TER General Board
Here are a few suggestions that might make things a little easier and even if they don't, they can sure make things alot steamier.....
Regarding female condoms, I've used them several times now, and overall, I really like them. My first experiment with them was PERFECT. The gentleman was like you and had trouble with condoms, and had the added difficulty of not being able to orgams from BBBJ or HJ. He asked me if I would be willing to try using a female condom and I happily agreed. He was thrilled with the result, and so was I. My next several uses of FC's were filled with mixed results. I have found that they do not work well with some positions, particularly CG, but work GREAT in others, particularly mish. As an added bonus, for me at least, they actually tended to add to my pleasure, a bonus I very much liked 
Failing that, as others suggested, polyurthane condoms may be helpful too. Gents have reported that they feel better. Or use an ultra thin condom.
Some women, like myself, do prefer not to use condoms brought by the gent because I can't be certain how old the condom is, whether its been tucked in a wallet for the last 5 years, etc, and I also tend to get irritated in my giggly parts if I use different condoms all the time. So if you show up with your own condoms to meet a new lady, she may not be willing to use them at first, but with someone you've seen a few times, chances are that she will be happy to experiment with some different brands with you.
If all else fails, try to spice things up. Talk dirty to her and ask her to talk dirty back! Also, try a warming lube (for some men, even a mild warming lube is too much, but for others, they absolutely love it). Ask her to put just a drop or two in teh condom before applying it. The added sensation for some men can be, well, explosive.
Hope some of these tips help!
Female condoms (FC's for short) are a little more difficult to place, and a few times I haven't gotten them placed quite right. When I didn't get it in just the right position, the sensation was a little distracting and it did dampen my experience. However, when I have gotten the thing placed right, I have found that not only can I orgasm just fine, it actually adds a little to the pleasure.
My experience has been that it basically takes some practice inserting the flipping thing (I find that using a dildo to get it placed works great).
I will also add though, that insertin an FC is rather awkward and shall we say, ungraceful, so both parties need to ahve a level of comfort to be able to gloss over the awkwardness of the moment
