I do provide my real name to ladies.  I value my privacy and my life outside the hobby.  If my verification on P411 and reviews on TER does not suffice, as much as I want to meet a lady, I pass, too m on lady.  

With good providers, this is part of the screening process.  Working with them will facilitate the response you want.  It isn't rocket science.

I'd rather use an alternate screening method, partially cause I'm lazy, but if a reputable provider wants my real name, and I really want to see her, I'll give it. I use email and not a screening form, though. I don't trust the pat that screening forms travel. (Another long-worn thread.)

My real name might be Fa Que ...

I ask so that I can make sure you’re not a cop period. Not to ruin your life. We aren’t these BSC bitter women you make us out to be. We just want to feel safe. Just like you all want someone well reviewed to feel safe also.

I always give out my real name to providers. It isn't much of a risk, because my first name/last name combination is very common.

Screening is the important illegal business. Somehow got to come up with something showing safe person. I had three hookers and client get my real name threat me and wanted to expose my children.

.... than someone who simply wants to arrest me.  Now, I'm not saying that some LEOs do NOT engage in predatory behavior (because of course there are always bad apples) and being arrested can certainly be traumatizing.   But if I had a choice, I'd rather be arrested than assaulted, stalked, etc.  

There are many factors that play into screening. I tend to want to see Link or/and references, you'll be shocked that a lot of people don't have references. In cases like that I will need your ID and Link. It's only for safety from LE and predators. Providers are marginalized group of people so our safety is put in more danger than the average person. I mean historically speaking. Discretion is necessary for you to feel comfortable and safe but there are a lot of people that take advantage of discretion to assault, rob, and violate providers. So yes I understand deep screening don't work for everybody, but its done for serious reasons.

Can't believe how many gents on here are unwilling to share their names.

I fully understand your point, and its up to you to establish your comfort level.

All of my clients that see me get a "suggestion" of what might be my name based on my PayPal deposits. If you don't deposit through paypal and use venmo or bitcoin then of course you wont get it; however, im not too afraid of telling anybody my name if they deserve it. My pseudonym is less for my safety and more for my sanity. I dont quite like my name. And many people either call me "White Girl" "Brittney" or "Star/ Star Girl" because i mever preferred my given name in any stance. Even as a child, everyone called me Rain, because it seemed to be the only thing i enjoyed in life.