Is it review boards like TER, your clients, your marketing, your head for business, your personality, your honesty, integrity, looks, service, your area, or your board posts?

Me personally, I credit review boards such as this, and the guys who take the time to share honest feedback. I am one who mostly markets to hobbyists, and without sites like TER, it would be rather hard to reach them, and no way for them to know I am legit. If TER did not monitor and pull fake reviews, most women would be out of business because of utter bs.

I highly doubt my posts get me MORE business lol, though most say otherwise. In short, I think my mouth is the culprit in most of my failures, but in most of my success as well. Without it, I would have all 5s in performance lol. I've never gotten by on looks alone, but personality is the most commented on when it comes to appealing traits. I don't get it, but why fix what aint broke?

I credit my personal success to only one thing/being, and I won't say what that is, because you would all laugh, but I can do nothing without him.  

Guys, what do you consider most important when looking for not just a fk, but a companion?

Anyone care to share...



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Myself......Nobody can make me or break me....

...except me..

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Customer service. Since we're in an unusual forum, it doesn't mean exactly the same thing as the nonsexual, civvie world, but customer service is the clincher.
I define it as this: Attention to detail on her part. Honest enthusiasm, or acting to a degree that I feel like the experience is really enjoyable. Friendliness to go with the sensuality, and an absolute absence of robotic behavior. Those all supersede some mythical standard of beauty, for me, and that's why I go to a Provider- not a streetwalker.
If I leave feeling like we not only got along, but we reached an understanding, then ALL of those elements were present and in place, and I'll see her again.

Besides being sexual dynamos its a lot more fun if they can carry on a conversation and laugh. It can make a somewhat awkward situation a lot more comfortable. That and a great bj

My marketing to the types of guys I can happily see. And my personality...I think the physical gets em to you, but the personality and the way you make them feel, keeps them coming back.

You need to email me again about this ahem, "marketing" lol.

wallet.

I know I want to meet you based on your board presence alone.
You have written about your motivation before you know.
No one laughed. It's that go fuk yourself way of thinking that gives you your appeal.
It demands respect. Any men who say otherwise are insecure.

I have never been in the kiss London's ass gang.
Confidence in women is awesome though.
I guess that is why it is fun, and interesting to talk to providers.
That is if they can talk.

Only problem is since I went to a spa with other naked men around
It turned me gay! Plus I am too lazy to go and get milk.
Can't go to NOLA. Don't even know where that is.

I'm very honest and sincere person with a level head and doesn't fall for any emotional drama. I've had providers tell me after a third or fourth date that they can't read me and not quite understand me. But when i'm with them, they get just me, no acting or playing games, and maybe that is why i have a great repoire with all the ladies i've seen.

1. I figured out who I don't want to see

2. I figured out who I do want to see.

Back to #1, once I figured out what this group needs/wants in order to make first contact, I do the opposite. If anyone from this group contacts me, they still have their "have to ask" questions. So they "out" themselves and it's not hard for me to decline the appointment request.

Should one or two slip through, I will not vary from my boundaries and they leave disappointed because there is not enough money to make me do something I cannot or will. not do. One instance comes to mind...he did everything to get to see me but screwed up once in front of me...the envelope was handed back and he was told to leave.

That leaves the door wide open for the guys I do want to see. These guys are not all perfect by any stretch, however, they are the group I can see without wanting to smother...lol

....ain't happen...
I don't think the Northern folks know much about this BnG for pennies crap but its a pretty common practice/harassment down here...you know this....lol
That being said, a girl certainly can't prosper nor succeed on that..^^^^ therefore making my own decisions kept me from that downward spiral....yikes
ROLL TiDE ROLL.....BAMA..!

I can't lie...you know I love a good B n G once in a while bwahahhaa. Got my wisdom tooth out this week, so my mouth is broken. Imagine that shit...a hooker with a broken mouth and a handicapped vagina! Guess, I need to put a sign up. OUT OF ORDER!

Surely other contributions have helped, as has the review database.  But I also do my own due diligence, and I crosscheck info with multiple sources.

But a lot of it just comes down to luck or divine intervention, too.

" Guys, what do you consider most important when looking for not just a fk, but a companion? Anyone care to share... "

I certainly get that not all pussy is created equal, but the actual sex isn't what I take away from an encounter London.

How you kissed, how relaxed you felt as I held that glorious nekked body of your next to me and in turn how relaxed I felt being held in those glorious nekked breasts of yours, "the experience" in short.  I have not been around long enough to know when GFE wasn't an expectation/option, but I know that I would not have stayed in the hobby the 14 or 15 months that I have had it not been available.  

I will sometimes flirt with a provider for months before seeing her, making sure I get the right type of "person".  Not looking for a fuck-me-and-get-out-skank, those experiences are literally awful to me.  I want to see your smile when I make you genuinely laugh, and have that be part of the attraction.  If we get there, then we had a good date.

I've never really thought of this in terms of success or failure, but if I had to do so it was the provider who marvelled that I had not yet walked into an LE trap.  Backpage was all that I knew at the time, and she pointed me to TER.  From there the experience evolved to ATFs and being hyper-selective aboiut who I see, a pretty face and a nice set of tits doesn't do it anymore although that was the original objective.

Diet Coke exiting one's nasal passages at the speed of light, is excruciating?!

I would like to propose a "TER Stand-Up Night". Now that's a M&G I wouldn't miss(sans Diet Coke, of course)!

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Very well stated. Thank you! I think some reviews focus way too much on just the sex, and tell nothing about the girl otherwise. BFD that she can take 10 inches of hot dog in her butt...can she even afford to treat her clients to a luxury experience, beyond spreading her legs? How does she make you feel other than when you're naked? I think the best reviews include these things.

Ben Franklin

Looks, Personality, Service, Marketing and Reviews....

I mean in the most succinct terms, my life experiences. They've come together and afforded me the ability and perspective to do this, do it well, and really enjoy it. That seems pretty reductive and it is, but so many small things combine to make the whole.

I was always sexually curious, but got to "hone in" on my skills in a few long term relationships that made me very comfortable sexually and allowed me to explore my sexuality. My professional experience has taught me great customer service skills, professionalism, as well as how to best approach people and make instant connections. I am lucky in the looks department and also even more lucky to have a decent head on my shoulders which I think is often overlooked in importance.

TER definitely has some influence as I did find it a bit hard to get off the ground at first in an area where many are wary of scams and legal entanglements, but I don't really rely on reviews or ads. My preferred client is and will always be the gentleman who seeks more than the GFE acronyms and who becomes a true regular and we share a level of intimacy in that we mutually share our likes, desires, etc. ...And yes at the end of the day it is still for an envelope and they've still come for some sort of physical release, but there's mutual respect and genuine sentiments involved.

It is all you and you lonesome self.

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Hi London,

Being kind, compassionate  understanding, funny & a great kisser, for the both of us, because I suck!   @ it! :oP I found all these qualities in most of the women w/ whom  I've had sessions! This hobby & TER are awesome!!

Yes, when you've learned to fake those, you've got it made.

---Groucho Marx.

Your wrists aren't broken, are they? :-P

And that may not always come thru in my board posts.

Connection, Connection, Connection. Chemistry, Genuiness, Realness. Nothing phony whatsoever.

I know you understand why I see who I do.

long enough to say whether I am successful, but I am happy with the way things are going so far.

I agree with Saturnsky's post about marketing properly. I have been fortunate that I have attracted exactly the types of gentlemen that I would want to see, and those I have attracted have been very respectful and sweet. 98% of them keep coming back, so I presume that means I have succeeded, at least with them. The other two percent are from out of town, but each has expressed a desire to return (could be smoke, but nice to hear).

So for the relative success I have had, I would attribute some to marketing, some to this board, but mostly to how I treat my friends- that is what makes them come back to me. And it helps that I absolutely adore what I do.

No, but I hate hand jobs. Seems like such a waste when the mouth is right there. Just saying. Who the hell is going to pay my rate for a hand job? If you find him, call me lol.

As someone who has sparred with you in the past, I think your qualities speak without words. You're a bit confrontational and snide at times, but hey...I am the master of that shit lol. You used to piss me off, but now I respect you for who you are, and what you stand for. I have even found myself looking back on many things you've said, and considering how accurate they are.

I don't want some provider that just lays there and fake moans while I get my nut.  That is unappealing and undesirable for me.

I find a female with a head on her shoulders and a sharp personality to be much more desirable.  If she can carry on a conversation and make the entire experience fun for us both then I will find her more attractive.  A good sense of humor can really elevate a lady also.

For me it is the total experience and not just the nut.  Of course tha'ts just me.

Definitely me - and staying on my "A" game as far as client relationships, marketing, screening and choosing wisely. In the beginning when I was all thumbs I had some fantastic ladies advise me here and there, absolutely priceless! (Thank you London )

P.S. and taking a break when I need one

You are more than welcome sweetie, and thanks for your input. See, I am good for more than just insults, you assholes!

Success...

Same things as in real life.

1) Likeability I feel is an important predictor of success.  

2) Reliability, because while there were so many other choices in NYC...I was always EASY to book with. My incall was convenient, my clients never had to worry that I'd flake.

3) Persistence...when I started in NYC in 2008, it was SLOW as hell. I got into this broke and got even broker waiting for work. But I kept reading, kept talking to people, kept finding new ways to get work. Some girls who had worked pre-2008 were used to easy money for nothing, and didn't know how to hustle. By summer 2009 I was one of the only girls I knew not complaining about the economy.

4) Same as the guys, research. It didn't help keep me out of trouble, but since I read every board, including the PO board, from the time I was with an agency, I became very informed about the business and hobbying community. I was very prepared to go independent and had no growing pains when I did.

Lack of success...

1) Wanting a 'normal life', especially vis-a-vis relationships.

2) Having a low tolerance for unlikeable guys or physically/emotionally challenging sessions, not being willing to schmooze or kiss ass with reviewers and/or board guys (sorry guys!).

3) Not promoting myself enough, not asking for reviews. I advertised very passively.

4) Generally not prioritizing escorting. If I have a choice between real work that's $150 for 3 hours of work, and a 3-hour date for ten times as much, I'll pick the $150. That may pan out for me; it also may not and I may regret not making that escorting $ when I had the chance. But my feeling is that escorting money comes and goes, but my other work as an investment. Again, that may be completely foolish of me.

Sometimes I feel that I should just do my job and PERFORM rather than being so persnickety. The ladies I've seen who are truly successful seem to be able to tolerate anyone for any amount of time, without showing wear. Not me. Give me an hour with certain people and I just want to bite! lol. But it's those guys who make me wanna bite, who really NEED to do this for female companionship. I know from other ladies that those really annoying, socially awkward men make very generous and loyal clients.

I do good when I tour there, but that's only one client per day at a 2 hour min. for 800. 2 a day, makes bank. Take away 400 for a hotel room and food, I only make about 350 a day, if I only see one client. My secret..hit Stamford for half the trip.



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but I feel that it has to be harder being a touring girl. There's a lot of competition, and unless you are a truly renowned household-name type provider (I wasn't), you struggle to get new clients to pick you out of 10,000 others. Being a local girl, I played the waiting game as far as new clients went, and saw mostly regulars...about 75% regulars. But I saw them at THEIR convenience, and scheduled life around escort stuff. I can't imagine only working for a short time and NEEDING guys to book during that time.

On the other review site and it is true aside of looks I have been told men want to know they are
spending time with someone who has "lived a little"  and can hold a conversation . Reviews indeed
and the boards men are members of with proper verification. I have always only depended on
one board at a time. I never like being in too many areas it confuses me .

Being true and genuine not putting on any act has brought some wonderful people my way.
When you can relax and feel comfortable it makes you well liked.

Angela

LOL! Miss you too boo!

I attend M&G's to actually know other members of this great community.  I have been hosting provider only M&G in San Diego for the last 4 years.  My main goal is to network with providers, so they trust a reference from a provider they know personal, and to educate those who have questions, or need help finding doubles partners.  

I have been in this adult industry for over a decade.  I started in college answering phones for an agency, and eventually worked as an agency escort.  The only time I ever had issues in this business is when I worked for agencies in college.  I started my own agency after graduation, and it was fun for a few years.  When I became independent I found TER, but did not read the rules, so I never cared about my score until a few years ago.  Surprising to me I am a top-rated provider here solo, and duo with my identical twin Goddess Jezebel.

No one guided me, or held my hand during the sweat & tears it took to get to be a top rated TER provider.  Thank you to the wonderful fellas who consider me to be a great entertainer, but I think I did all the hard work, so congrats Ms. P.  I am proud of myself for still being something, like a big deal!

Well said. I've been in the biz a decade as well, but not as a provider. I've never been to or hosted any meet and greets, because I don't want thousands of people knowing who I am and what I look like, since I don't post my face on the net. It's far too easy for people to be catty and try to harm you, when you put yourself in those situations, so I avoid them. I've had parties before, but I controlled the guest list big time. Never more than 12 people. I keep to myself and don't hang around with other providers on my off time, but that's just me. This business is just that to me...a business.

I have never been a hooker, and I see why you do not play well with others.

I just went back and looked at my post, and I did not even use the word "hooker" at all, so where your bs is coming from, I have no idea. Did you mean to reply to ANOTHER thread? I play well with some women..just not catty, insecure ones who start shit with every provider in their area.



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Thank you London. I have a lot of respect for you as well. we're pretty much polar opposites on many things but I suspect we have a lot more in common than not. We are both pretty vehement about who we are and who we aren't. I gotta respect a lady who is so strong about who she is. It's actually very sexy.


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This is exactly why I can't imagine going to M&Gs- aside from the specter of someone I know (or even worse, am related to) being there. I had my problems with being friendly to some ladies in the past and am now extra cautious. While Ms P's provider only M&Gs sound really fun and like wonderful chances to meet others, the actuality of them really frighten me. I wish I could be more brave, but I am just a little too private in my old age. Lol!!