I've only had a handful of NCNS, and in most cases they did get back in touch with me.

One did, in fact, have a bad car accident on their way to see me such that even their cell phone got destroyed and they had to wait a few days to get out of the hospital to get to their laptop and email me.

Another also ended up in the hospital* and couldn't reach me until she got out.

A couple attempted to contact me.  In one case she sent an email explaining her cell phone went dead.  I returned the email but never heard from her again.  In the other the gal contacted me by phone saying she overslept and had her phone on silent.  I offered to come over but then she just hung up and I never heard from her again either.

Two gals just disappeared and I never heard from them again. Both eventually disappeared from the scene a few weeks later.  I guess some heavy stuff was going down for them.

It's a crazy business as one gal is always telling me.  We can't act like we're dealing with the phone company or some such outfit.

*medication issues

How do you experienced hobbyists deal with an NCNS?  My rule so far is "one and done".  If I get NCNS'd, that person goes on my DNS list, and I never attempt to see them again.  No matter what the reason is, whether it is a deceased relative, car breaking down, misplaced the phone,  friend in distress, life got in the way, and so on and so on.  

I only do incall and if she run me on a while goose chase than I would bother trying to see he again there lot of goof out there also if her Incall or dirrections are to scarry I skip out too.

I don't like booking appointments, if I wanted a commitment I'd be somewhere else doing something else. Since making appointments are a necessary evil. From my view point only benefit the lady, they are the ones whom demand the client make an actual appointment. NCNS should not be tolerated, and second chances shall never be granted. I wouldn't hold a personal grudge against someone who NCNS, however I wouldn't knowingly ever try to book with that person again.  

No Show is fine if there is a valid reason, and she calls me and explains why she couldn't make it, albeit in general terms.  If she promises to make it up to me, and delivers, then we are good..  

Valid reasons and explanations are one thing, if you're a fan of explanations. Where I lose all sympathy for NCNS, is that the client is doing the lady a favor per her request by booking the appointment in advanced. The way I look at it the lady is not showing for her self, and not showing for the client. I don't care if she's in a car accident, or she received a better offer both valid reasons for her to cancel. I wouldn't waste another second attempting to patronize her business.

I agree. One of my favorites did a NCNS once. I was ready to write her off, when she contacted me the next day, not only did she have a valid reason, but she went out of her way to make it up to me. Since she did that I gave her another try.  

The right thing for her to do is make it up to you with a free session for the same amount of time you reserved for her in the first place. If she doesn't offer the free session then I think you should never see her and back channel to the other guys that she is a flake. And yes, I mean this for any situation. Car breaks down, dog runs away, death in the family, whatever. It doesn't hurt her or cost her to preserve her integrity by making up the session for free

...you have no idea what happened because she is MIA and you can't communicate with her. In that case for me it would be a one-and-done deal. But if she bails out the last minute with a reasonable explanation, I'd give her another chance. I have had it happen to me only once, but after a reschedule she turned out to be a keeper.

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If you have already come, what difference does it make

A NCNS would need a damn good reason to get me to reschedule. Unless she is incapacitated, she can call or text. If she fails to do either I would avoid her like an STD. She is selfish and inconsiderate and not worth my time and money.

My record for retrying is 4 and I ended up with 5 NCNS from her.  I wanted to see her SOOOO much.  The last NCNS: we worked out the schedule and confirmed earlier in the day and again about 2 hours before.  It was raining all day but I got to the meeting place.  I asked, 'Where are you?' She: 'I'm going to be late. It's raining.' Me: 'It's been raining all day and we spoke about it earlier.  How late will you be?' She: 'A few hours.' Me: 'Good bye.'   After a one year hiatus, she came back from Europe and contacted me to see if I wanted to see her.  Me: 'Good bye.'  

And glad I did!   However, it mostly depends on the gal; the hotter she is, the more us guys are willing to put up with.

Really? Could she be that good? Sounds like somebody has fallen hard.

Huh? That is one of the weirder things I have read in a long time.

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If she does not contact you within a reasonable about of time (whatever time frame you see as reasonable) then call another Provider. There are plenty of Providers ready to see you.

why stress over it , take it as a lesson learned and move on , if the lady does call and is nice and does somewhat explain make a decision based on your gut feeling then if not be happy you still have your money and remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea .  

So, if I get a ncns it's the last time I'll get one from that lady. There are simply too many great other options. I've had a lady cancel a few days prior, that I can understand and I'd see her again as she's given me the respect of advance notice. When I make an appointment I'm squirming with anticipation by the time of the date so I'm very frustrated if she cancels last minute. I don't see BP girls anymore, I've learned my lesson well, so I'm not getting any and I've invested nearly the amount of the donation just to get there.

I learned my lesson. If it happens once, it's going to happen again. Show yourself to be a pushover, and you'll soon be a walkover.

I have had a couple of no-show experiences, though with one provider —a delightful lady whom I had previously seen and with whom things seem to have gone well and about whom I wrote a favorable review but who I guess will have to remain nameless here — it occurred twice, in each instance in the form of a last-minute cancellation by her following her confirmation earlier in the day of our scheduled meeting.

Granted an appointment can mutually benefit both parties. The lady is the one who emphasizes the importance of "scheduling an appointment" on her website. I'm fine with making a phone call while asking a minimal amount of question. Therefore it is of my opinion that scheduling an appointment is honoring a favor per the lady's request. She is the one who requires the scheduling of an appointment. She is demanding the advanced commitment.

You're asking two different questions here. If it's a true NCNS, then she no showed with no explanations, neither before, nor after the scheduled session. Just silence. Obviously, how could you expect her to respond to a second inquiry? It would be none and done.  

You guys can't really do that obviously. If I were a dude, it would be a no-go unless she offered a service recovery option as an apology, and am expression of her respect for my time.

Instead of deciding on a rule to follow when I'm not in that situation, I'd wait till the NCNS to arise and decide what to do then. It's like jaywalking. Generally I don't jaywalk. I figure it's safer to cross at a crosswalk even if it means walking a few extra yards. But if there is no traffic on a residential street late at night and the nearest crosswalk is a block away, I might jog across to the other side. But that's not a rule; it's just how I've usually dealt with the question of jaywalking.

It's simply mutual respect. If we can't respect each other, then we should move on.  

Say what???

If I do have one if the lady contacts me with a valid reason and an apology. I would consider trying to see her again. Whenever I make an appointment I set something up with a primary and get verified by at least 2 alternates. That way if something does come up I have a backup plan.

"Not once after an NCNS, has the lady ever been the one to reach out and explain".

I have given a second chance several times. If a provider contacts me the next day after she did not show up, I evaluate what she says and go with my gut.

On a NCNS absolutely no second chance.  I've had a few last minute cancellations and on the one I agreed to see again I wish I hadn't.  I have two more cases like that I am considering scheduling again but haven't had the opportunity yet.

She jerked me around, never replied.  A simple, "Sorry, change of plans" would have been nice.  I probably wouldn't see her but I'm left with a strong dislike for the way I was treated.  She's well reviewed in a nearby area but I would not see her if it was FREE.  My time was wasted & an opportunity lost.  She is on my DNS list.  

i'm always surprised when  read of hobbyists who have all kinds of trouble booking  a session and still try to make the appointment??? I would feel awkward. I'd rather try with another escort.

have car issues and as Heather stated, the provider gave me a free session.

what would a provider do if I NCNS

Just didn't make it to the Windy City this past Summer as I had planned.

There are beautiful zoo lights, awesome bar scene year round, some are open until 4am, great hotel rates, upgrades for honor members because of low demand, lots of shows, and of course - great women everywhere!

It was early in my "career".  

I just got stood up ncns by a provider that I would have never suspected would do so. I guess it goes to show you that you can do all your homework, get screened, book a session 2 weeks out, follow up with her on a confirmation email the day before and still get stood up  

Ncns is so rude. But either the person feels entitled, or it was an honest mistake/mishap. In that case, if it were me (hypothetically speaking), I would apologize profusely and be humble and sincere, and I would offer a half price session, and make sure it was the best frickin session of his life lol, and pray he doesn't write a flake review lol...
On my end, I have a 24-hour cancellation policy. If someone isn't totally sure that he wants the appointment, then he should please not book it. I do have other inquiries and if someone makes an appointment, I hold that spot for him obviously. So if he cancels last minute, I could've taken another appointment if it weren't for him, and now it's too late, so he just lost me what I consider a lot of money. So I think my policy is fair.
I definitely appreciate the gentlemen who pick me to session with and to be generous of their time and wallet to, and I respect their schedules.  They have a life, too, and might have gone to a lot of trouble to arrange to see me. People who ncns are basically for lack of a better expression, shitting on that...

Yep, infuriating.  My situation is like yours.  I only hobby when I travel, and take a lot of care in selection and booking.  People that do this, are not only disrespectful of the client's time.  They are also removing money from the pockets of other providers, who would have otherwise received the booking.  This is one of the big reasons that I am seeing less and less brand new ladies.  When one finds a true professional who respects your time, it is much less hassle just to repeat.  I realize that shit happens - one of my ATF's cancelled on me a week or so back, but I got 48 hours notice and a rock solid reason. I will see her again because of how the cancellation was handled.

In my short time hobbying, I've had all sorts of things happen: a last minute cancellation after I'd driven five hours to her city the day before; late, wet hair and in bathrobe, and had her dog in the bed (told that one many times); NCNS on a scheduled four hour first date; and some other things.  

and we've shared over a year of fun together. She is notorious for her less than timely appointments but she is worth every moment and actually had two ncns. So, always give someone a second chance. Conversely I once canceled an appointment then rescheduled and I've been in heavy like ever since with another. These two are ATFs and if it weren't p4p I'd be completely in love with one Angel. Totally.

and have a reasonable excuse, and offer some sort of compensation for my inconvenience, I'll give them another chance.  

Yes, it is taking money out of other provider's pocket, and it frustrates the hobbyist. If she would have cancelled 48 hours out or even when I confirmed the day before, the excuse wouldn't matter but I could have gotten screened with someone else and all would have been good. And I would've been happy and would've seen her on my next trip to Sin City.  

2014 has been an unusual year for me. My business travel typically has me in Chitown somewhat regularly, but this last year has been an anomaly. I've been unusually busy at work, which has restricted both my business and personal travel. All that said, 2015 will be different. I need to see a professional, so I'll be calling on you. I would like to go on record saying Chicago in Winter Burrr, so you're going to have to warm me up.

I had one never pick up when got to the desigated "last step" location. She never responded with reason so will not try again. I had another experience like that, made an alternate plan and when on the way to that she contacted me and offered to take me out to dinner. Didn't take her up on that but tried again and she was my ATF for awhile. Lesson, if they contact you and offer to make ammends OK, if not - too much else out there to have to deal with that...

Principals over pussy any day. No pussy is worth giving up your self respect over, especially if your are paying for it... Unless it's some BDSM fantasy of yours, and if it is. You shouldn't be in love with your dominatrix you should be in fear of her.

My chances of giving someone I know a "second chance" are much greater than giving a woman who flakes out on our first appointment. The odds go from ZERO to slim. I will confess, some pussy is really THAT good, but  she better have a really fucking good excuse, and THAT pussy better be worth killing for, (in the infamous words of Al Pacino, "NO pussy is worth dying for" lol)

But come on guys grow a fucking spine already, you are just giving hookers free rein to run all over you like the spineless weasels that you are.

That is BSU material for sure, and can only lead to always giving a third and fourth chance as well.

I had a NCNS last spring, highly reviewed lady. We were supposed to meet late morning, I went to her hotel, nothing. She called me around 10 pm and said she'd left her phone in her friend's car, and offered to let me come over for some midnight fun, double time for the same rate. I took her up on it and we had a great time.

I made an appointment for midnight and was told to text when I was nearby. I texted plus called when I got no response. Straight to voicemail. I had to travel some distance to the incall and I paid for parking. I waited at a nearby bar for a response that never came.  

Early on in my hobbying career, I made an appointment to see a highly reviewed provider that required some car travel.  Called when I reached the hotel 5 mins early (a pay lot requiring use of a charge machine in the hotel, by the way).  No answer.  No answer for the next 20 mins.  I drive off.  15 mins later (30 mins after the scheduled appointment), she texts to tell me she had been in a a traffic accident and would make it up to me.

Was in the parking lot. Called to get the room # got voicemail.  Waited 15 mins, then texted.  Waited longer and emailed.  After 45 mins gave up.  Had set it up a week in advance then confirmed the night before.  Maybe I should have confirmed that day, but when I make an appt I expect to keep it!
After bitching about it here on the NY board ( w/o mentioning names) I get contacted by her with a sob story about breaking her finger the night before by slamming a door on it and spending the night in the ER and forgetting about our "date" due to trauma and to being asleep with a dead phone at the time we were supposed to meet.  She texted me a picture of a splint and a black and blue fingernail.  I was still a little pissed, but I bit and forgave her.  I set up another meeting for the following week, which she agreed to.  I called to confirm on the morning of and guess what? Her "girlfriend" had come over due to domestic problems and now she couldn't make it.  I was now ready to give up but she said "How about later this week?"  Stupidly I said yes and set it up.  The night before, she emails me and tells me that she can't make it the next day because its her "birthday" and she'd rather spend it with friends and family.   Aaaargh!  Why the FUCK would you make a date for your birthday in the first place?  How the HELL would you FORGET that it was your birthday?  I told her that I would never bother her again and that she should forget me and my number.  I felt stupid for going back again and again only to get excuses and more excuses.  

She probably ran out of grandmothers.