So I go to this little bar/restaurant all the time and one day I see a lady and she's having dinner with someone maybe 30-40 yrs her senior and the conversation is date-like (so what do you like to do-not as in hobbies but more intimately). Then I see her 2 days later and she's there with someone different. This time he seems to be a mid 40s married man.
I really wanted to go up and say hi, maybe give her a wink, of course I would seem stupid if she was not an escort. But in the city it boggles my mind to think when I look around in a restaurant or a bar, how many "dates" and mutually beneficial encounters could be around me.
Does anyone get that feeling?
Since we live in the same city, I know exactly what you mean. Whether it's sugar babies, escorts, etc.
I'm curious what would happen if you approached her in a cautious manner. Maybe slip in 'TER' and if she looks confused then change the subject .. ?
Ever watch Hitch, he had these cool little black cards that people passed around.
be looking for 'it'. But most of the time, if you become aware, the 'looks' are most definitely there
What the hell is a BAM...I expect more from you Cosette. 
you ladies don't have a secret sign that you flash to let the other lady know you are a member of the profession?
Don't tell me that provider was telling me a big fat lie!
Anything you'd like for me to relay?
Since we're in the same City...
I took a provider there for dinner two days before Valentine's. This is a highly rated restaurant. The lower floor is very "respectable" and by reservation. The dimly-lit bar-dining room has last minute availability. She didn't believe me until I showed her that in the latter room: 1. every man there was at least 20 years older than his hot date; 2. every man had a ring; 3. none of the ladies did; 4. eavedropping on each couple, you could tell that neither person knew the other very well; 5. yet, the ladies were too physically demonstrative (ie, too much PDA) for these to be civvie first dates.
There was side-by-side couples seating, so in one case I caught some hand action under the table. In another, a guy was giving a lady a "choker" strap necklace as a gift (presumed SB/SD/dom-sub ritual). The cheesiest part was when an old dude at the bar "high fived" me because of my date.
I really wanted to go up and say hi, maybe give her a wink, of course I would seem stupid if she was not an escort. But in the city it boggles my mind to think when I look around in a restaurant or a bar, how many "dates" and mutually beneficial encounters could be around me.
Does anyone get that feeling?
Old ugly dudes surrounded by beautiful women... No one would bat an eyelash.
The food is bitching there too. Sexy fusion cuisine, small plates stuff. Delicious. A convenient bar. And it's cordoned off from the rest of the restaurant.
I saw they hosted a party of 20 comfortably at the same table.
I'm too lazy to organize anything though.
Lol, so how many of the ladies there that night did you recognize or even know?
But one doesn't count because she came by to have a single drink with her roommate (my date).
The other one I recognized is a really hot blonde who was seeing her SD.
Of course, I'm being facetious about it really being a clubhouse. It's like many nice restaurants in ny with dim lighting, discreet staff, and bathrooms you can fuck in. This one happens to be down the street from arguably the nicest hotel in nyc, LV, and Tiffany's.
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Out in my little part of the Wild West, there are tons of great restaurants and resorts to visit for drinks and dining. That is not counting the numerous exotic/collector car auctions, PGA tournaments, MLB Spring Training, etc events that happen this time of year.
My civvie friends and I play "spot the hooker" at the different events. Pretty damn easy.
Guess that's one reason I prefer to be out in public with someone close to my age, and has the poise and sophistication that would never garner the instant "old dude with a hooker" bust. Considering that Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp and I are the same age, and Clooney is a year or so older, while they could easily get away with a hot 20-something hanging over them, it sure as hell won't work for me.
The day I'm cruising with the 20 yr old at the cabana pool party, I'll be sure to be wearing the "TER Mangina" baseball hat that Curly and CPA sent me. Oh yeah, baby!!
Guy walks by on the beach while I'm sitting there with my wife. He is 400 pounds plus, pasty white and not looking good. My wife comments on him while he has trouble laying down on the beach. About 15 minutes later this 20'ish hottie in a thong strolls by then puts herself down by the beached whale and starts slathering him with sunscreen. My wife is speechless (hard to do).
She starts asking why she is with this guy. I answered he's rich but most likely a pro. A pro? What's a pro?
This was pre TER days but I was surprised at how naive my wife was.
...it's dangerous to point out "pros" to your wife?
I think the natural response would be: how do you know?
This was way before I knew about our "secret society" but it was so fucking obvious that even though I was clueless I knew.
Sorry sftd, I just couldn't help myself. That's a line someone used on me once when I told him I was taking my girlfriend to Italy
I just wanna know when it's OK on one of "your" threads. LMAO!
You've gone over your limit mister.
Costa Rica! Costa Rica! Costa Rica! COSTA RICAaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That'll distract her. She loves dwelling on those subjects.
Just Don't objectify women either unless it's a subtle linguistic slight like restricting a clause about ladies with "that" instead of "who."
And making fun of ISOs is my NY board cause, a lady needs some goals. This weather is DEPRESSING, another storm on Monday. I'm going bananas, add that to my tired subjects.
Are you hungry too?
Because all your panties must be bunched up.
And are you asking for DATY? I don't do that for free but I love "knuckle sandwiches." Aren't you a bit young to be using that expression?
Hey! It's CPA who brings up Les Mis!
Posted by Cosette, 2/28/2014 11:55:09 AM
And making fun of ISOs is my NY board cause, a lady needs some goals. This weather is DEPRESSING, another storm on Monday. I'm going bananas, add that to my tired subjects.
Are you hungry too?
Cause I've got some knuckle sandwiches to pass out.
Now please unbunch your panties. As for me, I'm going for a power walk on the beach. What beach? Where? My lips are sealed. Unless you hit them with your knuckle sandwich.
I notice it all the time, but I never really listen to the conversation though.
When I worked for an IT firm, I would go out of town and stay over in order to be fresh for the business meeting the next day. Sometimes a female business associate was assigned to go along with me and we would go out to dinner. The company always hired good looking women to balance out all of us ugly looking guys. So we would be at dinner and get a lot of stares because people would think that this old fart had either paid for a provider or had a lot of money to seduce the hot babe sitting with him, when it was just a business dinner. Since most of the ladies are hired by the company because they are extroverts, they can converse with ease and have great repartee with me. So you can't judge a book by its cover sometimes. LOL
Guys often fall into the train of thought that "she's hot so she must be a hooker." It's bullshit. The trampiest looking girls in Vegas are civvies.
Also, it doesn't matter if it's a John seeing a hooker he knows in public, or Cosette wanting to reach out to a fellow provider. It's a major No-No. Always respect someone's privacy outside the session. At most, smile and nod politley, then move on. Never approach someone you know or speak to them unless it's clear you're welcome. And it's much better to assume you're not and move on,.
or legitimate mail order bride..That's why I try to avoid going to the same/restaurant place twice, I strategically go to places where:
a) I won't run into anyone
b) I won't feel awkward if the hostess recognizes me
c) I feel comfortable with super dim light just in case
Miami is not that big obviously but, if NYC is the place you are referring to, with some many choices and places everywhere, why she picks this place is beyond me.. Perhaps she gets a kickback each time she brings a date? LOL
Definitely not a kickback because it's a hole in the wall, but with the weather people are lazy. I think she's just like "whatever, I'm not walking farther than this". And with so much ice around, it's hard to want to walk to a different place.
I'd give a left boob to be in Miami. Major winter blues.
discretion, discretion.... EOM
Love
TL
I am a very heavy man, crooked teeth, balding, and in short not all that attractive. My wife works out everyday, and.is a real looker. People assume my wife is with me for my money but when we met and married she made twice what I made. Sometimes love finds odd pairings. Sometimes that ugly or old dude is one just lucky bastard and sometimes it is him paying for it. From a casual glance it is hard to tell.
Are you looking for a sorority sister, or a piece of ass?
You do agree conversing with the lady on "his" time is rather rude, right?
Completely. I mean I wouldn't know the first thing to say. But maybe a wink??
Seriously! are you winking at the guy or the girl in the bar?
If you were to do that to my ex GF and current FWB who is thirty years younger than me and I caught you, I'd tell her that some "old broad" thought she was a hooker, and she might not take it so kindly.
Sometimes looks can be deceiving and "thinking" you know something can backfire on you. If you have misread the situation, some women might not take to kindly to you suggesting that their BF or husband looks too old to "really" be with them. As TL said, DISCRETION rules in these cases.
For this psychological profile, I laid out the OP and your replies so you can see where there 's clearly something wrong with your thought processes. The question was whether we also wonder about encounters around us. Yet, somehow you immediately answered about how people view yours and your dad's dates. You spend one superficial second talking about old men but only to put yourself in context rather than vice-versa. On top of that, you indicate that sometimes other men stare rudely at your date.
I make light of your narcissism and Tardwell-ism and you get offended.
You're really quite fun. If you go back and still don't have insight into yourself, I can help you find some help for all that.
OP:
in the city it boggles my mind to think when I look around in a restaurant or a bar, how many "dates" and mutually beneficial encounters could be around me. Does anyone get that feeling?
If someone suffering from said affliction has a thought consistent with their disease, would it be correction to label it "Tardwellian?"
Because that what I needed in that case (to be parallel with narcissism). Not an adjective.
Maybe Tardwellian behavior. Must be something better.
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Gosh, I hope Cosette isn't upset we've hijacked her thread without mentioning, well, you know, that place I'm staying in Central America....
and I am pretty sure that I long as I am part of it, Cosette is going to stay upset. I certainly hope I will be able to sleep tonight with all the angst I am suffering over it.
I met a guy friend at our favorite lunch spot, and my old sugar daddy was in a booth with this hot mess that was clearly his current recruit. I couldn't tell if they had just met, or had been involved for a while but I had a ball observing from across the bar, eating my taco salad and watching her texting the whole time and him staring at the ceiling. When they were leaving and walked passed us he finally saw me and looked mortified as he walked past. It was hilarious.
They were sitting in a booth right next to our regular "spot" at the bar, and as much as I was tempted, I refrained from sitting there and instead walked around to the other side before he saw me.
A lot of fun I bet, but Catty nonetheless. Kudos for your maturity
Spending as much time in Costa Rica as I do, being in the same room with even a dozen different women that I have slept with at one time or another has lost it's awkwardness, unless it's someone that I've actually been involved with, and didn't just fuck for money.
You've mentioned the forbidden "Costa Rica" in one of Cosette's threads! LOL! How dare you?