OK, all you experienced people, I could use some help. My wife and I are going to visit an escort for the first time this weekend, and we're a bit nervous. We're not looking for a full--how do you say--GFE, but mostly some stripping and erotic massage. And maybe a little more, depending on how things progress.
I haven't found any reviews that deal with couples. What should we expect? Will she be as uncomfortable as us? She supposedly "works well with couples," so I'm guessing she'll be able to put us at ease. How explicit should we be when she asks us what we want? Would it be improper to ask her what she does for other couples? And what can we expect to pay? (I'd like to have roughly enough cash on hand so I don't have to be a goof and run out to the ATM.)
As you can tell, I'm just a bit overwhelmed. Any advice, hand-holding, etc., would be appreciated, especially from gals or guys who've been in a couples situation.
I'll come back next week to let you know how it went!
--McKinley
First, relax and enjoy the moment. Bring more money than you think you will need, so you won't worry about it. If still in doubt ask what is appropiate. Your provider will be happy to tell you. As for direction, tell her your new at this and ask her to show you the ropes. She will. If you don't like something, say so. If you like something a lot, let her know. Every date I have had with a girl friend and a provider has been fantastic. Most women seem to blossom in this situation. Talk about the upcoming date with your wife when your in an erotic situation. Ask her to tell you her fantasys. You tell her yours. It can be very erotic.
As a provider, what I like to do is talk to the female partner and make sure that I play by her rules. She can tell me what it is she wants to try and what is not allowed. For example I had a couple that for her the idea of being with a woman was completely new and was not sure of what would make her comfortable after talking on the phone woman to woman she decided that the only thing she did not want, was for her partner to penetrate me( this was a big no, no). Needless to say things got so hot that she begged me to let him take me and so I did. What she really got off on was seeing me climax and watching him f_ _ k me hard. The fact that she was incontrol and she new that I would respect her wishes took all the aquareness away and made this a very memorable evening for all three of us. I better stop telling my story...I am getting hot just thinking of what an awsome time I had.
I hope you understand that this is the way that I work with couples and it works for me.....everybody works differently.
Kisses & Licks.........
Mara of San Diego
I also work well with couples...and my secret is paying attention to fear signals, listening, and being sensitive to the couple's (especially the woman's) boundaries. One point though I would stress after reading replies here, is...don't relax your safety rules here because its a couples thing. You should never, ever, openly discuss specific activities, nor ask questions that puts a provider in the position of answering specific act related questions. Ever. LE wouldn't discriminate against hauling in a couple...or posing as a couple...so why would you let your guard down?
Instead, I would suggest that you talk to the provider about being a little nervous...suggest that you all meet and interact socially, warm up to each other..and guarantee a minimum one hr rate...and ask what would be required for an extended session if there is a good blend going on. Give the provider the security of at least a minimum guarantee to book the session, and ask her to allow time around the appt. so that you can extend without time pressures if all parties wish.
This is for two reasons. It is my experience that when three people blend..things tend to flow naturally and limits, especially for first timers, tend to be set by the couple's readiness, rather than the provider's willingness to go "that far" Secondly, if you throw this idea at a money hungry, cold hustler type,or an agency phone person, you will probably find out very quickly by her response to this flexible proposition exactly what you can expect in attitude, and save yourself the grief of a "hey, can we get on with this" experience. Virgin territory is very delicate, and great permanent damage can be done to a relationship by a bad experience with an indifferent, or even malicious provider that likes to play sides against the middle...or watch her get jealous. Talk to the provider...ask lots of questions...but make them innocent...general..non threatening...maybe phrase it as just wondering...in general.. about her "personal fantasies" kinds of inquiries. Never talk about commitments or prices! Listen for her focus, concern and willingness to go slow and be flexible. Be concerned if she never inquires about or seems interested in whose idea this is...how the woman feels...or if she even knows that you're setting this up yet!..
And most of all....do yourself a favor...NEVER ever make your woman even wonder for a moment whether or not you find the provider more attractive or desirable than her...Use some self control. Focus on your woman and how it turns you on to watch her be turned on by a woman...NEVER get into the provider to the exclusion of attention on your woman. If she's truly into you two together...go for it, but be SURE she's being truthful, and not just telling you what you want to hear to see if you're stupid enough to fall for the bait. In fact...if you EVER want to do this again....make sure she realizes that while the provider was pretty good...she'd never hold a candle to her! No matter what you really think.
Trust me.
I agree with your excellent advice. How the couple follows-up the experience with the provider is a very important step in determining whether the session has a long-term positive effect, or ends up as a one-time experiment that isn't worth repeating.
It's only natural that the wife/girlfriend will want to know what her man's reaction was to this whole experience. And the context she will mainly be interested in is the experience as it relates to her man's feelings about her (physical and emotional) and their relationship. She will be looking for reassurance that you (the man) find her even more desirable, or appreciate her even more, now that you've experienced her along side another woman. As great and beautiful as the provider was etc, the experience with her only served to remind you how important your feelings for each other were, and how that depth of emotion is what makes the sex truly meaningful (just for example).
If you want to make sure you never see another provider, just say something like "I wish you had an ass like (insert name here), maybe you should join a health club."
Thanks for all the great advice. We put ourselves in the hands (so to speak) of an experienced, thoughtful provider, and she made sure a good time was had by all. Thanks!
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