There is a girl that I have been dying to see and I confirmed with the agency that she works for that she won't be coming to my city (she travels frequently, but they do come to my town) until at least late-August. I have a trip scheduled to San Francisco in July and just found out that she will be in SF the EXACT same dates as me. Great huh? It's meant to be right? I have a problem though. I'm 25 and I am going to SF with my dad for some baseball games and just a little trip (we've been doing this for years, but never to SF). Do you guys have ANY advice for how I can get away from him for an afternoon without being suspicious? It would be very unusual for me to just say I wanted to get out by myself for a couple of hours and I wouldn't know what to tell him that I was doing. I don't want to just leave him in the hotel room. I am trying to come up with a way to see her and keep it from him all on a limited schedule! Any advice would help. Thanks to all in advance.

Is your dad the kind of guy who would go for something like a man massage or anything at the hotel? If you're staying at a nice hotel they most likely have a spa and you could "surprise" your dad with a massage, make sure it's from a hottie tho. He may not appreciate it at first but it would give you time to slip away. When you come back make sure you have some "shopping" bags with you...man souvenirs or something like that. Not sure what else you could do other than tie him up and lock him in the closet but hey, it is san fran  right.

I would just say that I happen to have a client/colleague (some professional relationship where it would be reasonable to exclude your father) in SF and I was going to meet them for coffee/drinks (to discuss a project or whatever).

This assumes it's plausible that you would have some kind of professional or business acquaintance in SF...

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from college living in the SF area wants to meet for a drink..Geeeeeeeeeeez  its not that hard!!!!!!!

See, the only problem with it being a "friend" is that the dad might be all "cool, I'd love to meet your friend!"

On the otherhand he would know it would seem ridiculous for his son to bring "dad" to a business meeting.

I am ashamed to say I'm a master of ditching people. Trust me on this

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Why not share the experience.

are always interesting.  I've always built in "me" time.  It's SF there must be sights your dad wants to see that you have no interest in, right?  Just suggest you guys split up for an afternoon and meet back for dinner or drinks.

where there is a will theres a way.. if it was me and I wanted  to get laid, I would find the way!!!
At 25?? come on.. tell dad be back in a few hours...got something to do!!!

Yeah, that's not going to happen. He's very conservative, I've never had a reason to cut out on my own on a trip before, wouldn't go for a massage, my business wouldn't require or make sense for me to have to meet a colleague and he knows that nobody I know is or will be in San Fran. I do agree though, that if there's a will there's a way. I'm going to figure it out, I just have to find out how. The hardest part is scheduling the appointment and being able to get away during that exact time. I'm hoping he will just want to take a nap one afternoon before one of the games and I can just head out on the town for a few hours, but I can't plan and count on that. I have to have a reason to leave him alone for a while. I may just be straightforward and tell him I just want to get out on my own for a few, but don't want to hurt his feelings either. Appreciate all the responses. Keep em coming as I'm still searching for the answer...

tell him you are going sightseeing and take your camera with you, take pics along the way there, and the way back to cover your ass in case he wants to see what pics you took. if you dont have a camera, get one now, and practice on it, so your pics look believable.

You are going to a local gym for a couple of hours as an visiting guest member.  Lots of gyms have day rates for non-members that are traveling so its not an obvious lie.  You could even find a gym that has it and actually buy the pass so your dad could just "happen" to see it among your things.

with a blind date in SF and you are going to meet her for a couple of hours to see if there is any spark there. ( match.com).
 I have found it is best to tell as much of the truth as possible rather than an out of the blue lie.
 Ask him how he would like to spend the time. If you have cell phone arrange to call in about 3 or 4 hours and you can pick him up outside the Palace of Legion of Honor or one of the many sights in the city.
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You mentioned that she will be in your town by late August. See her then, when you don't have to worry about developing an alibi to give your dad. It should be a more stress free session then.

Enjoy the time you have with your Dad in San Francisco and fully enjoy your time with the provider later.

see her in SF (And believe me, I know the feeling well.) here's what you do:

Rather than pulling a George Costanza, trying to come up with an overly elaborate story (Rememeber the importer/exporter story?) here's what you say:

"Dad, there's a gal that I've been communicating with on line as a kind of internet pen-pal who lives around SF, and she says she'd love to spend an afternoon with me when I come into town.  I don't want things to get too heavy by suggesting that she come and meet you, it might scare her off.  I hope you won't mind if I leave you for an afternoon on your own, but I'd really like to meet her."

Now, isn't that pretty simple, and almost the truth (if not the whole truth)?

(And if you do go with the importer/exporter story: they import chips - mostly potato, some corn, and export diapers - not long matches. 8o)

All of the others have a chance of having Dad ask to tag along. (Pictue taking Cecelia!! OMG He's got to do better than that Geeez!!-lol)Also there is a dose of truth to this blind date position and I agree with your "dont out right lie" principle.
I think we have to conclude from the post just telling Dad is not a good option.
Good luck my man.

I appreciate all the input and the varying ideas. I had thought of some of them, but most were good and original. I have always believed that things work best if you tell the truth, but not all of it. So that works for me. I may just wait until August, but I was thinking of doing this as a get to know her thing for an hour and if I like her, then do a longer appointment in August. She's at the top of my list of girls to meet, so that's why it's such a big deal. The turnover in this business seems high so I am afraid of her disappearing before she makes it my city. Most likely I will probably just tell him I want to get out on my own for a couple hours and go with it. But I still have to tell him what I did, but that won't be as hard. Thanks again for the responses!

If I understood correctly, are you saying that once all is said and done.......THEN you're gonna tell your dad you met with a provider?

If so, it sounds like you're about to perform the perfect heist (clean and evidence-free get away and all)......then turn yourself in at the end.

If I misunderstood your statement, then please disregard this post.


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Yes you misunderstood. I meant tell him what I did when I went off on my own (what I "did", not that I met with a providor, as in went to the mall for example).

I have made my decision though. I am going to wait until she comes to my town in August. I decided it was just wrong to ditch my dad on a trip to meet an escort. I will just enjoy the trip instead and see her later.

Where ever you are, just say you gotta "hit the head".  Escpecially if you can claim you got lost, like at Golden Gate Park, Movie Theater, etc.

When you get back in 2 or 3 hours, you wouldn't have lied if your little head did get hit!
& you can say it took longer than expected!