I have trouble achieving a orgasm during a session. and sometimes i even lose a erection. I am not a Old man, i am in late 30's. I have never had erection or problem with coming. Any advice on how to climax. Provider's Oral or handjob doesn't really work. sometimes i can get there with my own hand but that seem stupid.
can't do that.. maybe 1 or two days is about it.. My goodness I can get business done in 3 minutes if it's an emergency. Many times, I have told the kids mom has to go to the bathroom, Turn the music up and........ This will change your whole outlook on the day....
Who goes without any stimulation for a week?
Posted By: mrfisher
If not, then try that first.
If you still have a problem, you might want to consult a urologist and make sure all your systems are physically normal.
If you still have a problem, you might want to consult a sex therapist.
no , i have not tried that. but i masterbate like 5 times per day so that is kind of difficult to do. but i could Try,,i suppose..........HHEEE thank you for the advice. How do you refrain from masterbating for a Week ???????? wow...is there a certain method ??
Posted By: mrfisher
If not, then try that first.
If you still have a problem, you might want to consult a urologist and make sure all your systems are physically normal.
If you still have a problem, you might want to consult a sex therapist.
I was thinking maybe go visit a College campus and check out all the Hot college girls and get your Libido pumping up and then visit the provider ?? I thought this might work ???
to refrain from self-pleasurement for several days prior to a provider date. That is one reason I like to set them up ahead of time as opposed to last minute dates. Don't know whether it works, but on my last date, she was doing bbbjtcim and when I popped she asked how long had I been saving it up....LOL Told her since last week, and she laughed. Apparently, I gave her a pretty good load, which, btw, she swallowed the whole thing as she always does.
It will take time to reset your body to cum to the touch of a woman. You should refrain from masturbating at all until you can easily cum to a women's touch in a reasonable time. After that masturbate no more then you get laid. When you masturbate you over stimulate your penis and you train yourself to require that level of stimulation, which isn't possible outside the handjob with a woman.
I know as I have been there when I was single and horny and not getting laid. I too masturbated too often and couldn't cum when I finely fond my wife. Lucky for me, she real understood how things worked on a man and helped me though it. It took about two months to retrain my body. It was had but it was worth it. I wish you well.
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P.S. You will also want to avoid porn and anything else you used to masturbate to, until you are retrained. It is likely they are also over stimulating. Real women have flaws, porn air brushes and applies makeup to hide those imperfections. Even MetArt models do not look like MetArt models in real life. For example, Mila I from MetArt.com likely does not look this nice in real life. Yes, I am an ass for telling you to avoid this stuff and then posting it in the same thread.
I too have this issue. Maybe a total of 14 or so visits under my belt ( sorry for the pun with maybe 10 different ladies . NOT once have I had an orgasm - nope not once. I do not even tell the lady, nor even fake that I have had an orgasm . I don't want her to have some issue of not doing her job, or a self esteem thing. So far not one lady has noticed , or surely did not mention this fact . Some have wondered why I spent the entire session DATY, but I never explain the " why ". I enjoy the hell outta pleasing her, and it's my dime . If I am not going to orgasm , then why not spend some enjoyable time pleasing her . Tried the refraining from masturbating - did not work for me . For me after MUCH thought on the matter ...............I have to have SOME kinda emotional attachment to let go and achieve the big " O " , and in this " hobby " I know better than to let that in the equation ! I still enjoy it immensly and don't really concern myself whether or not I orgasm - If I ever do the lady will certainly KNOW and receive a tip equal to the original price - all the while smiling my ass off . Until that day I love pleasing the lady on my dime as fucked up as that may sound !
If you enjoy pleasing her that much, maybe you should be the escort. as for me, i want to get off. one of the message girl told me i can't come if i don't relax. i am thinking that is it
Guy, i think i found a answer. Prostate message or stimulation. I can come pretty easily if i get this. but not sure that many providers provide this service >>
to finish yourself? I sometimes have issues due to the glove or BP medication or whatever and will "take matters in hand" to finish. Many times my companions have said they think it is hot to watch a man pleasure himself and then explode all over their breasts, etc. I have some pretty strong finishes this way. Most times they will be playing with themselves at the same time which only adds to the excitement.
I have problems dropping the load inside a lady so I usually crank it out. Damn though getting that second one out I keep thinking I'm gonna rip the junk right off. Fortunately that hasn't happened. I think I just get some friction burns so I usually hobby 1x/wk so El Dicko can recover.
As we say in the biz, it's supratentorial, meaning, in your head. Maybe you feel guilty about it for one reason or another. This is one of those times when you have to soul search and ask yourself if you can get over this. If it's an overwhelming guilt thing, like if you're married and you feel bad about screwing around on your wife, you may want to consider hanging up the hobby at least for awhile.
But as many of you know, I got some Greek in yesterday and, yea, even dropped my load in the lady's pie hole with her oral skills alone so I'm on the road to recovery and maybe one day you will be too. Good luck and God speed!
I also try not to think about sex or get an erection, I usually know I'm ready when I start waking up with a hard on (which I ignor. If you take Viagra ( I do ) don't over dose it makes it harder to come, I understand cialis works differently and may be more effective for that condition (ask a urologist), I also take an herbal supplement, stay away from alcohol, cocaine also diminishes the ability to come (disspite the myth) I also eat a marijuana brownie, putting a little lube inside the cover helps. I make sure I exercise that week and get lots of rest and drink fluids. I make sure I urinate fully before starting. I also take two enemas, but thats to control farting. I also eat a strict low fat high protein diet that week, lots of fish and vegetables.
That usually works for me. I hobby about two or three times a year in Vegas, and normally about three time when I'm there.
If I masterate more than three times a day, two days in a row I get really bad headAches when I come. To cure that requires no orgasms for three days. It's a real condition called "thunder clap headaches"
Welcome to being 56 and married 35 years! At least when I get I'm fucking the sexyist pussy I've ever had in my life.
remedies may work for you. A more physically fit guy who drinks plenty of fluids (not alcohol), eats plenty of protein (not fats) and gets plenty of rest is more liable to have a great time. Some also say that sex is in the mind so RELAX and enjoy the ride. Before you know it, you will be spurting all over her or in her mouth.
1) Stop jerking off for at least two-three days beforehand. 2) Do not go into your rendezvous thinking about this being a problem. You are your own worst enemy if you are. 3) Do some upper-body exercise a couple of hours before you see the lady. A couple of sets of push-ups will get your arms, chest, and shoulders pumped, and I have always found that gets the internal juices going towards...
A fourth and fifth suggestion... 4) See someone you already know, and like, and vice versa...and/or 5) Make sure the lady you are seeing is as hot as possible,...
- Certain medications can cause inability to ejaculate, especially antidepressants. They are so effective at this that they are now being used to treat premature ejaculation. Viagra can also do this, try a lower dose
- If you're not taking any meds (and even if you are), your masturbation pattern may be a big part of the problem. Too frequent masturbation can desensitize your penis, the normal frequency is about 6-8 times a week, cut back to once a day and stop for at least 3 days before you have vaginal sex.
- The way you masturbate also makes a big difference. Masturbation laying on your stomach, rubbing against the bed, is the worst form and very frequently causes ejaculatory dysfunction (which is what you got little buddy). Masturbate lying on your back or standing or sitting up with your hand and some lube/olive oil/salad dressing/mazzola/baby oil/saliva/etc.
- Lose the death grip when you jerk off. As a great golfer once said "hold it like you'd hold a little bird in your hand, firm enough that it can't fly away, but not so firmly that you choke the life out of it". Although he said it about a golf club, it applies to choking your chicken also.
- be patient. It will take a couple months to get your sensitivity back to where you can come with regular vaginal sex, but it's worth it in the long run. Good luck!
Google " Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome " for more info.
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with maybe 10 different ladies .
