I met a provider that said she wanted to find a sugar daddy to add some stability to her income and reduce stress in her life.   I liked her a lot and saw her once a week 5 out of 6 consecutive weeks.  I was her biggest customer in that period.  

By the third session she seem bored, and the subsequent sessions got stale, mainly because she was ambivalent.  When I asked her about it she said she liked the business and appreciated my generosity, but it never translated into the sessions.  

I spoke with another provider that knew her about my experience, and that provider said she wouldn't like to have a client visit her that often, because it made her feel too much pressure to perform.

I thought I was doing the provider a favor by seeing her so much, and devoting my budget to her. But I gather that was not the case, even though she said she wanted predictable income.

Makes me wonder if providers have a preference to keep the clientele rotating with enough in between spacing that it seems like the experience is fresher/more invigorating.   Or is there just an adrenaline rush from seeing a wide range of clients, and seeing the same client too frequently dulls that.

So I would be interested to hear your thoughts, preferences, and typical practices on repeat clients.

bored of seeing the same clients. Dude, I've experimented on so many women, that I lost track, LMAO. Back in the good ol days, well, still today, but with less frequencies. Anyhow, when I had a good first time session, I'll see them about 5 times a month. Believe me, after the third time within the month, their performance decline.

You gotta mix it up, I sometimes take girls out to dinner dates or buy them some lingerie, or something like that. Just getting away from the meet and fuck scenario does change their performance. Yes, girls will get tired of seeing the same client. I understand where your coming from. If your spending $300 plus on her every session, shouldn't she at least be up to it? That is not always the case. Just think about, I mean, I sometimes get tired of fucking the same girl too, you know?

What I've learned is, once a month for an ATF is the optimal condition. You have to have several ATF's to see once a month if you want a satisfying sexual encounter.

Yes, I'd say that all professional relationships have an expiration date and if you see her too often, that expiration date will come sooner.

Since the two of you don't have the underlying foundation of love like you may have with your wife or SO, the relationship is.. superficial.  It's easy for a girl to give a few exciting performances, but if you visit too often, she may just start running out of tricks.  So, unless the two of you just have a mind blowing physical connection, I would space your visits out to maybe 3-4 per year so that she can stay fresh and excited to see you!

that's one reason that I rarely repeat with a provider.  too much good pussy out there for get stuck on one !

  I know you're really into this provider, but she's obviously milking you now.   Stop seeing her & don't initiate any new contact with her.  After a few months, she may contact you again.  If so, agree to just one session & don't be over eager.  

You may get a better session out of it.  At least she'll respect the fact that you have other options, and you're willing to take them.  You may look like Urkel, but act like Clooney.  You-have-options.   Good luck.  --z

they all get tired of the same old dick..no matter how good you think you might be or how well you get along..we are all constantly looking for fresh meat in this hobby..it is the nature of the beast..no one is ever truly satisfied..

i've been seeing the same women ( 5 times in three weeks ) and it has already changed.
Not that she is not always beautiful, but, the 1st time i walked in, OMG, way hot in what she was wearing. The next time, just comfortable sleepwear that i bought her. ( and not all dolled up with the hot outfit, ear rings, make up, etc. )
With a 25 year old, the sex is never gonna be bad, but, it seems like now, i'm someone she can talk to for 30-40 minutes, then 10-15 min of sex.
I haven't forced the issue, because i know she enjoys my company, but, it's better that i move on now. ( she's forgetting i'm there for sex and i'm getting to attached )

... 95% of these questions that guys ask, but already know the answer to. Some ladies will say yes, some will say no, and some will say it depends on the guy. Every lady is unique. Find out which type of provider you're dealing with and respond accordingly.

... OLD!!! Are you surprised she would rather talk then have you laying on top of her?

BTW, she was probably wearing the sleepwear you bought her instead of getting "dolled up" because she probably thought you would appreciate seeing her wearing your gift.

I would be willing to bet she enjoys your envelope, tips, and gifts MUCH more then your company.

Hi McD,

You may be right, for my next visit to a wonderful lady will be by fourth in three months (tenth, overall)!  The excitement is still very palpable waiting for the appt! Her next visit will be Thanksgiving, so now  I can concentrate on making an appt; another hottie, as i await my ATF's return!! This hobby is the greatest!! ;o)

Ahhh, your not telling me something i don't already know.
BTW, i don't lay on top of her....i poke her in the bung-hole from behind and she sits on my face for oral.
I may be "old" but she sucks my dick like i'm 25...
Honestly, she doesn't have to wear anything......she's way hot naked!!

I have a couple SD type relationships, but none ever see me more than once a week. I never get bored seeing guys from out of town because I don't see them very often. If I don't get somewhat complacent, I am probably falling for him lol.

An easy client is a breeze and once a week is great without having the session deteriorate. A more difficult client, I need way more time in between. And even then after a while I probably wouldn't see him. I don't see the need to deal with that if I have other, easier options.

I don't get bored, but I can lose complete interest in someone that drains me.

Which is why married guys come here  

As for me I love seeing the same clients because you already have a feel for each other so you know what to expect. Plus you get comfortable with each other and the sessions become more intense

And on both sides...hmmm

There have been some great stories about guys getting the WFE (wife experience)...

Complete with taking the dog out for a walk
Taking the garbage out for her
Buying her personal hygiene products and bringing them to her

And of course the "you want me to do what?" excuses which is most famous for:

Not today sweetie...I've got a headache  LOL

And you ladies...still expect that weekly allowance from the faux hubbie

Gotta love it!

Very well said! I love my repeats and it shows! I post so rarely that I get "miss you" emails from TER! That is why I am on here today! Plus, my website is not the best because I thrive off of my repeats! LOL If a guy sees me like clock work, is clean and polite I am thrilled and I show them I am thrilled! I have been seeing some of the same people for over a decade that are now my friends too! If you are seeing me like clock work you will get discounts or free upgrades or discounted upgrades because I want to! There have been guys that I just did not click with and was not happy they were coming back, but there was always a reason I was not happy they wanted to see me again like they were not clean or they were rude or cheap, but I have very kindly refused to see them and tell them why, so maybe they will be better with the next provider. That has only happened a couple times in all of the years I have been a provider. I thrive off of my repeats and I personally love when I feel comfortable because I already know them! New guys are fun too, but I LOVE my repeats! I know some ladies prefer new guys all of the time and don't want to see the same person too often. I prefer a little of both new guys and the guys I have gotten to know! We are all different! With that said if you know you are clean and polite and she does not seem happy to see you then move on or see her less often! Maybe you will find someone that does really want to see you often or she will appreciate you more!

I would make sure to use my ATF as reference for new providers' screening so she won't take me for granted. As this is only a hobby, I wouldn't hesitate to replace my current ATF when I find a new ATF.

that she had a 3 visit limit for clients.  Although she was joking, she did make it clear that 3 visits from the same guy, especially in a short span of time (a month or so), was plenty and that going beyond that was not a good thing for anyone.  I think she is right.  

When I first started hobbying, I often gave in to the temptation to repeat, ASAP, with especially tasty young hotties.  And I found that on the 3rd visit, the thrill had lessened considerably, for me and the young hottie.  So I have learned to resist repeating too quickly with a provider, no matter how hot she is -- and that seems to work best for me.

familiarity can breed boredom and sometimes contempt on both sides.  Here is a great example of too much of a good...makes it not so much a good thing.

.........anyway why would you care. Unless you were  not only financially invested but emotionally invested, which usually works against you in this business.

Also,  the risk you run seeing a particular provider regularly is that at some point it may began to feel like relationship. Just like any other relationship people grow apart or in this case it may have  simply run it's course.  

At this point, since you've already told her you were no longer going to see her is to forget about her and move on.  

Good Luck!

I have never had a problem getting women outside of TER   I am sure you can only get a date if you throw down the green.

I have a regular that I have been seeing for over a year now. He gently licks my nipples and sucks them wheras I get goose bumps. He goes down on me and it feel divine. We have a great time in the sack and I feel so good afterwards. Why would I tire of that? I have many regulars that enjoy my company and vice versa. We enjoy each other and they do things to my body that makes me purr. They are clean and always ready to play. I am not tired of seeing them and very much appreciate them continuing to visit me.

It just hasn't worked out for me yet.  The only evidence I have that there are women that think like you is from TER.  Three of the providers I have been with that I have seen multiple times and tried to create a comfort zone were just not into it, even though they said they were.  Actions always speak louder than words.  I am working on a fourth now, and am going to take it slower with her, and let her show signs of interest vs me trying to lead her.  

It has been an expensive search laced with nothing but frustration and failure so far.

How often do you see the regular?  

Does he make a point of seeking your input on what causes you pleasure, and do you like that?  I have had three providers get off their game when I asked them what I can do to please them, none of them responded with advice, they all seemed perturbed and just wanted to focus on getting me off so the session would end quicker I guess.

I told her that I was moving on because the sessions weren't going anywhere for me, and it wasn't the sort of session I told her I was looking for when we first met, which she said she was interested in.

She hasn't responded to multiple attempts by me to follow up and keep it friendly and the door open for the future.

So either she is totally insulted that I would drop her (she has an ego as big as Dallas about her attractions as a provider, and based on my experience with her, totally unwarranted),  she was totally disgusted having sex with me (38 year age difference, so I can appreciate that, even though I am completely fit and not ugly, but still....) and was glad to get rid of me, is totally pissed because she was banking on the cash I was stuffing in her purse, or who knows what.  It is hard to have a conversation with someone that won't talk to you.  And that in itself was part of the problem.

If I see a client once every two weeks or so. I get more comfy which makes for a better appointment.
But I don't think doing it out of sympathy or "favor" is the right approach.

Don't every ask a women what she wants, because a lot them don't know.  Even if she did, I doubt she tell you........beside every women is different.  You need to pay attention to her reactions when your with her. Get get to know her body and what makes it tick.  

As for their comfort level with you don't rush it if it happens fine.  All you can do is be clean and respectful. Having some confidence won't hurt either.

If a woman is not attracted I doubt there is much you could do. You contacted her seeking her services. If she feels she has to perform and not fake because we all know how that turns out, the pressure gets to her and throws her off. Totally see how that can happen to some ladies, not all though.

How about this...just let things unfold and she might tell you. If she does not, my advice is to leave well enough alone and just enjoy the session.

Re: And on both sides...hmmm

Of course the wife might mention your "iffy stiffy."  But escorts are paid not to bring it up.  Oops there I did it again.  

After all you did say this:

I told her that I was moving on because the sessions weren't going anywhere for me, and it wasn't the sort of session I told her I was looking for when we first met...

So why would you want to keep the door open for the future? Do you think either she might change or you might suddenly want what she gives?

My guess is, one hobbyist leaves and another shows up..she sees no need to keep in contact with someone who has told her she is not for him. Unless you want a email buddy, win which case you have your answer.

WHAT???! I have been seeing him for two years now, actually two years and a few months. I am never off with him, not with a tongue like that! He never needs to ask because when he did ask me the first time I told him I loved to be licked and told him how and where to lick me. No fingers inside; just concentrate on my clit and he did and it sent me to the moon! He tells me he is in a sexless marriage so he likes cuddling and tender kisses as do I. We have a great time. Another one loves my butt LOL. He likes to rim me and kiss my butt cheeks, two things I enjoy. I find that when clients ask me what I enjoy, I tell them because I enjoy being pleasured. Why wouldn't I? They are always open to making me happy and as always they leave me with a grin on their faces.

I have been masturbating since I was 11. I know what my body likes and doesn't. There is no pressure if asked this question. If a client wants to pay me for making me feel good, who in their right mind would not tell him? It's a win/win situation. I am always upfront with what I like and don't like when asked. I don't know why this is bad!!!

The thrill lessened for both you and the provider? Odd to say the least. The client I posted about first has a tongue send from Heaven!! I come from having my clit licked a certain way. He does it. I love pulling him into me and kissing him deeply while he is inside. I love how he licks my breasts and makes me shivers. That never gets tired for me, even after two years. I don't put on a facade nor do I follow a script. Not all clients I see make me weak in the knees like this man and a few other ones I see but the ones that do, I am always thrilled when they call upon me again for another bedroom romp. My body just responds to them in such a good way. I love my job.

Your're an expection to the rule. As you can see by the original post others may not share your sentiments.

I'll admit you do bring up a good point.

Geez, it seems pretty simple to me.  Kind of like would you prefer beer or wine?  Sugar, cream, or black?    Would you rather have your pussy licked,  your nipples to be squeezed, ride on top or bottom?

Wouldn't you rather me not do something that you find unpleasant and do something you do?

Its just sex.  No need to make it complicated and dripping with drama.

Thank you! Yes I do LOL.

:P

so far, for me, the third time has been the best (and the last) with every provider.