I can get flustered easily and can actually be rather shy at times. Not embarrassed just an unexpected encounter. 
Completely understandable.
I agree with the other posters that discreation and good judgement are important. Perhaps it would be useful to discuss with regular friends what to do in case of an unscheduled public meeting. Personally, I would welcome a polite hello from you as with anyone else I was acquainted with in a business relationship. Of course, I respect those with a different opinion.
However, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. You are beautiful and I'm sure very nice.
Best wishes!!
Thanks babe, much appreciated!
wow, seriously, you have no need to blush, you are gorgeous!
if it was me at the mall i would have feigned confusion, walked over to you as if you were a stranger and asked you if you could show me where the restrooms were.
then i would have jumped your bones once we got there
Now I'm REALLY blushing!! Thanks for giving a good laugh before bed sweetie!
Just because a SO not next to a person does not mean they are not in the area.
This happened to me a few times, once was waiting in line to pay parking tickets, never said a word to each other
or even smiled at each other.
The second time I saw in the supermarket, she was with a boyfriend, she make it a point to walk up next to me to look at things on the shelf. Never said a word to her, but she was acting like she wanted me to say something.
Next time it happens just walk the other way and do nothing, it's the fastest way to lose a client and ruin someone life.
Just my 2cent on the subjec
As I read this thread it amazes me that although we are having hot sex with these ladies during sessions, then if you happen to see each other in public that you should just act like she has the plague and can't even offer a simple smile from a distance. I understand that each has their own life outside the hobby but a simple quick smile shouldn't be a problem.
Unless the two embraces and starts DFK in public there's nothing wrong with a nod, a smile or even a hello.
Unless the SO already know what the provider does for a living it can always be explained away as a coworker, an acquaintance at work etc..
...... why I now keep my "office" an hour away from where I live & socialize most.
Yes, it can feel awkward, but you both handled it well. Likely, if it happens to you more, it will start to feel less awkward. 
I've had the type of encounter you describe, but I've also had too many that went bad. So I now actively avoid that as much as possible.
Once, I was out to dinner and happened to notice a client at another table with a woman I assumed was his SO. I ignored him. BUT, after going to the ladies' room, I exited to find him waiting for me, demanding to know what I was doing there!
Because naturally, the only possible explanation was that I was stalking him. Sigh..... gotta love the narcissists. LOL.
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Everyone knows that hookers don't leave their incalls...ever!
Posted By: DebbieNoonerGirl
...... why I now keep my "office" an hour away from where I live & socialize most.
Yes, it can feel awkward, but you both handled it well. Likely, if it happens to you more, it will start to feel less awkward.
I've had the type of encounter you describe, but I've also had too many that went bad. So I now actively avoid that as much as possible.
Once, I was out to dinner and happened to notice a client at another table with a woman I assumed was his SO. I ignored him. BUT, after going to the ladies' room, I exited to find him waiting for me, demanding to know what I was doing there!
Because naturally, the only possible explanation was that I was stalking him. Sigh..... gotta love the narcissists. LOL.
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LMFAO! You're too cute Debbie!!
I live pretty close to where I've seen clients but I tour all over. One thing about where I live is that most hobbyist don't come here since it's not a hobby friendly city plus I'm a homebody. But I did see a client in a hotel going to see another provider we just smiled and greeted each other. He actually booked me that same night after he left her since it was his birthday lol.
Deb when you first got into the business did you know that your life changed? Also with the fact, that you chose to have the incall several miles from your house, you know that you have to be very careful. In fact I dare say you are extremely sensitive in everything that you might do. I dare say you do this because of the fact that people have an enormous propensity to discuss things of a revealing and salacious nature and I dare say that one of the reasons that you are so careful is that you don't want to get anyone hurt around you. Although I don't know if you have a professional life outside of this, but you want to keep your options open for opportunities in the future while making moves that will put you in a better position in life. This is an interesting concept because although your stage name is the nooner girl, there is nothing intellectually that says you are coming to the party late because you know the ramifications of most of your choices and decisions while working as an Adult Companionship provider.
Although you screen well, I dare say from time to time that you might come across an email from someone in your personal life that you might know casually that might want to be entertained by you. At that point, you might ask some questions that only you would know the answer to in order to successfully eliminate him from any further consideration. Continue to be guarded and calculated as it tends to serve you well in life as well as in the game.
Posted By: Duplicitouslust
This is an interesting concept because although your stage name is the nooner girl, there is nothing intellectually that says you are coming to the party late......
From that statement, I'm guessing you don't know what "nooner" means. LOL.
It means midday sex.
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PS~ If you'd like to discuss any of your assertions, please PM me. I "dare say" you know how to do that. LOL.
did you say, "eating"?
or, having just come out of the rest room, i would have said "guess. and it wasn't number 1!"
well, maybe #3. The safest thing is to look away & give no recognition. It is commonly recommended that if you must, that you can give a nod as you pass... as you would give an amiable stranger. You can have a laugh about it in your next meeting BCDs.
One never truely knows is the other party is alone... SO, children, aquaintances...
I don't have a SO, so she could walk up to me and give me a big sloppy kiss if she wanted. However, the best approach is as you've described, react as you might to any other person on the street.
t just like escorts have normal lives and go shopping and to restaurants, etc. ...
Us Johns also have many female acquaintances in our lives. And even though all of our SOs are jealous, prying types (ha ha! yes, another giant generalization), it isn't all that uncommon for us to run in to other females when we are out and about with our SOs. Examples include but not limited to: People we work with. Friends. Friends of friends. Wives of friends. Daughters and nieces of friends. Friends of our daughters and nieces. The girl who we buy our bagels from at the Deli counter. You get the idea.
And finally, for the giant shocker of the century (please make sure you're sitting down for this one, it's a doozy) ... believe it or not, not all of our SO's automatically assume that we are sleeping with every single girl we pass at the mall or the restaurant and say "Hi" to. In other words saying "Hi" does not automatically set off an alarm in our wive's heads or set off her secret spidey sense that we are paying you for sex in our spare time. It's just not the first logical conclusion that most of our wives jump to.
Now I say this with a disclaimer in that I don't speak for all men. And for those men who I don't speak for ... let's just say that you will most likely be doing them a huge favor if their wives are, indeed, this type. Because quite frankly, I can't imagine living in a world where I am not allowed to smile and greet people I might know throughout my day, without being interrogated.
And to any men who find this uncomfortable ... just have a lie made up in advance, just in case it ever comes up. The one I have in my back pocket for now "Honey, do you know who that was? She looks familiar." And she will just assume that I was being polite. Because my SO understands that I forget just about half of everyone I meet anyway. :-
luckily for me i'm in an industry with a lot of different people whom i meet all the time.
it's easy to say, "oh i know her from a job, from a shoot, from a class, etc etc"
Ask him to buy you something.
Once after a session, a lady was hinting about buying her a pair of shoes... or trying to tell me to get out, with out saying get out.
Posted By: Delaneygfe
I was at the mall doing some Xmas shopping and saw a regular approaching. I did happen to notice he had no SO with him so I smiled and he did too. I wouldn't have smiled if an SO was present. It was cool but very awkward at the same time. I know I was blushing but couldn't help it! How many of you ladies and gents has this happened to? Was it a good, bad or indifferent experience? I know this subject has been brought up before but I'm relatively new to the boards so I'm curious.
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LOL I LOVE IT!!! You're priceless!!
👍 At least you're man enough to admit it ~ 😋
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Ads clearly state that many ladies are available 24/7. So how is it possible for them to have any free time?
Me thinks that something is terribly wrong. What happened to truth in advertising?
as long as you don't mind doing her in front of the williams sonoma
Seeing her -- my ATF actually -- in street clothes in a CVS was just an incredible turn-on. I wanted to pounce on her right there. And I mean that in the nicest possible way!
I saw her at a distance and turned into an aisle to avoid meeting up. But then I stopped to look at something (I was not actually there to stalk providers) and she turned up the aisle and our eyes met and we sort of nodded and said hi. We were both headed toward the register so we kept walking there. I had just seen her the day before, too. A very powerful, heart-rate-boosting, experience.
I have run into hobbyists at work and mall.I smile and keep walking.No strings attached business.No reason to have problems at all.
It's uncomfortable especially if I'm with my friends.... If they say hi I usually play it off .... "Oh hi" ..... But with my all time ATF since we live so close I just relate to my friends he's my neighbor .... I've gotten messages from past clients that they have seen me out but didn't want to say hi cause I wasn't alone... I'll be pleasant but won't make the first move...
I think seeing a one night stand out & about is more awkward then seeing a client... Which has happened to me before so no one nighter in chitown only when I tour & get frisky for non work activities!!!! Lol
Happy holidays everyone!!
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The first time I saw a client out was when I was at the shelter rescuing a dog.
He saw me first I didn't even notice him I was with a relative the client walked by me and in a low voice said Jaydalee and just kept walking.Relative didn't notice (well at least they didn't say anything).
Second time I was waiting for a gent so we go on our dinner date.
We had a designated meeting place in the hotel while waiting on my date I hear someone say my real name behind me.I turn around this guy I used to date it was his sister evidently she works in the hotel.
She talked for a few minutes while I am trying to look around to make sure my date does not walk up.
I did not want to have to explain why this older white gentleman who is twice my age is walking up to me.
While I was no longer dating her brother she does have a relationship with a few family members and she is a gossip.
She asked why I had a bag with me I made up a story about college friends here in town for a bachelorette party.She seemed to buy it and I hurried to the other side of the hotel and told my date to meet me there.
Very awkward.
And the last one which was really weird when I started in this business I used to work for an agency.
A few years after becoming an independent provider I was in walmart shopping with my mom.
This woman comes up and she says my working name I act as if I do not know her.
But I do recognize her she used to be a phone girl and office manager at the agency I used to work at.
How she remembers me from 3-4 yrs later but she did.My mom asked me if I knew her I acted as if she was mistaken and I do not know her.
I walk a few aisles over by myself and the phone girl is in that aisle again she comes up to me.
I tell her in a really low voice that the woman with me is my mom I would appreciate her not saying anything to me.
That has been my experienc
I would be freaked out if I was with my mom and someone came up and used my stage name because my mom doesn't miss ANYTHING!! She would ask questions incessantly and even go as far as to bring it up a few years later at some random ass time and in some random ass situation like while she was waiting to be seen in the emergency room, and she does that stage whisper so everrrrryyyooonne can hear her!! SERIOUSLY!! LOL
She dropped the subject but she was looking like...yeah I know there is more to it.
She asked one more time as we were walking out the store.She found it strange someone would come up to me and act so familiar.I stuck with the story...they say you always have a twin out there...I told her obviously she was mistaken.She let it go
Dear Jaydalee:
Considering your experiences as yourself, how guarded are you about your personal space and life? Does it get to the point at times that those in your real life that don't know about your other persona suspect that you might have one? Are there people in your life that might have reasonable suspicion about your activities in this demimonde? The instances that you describe are similar to Julia Stiles, when she plays Blue. There was a scene when she goes to her son's school for a Parent Teacher conference and she immediately recognizes the Father of the other student as a client with his wife. The non-verbal communication was so intuitive it was not funny. There are also other instances of this throughout the series as well. In another case were Art imitates life Belle runs into an old School Mate as a client. Not that she was aware of it, but the client said that he recognized her from school. Also during the final episode of the show, the lady who ran the agency had the Judge for a client and the case was adjudicated favorably. These are cases that show that being in this business there are times when both worlds collide although we do our best to prevent that.
I like to keep work and my personal life separate.
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Best thing to do if you see the client / lady from a bit aways and recognize her / him; stare straight ahead, and continue on with whatever you're doing. Afterwards, text her / him and acknowledge you saw each other.
Luckily I live far enough from ladies that I would not bump into any I have seen
he (He?) could be right around the corner.
This only happened to me once, but here's the strange part:
I was vacationing with a provider way out on Nantucket Island. (No, I'm not the man from Nantucket, but wish I was.) We were walking along the beach when coming the other way was another provider. Normally that wouldn't be all that terrible, but that provider was the one who introduced me to the one I was with, and who now blames her for stealing me away from her.
It was a bit awkward, for sure
You can't know for sure that he was alone. Suppose his wife or even one of her friends were a couple of feet behind him?
Mr.Fisher, you left yourself wide open for a good joke but I decided to pass on it, lol. Merry Christmas
It's too early in the day for me to see it.
Go ahead with the joke
Boston is a small city...
i keep poker face on, unless he reacts first regardless if SO present or not...
i did not feel awkward
I was solo grocery shopping and one of the store managers is a client of mine, she also knows my wife. We were chatting when a provider I know drops by and says hello and give me a big hug.... I just introduced them and said the provider was another client.
It's probably true! "Won't he be embarassed when he sees the real friend next!"
....if he wants to shoot an email or text later on saying it was nice seeing you then all good.
I've been lucky to have only had this happened once but was because he was having breakfast in my hotel after our date had long been done lol.
