I have an issue that I would like input on. I have a policy that I do not offer multiple  hour sessions in advance. I like to see how the first hour goes before I consider multiple hours. In my case, I prefer to enjoy the time I spend with people and would prefer to end it after the first hour if I don''t feel a connection. I want to stress the fact that I always provide good service for the first hour unless the guy is a complete moron (rarely happens). Spending multiple hours with somebody I just don't connect with is very difficult for me. Is this policy unreasonable, and how do I tell somebody nicely that I would rather not stay for a second hour? Would love to hear opinions. Thanks...Lisa

If I see an ad for a lady that I have never seen but, by looking at her pictures and reviews, I will want to schedule more than one hour.  This is so that I can get a chance to spend a little more time talking with the lady and get to know more about her.  

If I book a one hour appointment, it's usually only going to be about the physical aspect.  In many cases that is all I want.  If I book for more than an hour, it's because I think you have attracted me more than most and I want to get to know you.

Miss LisaMN,

      I believe your policy is fine.  If you don't connect right away, why continue???  I speak that as a client.  I want an experience that transends everythint!!!!!  If you don't connect right away, why bother???  You seem to be an attractive gal,  so don't worry.  The "balls" are all in your court!!!!

       PlanetU2

Your policy is not unreasonable. With this policy I don't think there is a nice way to tell somebody that you would rather not stay for a second hour without hurting their feelings.  If your policy was that all first dates would be for only one hour you could avoid saying anything.  However that policy change would cheat you out of multiple hours on the first date with people you do enjoy.

Being a fellow Minnesotan, I thought I would reply.  I was a little nervous when I booked my first provider for three hours.  What if we didn't hit it off?  I'm on the line for a grand.  But, I had talked with her and knew it would be great and it was!  I can definitely see your point of view, but you're the one making the money.  Being uncomfortable for an extra hour and making $$$ isn't such a bad gig.  Just don't do a repeat visit.  Good luck!  Maybe we'll hook up sometime.

Actually, when I saw your post heading, I thought you had a two hour minimum, and I was going to respond that for me this would be a negative and reason to not see you for EXACTLY the reasons you gave.

You can always allow (or even invite...except I am not sure you can do that when you are being paid for you time...) a guy to stay if a real "love connection" is made. I didn't read the other posts, but I am sure someone else thought of this as well.

Insofar as guys who object to not being able to secure multiple hours on the first date...I am sure many of them are quite nice, but I suspect more than a few are EXACTLY to kind you are looking to avoid for lack of a "connection" in the first place...

Most are total gentlemen (local MN gent's as well as traveling).  Why assume the date will have to be cut short?  

I guess if that 1% creepy guy shows up you can end quickly, but why make that assumption with the other 99%?

Just a thought, but would it be possible to state on your site that any date over 1 hour you reserve the right to cut short due to lack of chemistry, with the understanding that they wouldn't have to pay for that 2nd hour.  I do tend to enjoy my 2 hour dates a lot more than 1 hour, and it would be a shame to only have 1 hour to spend with someone that you did click with.

Sounds like a great idea to me, as long as you are not upping the price for the 2nd hour.

I think it's sweet that you want to make a connection with your clients and enjoy the time you spend with them. For me, that's the most important thing I look for in a provider.

I think you should simply make first appointments 1 hour only. Your ads should say "1 hour appointments only." After meeting with a client, you can let them know that they could see you for multiple hours if they like. They will feel special, like you're breaking your rules for them. You will likely get many more multiple hour sessions with gentlemen you enjoy.

If a guy insists that he wants to see you for two hours, on the first call, you can simply remind him that you only take 1 hour appointments. If they seem like a nice guy, and politely request the two hours, you can let them know that perhaps if the first hour goes well, you'll make an exception for them.

Either way, offering the two hours is always a plus. The limited supply of two hour sessions will cause the demmand to go up, but only for the gentlemen you like.

I think it's an awesome policy and as long as it's a policy, no client can ever argue with it. If they do argue, your answer should always be "that's just my policy." Never try to explain it.

That is just asking for trouble......

I mean, think about it for a moment....how would YOU feel if you were paying to spend time with someone, and wanting to spend MORE time with them, but were told "I'm sorry, but I just don't feel like we have any 'chemistry' ".

That is ASKING for a confrontation...

Much better to have a policy, that way no one feels slighted, and just let those guys who want to stay that she WANTS to have stay do so...

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Riker, your posts seem to always be "on point".

Has it taken you a long time or many "encounters" to develop such a good concept of the hobby?

As a "newbie" I always enjoy reading you posts.



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I've listened to others good advice, and applied it in my own life, not only in the hobby.

In this case, marketing is my gig, so I bring the concept of always selling to the positive spin, to the table. Any restriction, preference or business style can always be presented as plus, or a feature to generate more business or higher sales.

I guess you're right. I'm lucky in the fact that this hasn't happened to me yet and I've enjoyed all my multiple hour encounters.

Well yes, your policy is reasonable.  How do you tell someone?  Well, just about like you said it here is fine.  You should understand though, that there are guys like me who just don't think a one hour appointment is worthwhile.  So we will probably look elsewhere.

Falcon

several great providers in my area have a "get acquainted" session, for all first time clients, one hour only, (almost) no exceptions. many do outcall only on the first date.

a few provide instructions that allow the provider to see me before the actual address is given. for example, to call on my cell from a parking lot they can see from their room.  

some have a password system (different scheduling number, their "real" name, code phrase like "green sky") to ensure any new appointments are from guys they like. if you don't like the client, you just don't give out the "private" info.

unless you feel compelling fear of harm, don't ever renegotiate *anything* about a session once the client is through the door .. unless it's in the direction of mutual pleasure