for knowing a gal's real name (For example, you are buying plane tickets to take a vacation together.), then it is never appropriate to ask a gal's name, or for that matter to learn of any of her personal information like where she lives, her day job, etc.

If she feels she wants to share her name, etc., then fine.  I've known gals who have casually dropped their names but I continue to call them by their professional name unless they correct me.

I know one gal who told me her "real" name some months after we started to do sessions frequently, then I found out her "real real" name several years later when we finally took a plane trip together.

Guys, at what point do you feel comfortable asking the lady for her real name? Ladies, at what point do you feel comfortable giving it? In ten years, I have only had a few of cases where the lady gave me her real first and last name, both unsolicited from me. When I do ask the question, I always preface it by saying, "I will never ask you your real last name, but we have been together X number of times now, would it be ok if I asked you your real first name?" So, at what stage does it seem awkward for both for the guy not to know the ladies real first name? Thoughts?

unless I know his as well and he needs it for booking a flight for me, which I have only allowed twice in 5 years. If it is not an ongoing SD type relationship, no need to divulge that information.

even if I am good friends with them, mainly because I don't care.

What good does it do to me knowing what her parents named her.  If she wants to tell me her real name, Sure....I am all ears.

If she is a good person,  provides good service (sucking and fucking), and is professional (answers emails, texts, and calls promptly and within reasonable time) does it matter if she is Amy or Jennifer?

The only reason I would need to know her name. Her full name. Is if we were taking a trip somewhere far away. So if god forbid one of us got hurt or sick or whatever we would be able to at least sign each other into the hospital.
Also if I am gonna buy a plane ticket for someone. I am not telling the airline to put StacySaturnRayne on the ticket. Unless she has an escort ID that the TSA will accept.
All that being said. I would still call her by her escort title.
I kinda think that she sort of has two personalities.
One is her, the other, the escort she created.
I am paying to meet the latter.
One of the main reasons I do this, is to not know who Im fucking.
That is half of the fun!

...how long does it take till you feel comfortable giving out your first name on average? Is it usually the guy asking or you offering?

And knew their real names via public records. And I told them so they would be aware that what they were doing was not so secure. Personally I have't much interest in the name but if I saw someone long term I'd at least like a real first name eventually.

because odds are the bartender/ waitress already knows it if I have been in there without him. I don't need the guy saying, "Hey London" when they know my real name. Same if I am out with a guy locally...better to know my first name vs. raising even more suspicion by calling me a name that's not mine.



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But many tell me their real names anyhow.

And FWIW...I honestly don't care.

Unless I need to know it for professional reasons that is  

Most I honestly prefer their stage names...it just "fits" better  LOL

providers have their REAL name (one that's on passport, social security card, license) their OTHER real name. One they give out in public, or to nosy Johnnie Boys, and then their stage name. One that's on their website or TER profile.

Can't blame them for being extra safe....

And you'll realize in fairly short order that they don't generally have two personalities.  

They put on the show BCD...but most are just themselves.

And if you get to know one long enough...you may learn more than you ever really wanted to

But then you also have those with multiple personalities...and we've read those stories here too often.  Those BSC gals...stay far away from.  Especially if they use the stage name Sybil  

go through the trouble of blurring your face, and not giving your first name lol. Wanna guess how easy it is to trace that license plate if the provider uses her own vehicle and parks it in your driveway?

provider's part to meet someone at their place of residence.  I have come across some of the DC area providers who invite at their homes.  If they are not willing to get a hotel, and I really want to see them, then I invite them for outcall at a good hotel.

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So johnnie boy should be aware that hooker London can check him out that way  LOL

That's why we should meet at the trailer parks...and use a rental car.

Many work out of their own homes...and I much prefer that over any hotels.  But that's just me  

It's a hookers issue if her legal name shows up during a session.  Why would you give a shit?

Just call her whatever her stage name is...or assign her a name you like..she'll go with that too  LOL

As for discretion...I much prefer the condo to a hotel room.

To each their own!

I have never really searched anyone's name in public record...

When you go to someone's residence, especially a town house or single family home, the neighbors typically eye you suspiciously. I discovered this when I was new in the hobby.  Now it doesn't take much for the neighbors to figure out that a single woman lives in the house and a guy after a guy after guy is walking in for couple of hours.

To keep things private and simple, its best to meet at a hotel.

there is absolutely no reason you need to know their real name..why would you even ask?..we have no business poking into their personal lives..i know the real names of several girls only because they wanted me to have it..if it makes them feel better that i have it..thats fine..but i am doing nothing with it except to call them by their real name when i call or see them..their safety and trust in me always come first..

Why give a crap?

And for the most part the gals I know that have their own cribs and use them as incalls...aren't running a revolving door.  How can I be sure of that...I think you know the answer  LOL

But honestly, most folks stay to themselves.  You can have as much of an issue with a hooker running K-Mart specials on the half hour at any 4 star hotel as well.  But the likelihood is she isn't operating that way either  

You might want to try the home again...but if not...no biggie from where I am sitting.

What happens when you know the people in her building better than she does?
I am generally outgoing, and had small talk many times with her neighbors.
She told me not to talk to them. But what can I do? They said Hi to me. They knew my name.
Shit. I helped the super with her groceries. She let me in her appt!
They were always asking questions though. It was tricky to come up with reasons for why I was there.
And they were definitely attempting to get me to reveal something.

out of it, especially if she is high volume. Maybe you guys don't much care to find out who lives there, but you can bet your ass some nut job like a few here, damn well would want to know. This business attracts all sorts of undesirables and that's just a nice way of putting it. Bottom line, protect your own shit if you don't want it getting out...and, it will.

Jean, the neighbors are the least of the problems otherwise incalls where no one lives would also get busted. It's psycho hobbyists and the nutso providers they run with, that make it a stupid thing to do. It takes one time for a girl to say no, piss a guy off, etc. then he is posting her address on some leaks site.

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...its just a logical next step for me, and the few ladies that I have asked and seen on numerous occasions. We all talk about GFE and how certain aspects make it more like a "real" date for us. Well, for me, knowing the ladies "real" first name, makes it all the more real for me and adds a personal connection. Obviously I have a comfort level with these very few women I have asked and they with me. In one case the lady said, "Oh I thought I gave that to you already!" and in the other, she gave it to me without batting an eye. Reminds me of the Seinfeld epsiode when George tells Jerry he is going to tell his girlfriend he loves her. Jerry asks him if he is sure he will get the "I love you, too" in return. "If not", Jerry tells him, "thats a pretty big motza ball hanging out there!"

Hi Mr. F,

A woman  casually gave  out her name during a session!!  She's alright If I use it when I see her during the session's, but I'd rather keep the "fantasy name" of the bedroom sessions!! She's OK w that as well!! When i text her just to say hi, how are you doing? Non- hobby related texts I use her real first name!!

But I do believe I qualified my replies for those hookers (that I am quite sure aren't high volume...whatever that means  LOL) that I know well.  And yea...I know their "real fucking names as well".

But I do agree (as I sure as hell don't want you to be pissed off at me...meh) that the hookers running the gauntlet might be better off in a transient location.

And the johnnie boy who posts a hookers shit up...pathetic  

Honestly the gals generally have NO issues with you calling them their stage name..a real name..the other real name...their legal name..

Whatever works for you.

And if you really get to know the gal..she'll tell you her legal (the real legal) name.

It's all good  

Posted By: CubbieFan2

Hi Mr. F,

A woman  casually gave  out her name during a session!!  She's alright If I use it when I see her during the session's, but I'd rather keep the "fantasy name" of the bedroom sessions!! She's OK w that as well!! When i text her just to say hi, how are you doing? Non- hobby related texts I use her real first name!!

Posted By: mrfisher

for knowing a gal's real name (For example, you are buying plane tickets to take a vacation together.), then it is never appropriate to ask a gal's name, or for that matter to learn of any of her personal information like where she lives, her day job, etc.

If she feels she wants to share her name, etc., then fine.  I've known gals who have casually dropped their names but I continue to call them by their professional name unless they correct me.

I know one gal who told me her "real" name some months after we started to do sessions frequently, then I found out her "real real" name several years later when we finally took a plane trip together.

Something similar happened to me  .
 I gave a stripper I met at the bar a  fake name . A couple years later we hooked up a few times .

  Walking down outdoor dining  street one night after dinner, a  stripper I know from the past shouted out  to my new stripper date .
I was hoping  she didn't recognize me in the dim light  . I waited  on the sidewalk while they had their hugs and catch up stripper gossip  .
When she came back she said Natasha  said she knows you , she said your name is Shane .
  I held her hand while  briskly  walking  up the street . I told her I have a brother named Shane that resembles me ,  she must have  confused me with my brother .

 
   
 
 

Don't ask anything , she will tell you everything .
 That's how it works  .  

What makes you think it's her "real" name.

but some give me their real names. I'll reciprocate once I'm sure they're not whackos.

As for LR, she scares the shit out of me. I think I'll wear a mask when we meet, leave all identifying info in the car and park VERY far away from her incall just in case she comes outside and is hiding behind some bushes looking for my car and taking down the plate. I'm also thinking about bringing a cam detector because who knows where she's hiding the cameras recording us for future undisclosed nefarious purposes. I'm also  concerned about her teeny weeny pussy because, well, ask my ATFs. If what she claims is true, I'll be lucky to get the tip in before she starts screaming take it out NOW! And it's not like the next closest entrance is any larger so what am I supposed to do, just keep poking her all over looking for an entry point? Shit, I don't have all day!

Fortunately, there's always the pie hole if I can get her to shut up long enough to suck it but knowing her, she'll probably be talking out her ass, literally and that'll end it for me. I'm really thinking I need eyes in the back of my head for this one so please send me any teeny weeny spy cams I can point backwards to keep a few eyes on her at all times. To those guys who've seen LR, is it true she follows you out of the room afterwards with that stalker-like stealthiness some girls are famous for? I do have a recognizable ass so I don't want her getting a good look at it and later ID'ing me in some police line up. But I digress, seriously digress....

Back to your original question. No, I'd never give LR my real name if I were you and don't ask her unless you wanna be bitch-slapped upside the head. I hear she has a mean left - and right, and both at the same time.

Be careful out there!

I'm not gonna ask for your personal info so don't ask for mine.  I live under an assumed name anyway due to stalker I don't want any more.

but other than that probably unnecessary.  Hard to claim she's your GF with a wrong name however.  Of 3 current Favs, I do know the full name of one but not the other 2.