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60hrwk 5 Reviews 2333 reads
posted
1 / 21

So suppose you stumble across her real name online,  first and last, with pics, it’s 100% her... should you tell her? She’s gotta know it’s out there  online but would it be better to just keep it silent or let her know others might see it at some point too? They work so hard to protect their ID... what to do???

Jinx_The_Cat 33 Reviews 84 reads
posted
2 / 21
John_Laroche 83 reads
posted
3 / 21

I guess it really depends on how you 'stumbled" upon it.

If you were reverse image searching her ad pics and followed a fairly direct path to her RL social media, I'd tell her to be more careful.

 
If you hung out in the hotel until she checked out then followed her home and went through her mailbox to get a name, keep it to yourself.

sdottaylor 19 Reviews 81 reads
posted
4 / 21

Found an ad, googled the email listed in the ad and the second search result was some fastpeoplesearch.com pages with all sorts of data. Name, phone numbers used, current and previous addresses, and her relatives.

I created a new email and told her, didn't want any possible blowback associated with me. She replied, thanking me for the info. No idea if she's still providing or if she took any steps to prevent this from happening again

60hrwk 5 Reviews 98 reads
posted
5 / 21

It was really just an odd freak deal, my wife actually found something... im laying in bed and hear this laugh/voice that I know well and think oh shit.... look up and bang, she’s on my TV... wife knew nothing but viola, it was her and with her real name... I just keep it cool, what are you watching...  
I think I’ll just keep this one in the vault, no need to make an issue of it.
My only real concern is if she would want to know to protect her ID from someone else stumbling across it...
Thanks for the input!

GaGambler 101 reads
posted
6 / 21

"No good deed goes unpunished"

 
People rarely appreciate unsolicited advice, hey look at these very board, people seem to hate even the advice they ask for. lol

 
Unless you get a VERY good segue to bring this into conversation, which is almost limited to HER bringing up the subject, I will agree with the crowd here and suggest you keep what you know under your hat.

JackDunphy 91 reads
posted
7 / 21

And, what kind of relationship I have with her and what type of personality she has.

 
If this is someone I have a lot of confidence in, and we are close, I would tell her.

 
The only scenario I would tell her if I didn't know her that well would be a stich where she expressed being so scared about being outed and how she did everything in her power to make that virtually impossible.

 
In that hypothetical case, that is her telling me, by implication at least, she would want to know.

 
But there is clearly risk here. She may think you are stalking her if you tell her, regardless of your good intent.

 
Too many factors to determine the proper course, but if in doubt, let it go.

Johnnycade 28 Reviews 81 reads
posted
8 / 21

I met a provider that gave too much info about herself . . . and linked to an article that she had written, where they used her pseudonym BUT some articles had her real name.  As a provider she had at least 3 names, so I figured she took her privacy seriously enough.  I revealed the leak in email between our first and second date as a BTW thing.  She was cool about it, because it was her error.  If they are serious about their privacy, I think they would prefer to know . . . eventually they will give away too much info for too long and get noticed.

lester_prairie 12 Reviews 86 reads
posted
9 / 21
coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 78 reads
posted
10 / 21

If its a girl I have only seen once or twice, I would keep my mouth shut, because no matter how innocently you "stumbled" onto the info, there is at least a 50/50 chance she will think you're some kind of creepy stalker, and you don't want her spreading a claim like that around Hookerville.  

 
I have actually tipped off a girl I had been seeing regularly for about six months to just such a situation, she thanked me profusely and took care of it right away.

MatureGFE See my TER Reviews 105 reads
posted
11 / 21

Hopefully she blurs her face or keeps it out off her pics completely as a lady in the biz.

Steph XO

justsauce16 4 Reviews 83 reads
posted
12 / 21

If you did stumble across such a thing, there's no way in hell you should tell her. She's going to think you're some crazy stalker and you're going to end up on blacklists.

 

I'm imagining that most girls in this industry have severe opsec issues, which is part of my motivation for harping on it whenever possible, because we'd all be better off to have better security practices, but, I'm not willing to even consider navigating that topic on an individual level without explicitly being asked to do so.

HeartBreaker69 19 Reviews 75 reads
posted
13 / 21

I think this is best solution.

justsauce16 4 Reviews 113 reads
posted
14 / 21

I learned this the hard way very early on. I saw a provider who was pretty hot shit, but her website was a dumpster fire. Like I made better looking sites on geocities back in the day. So, I spun up a site for her that looked great, added all her content/pricing/pictures, and sent her an email link saying that I'd be happy to send her all the admin credentials, teach her how to use it, and pay for 6 months of hosting to get her started. Basically a turnkey modern website, for free, no strings attached.

Now, I've done this kind of thing in the non-hobby world to get my foot in the door. It's great marketing, and I was forthright about that intention, saying something to the effect of "I did this for you, for free, because I can use it as an example of my work if I'd like to pickup other clients in your industry and I want nothing in return".  

 

Well, as you might imagine, she was fucking PISSED and thoroughly chewed me out via email and threatened to blacklist me if I didn't take the site down, and on top of that was super offended that I thought her site needed an upgrade at all.

 
In retrospect, I can see what went wrong here, me being a newbie hobbyist, no reviews, no real online presence, no real worthwhile references, she probably saw the risk of working with an unknown to be astronomical. Big oops on my part.

60hrwk 5 Reviews 98 reads
posted
16 / 21

not going to say anything at this time, unless it comes up by her... otherwise i think i like the anonymous thought the best, put together a quick burner email and it's done.

thanks y'all...

TheRambler 92 reads
posted
18 / 21

Many years ago I saw the real name of a provider I saw often listed on a website which is now defunct.  She reached out to them to have her name removed but as far as I know they never did.

I knew her name before I found it on that site and she knows I knew because she accidentally blurted it out in a porn scene she did a very long time ago.

And as we all know, knowing is half the battle.

vantheman666 11 Reviews 94 reads
posted
19 / 21

A certain provider used one phone for both her personal and professional life.  I put her number in my smartphone, and a couple days later I got a Facebook friend  suggestion that was obviously her, under her real name. I didn't say anything,  though. If she wants to be careless, that's her problem.

bergenbob 2 Reviews 102 reads
posted
20 / 21

I really don't think it's a big deal unless you start blabbing it to others. I have known the the real names of three providers. One I found out by accident and the other two gave me their real names after several visits I would never ask anyone their real name but it can be a good thing to know each other's real names. If a situation occurs that involves the "authorites" they will often ask one party for the other party's name. Knowing it will make the situation resolve easier

MatureGFE See my TER Reviews 94 reads
posted
21 / 21
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