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Mister Red Baron 19 Reviews 493 reads
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I congratulate you for having the lofty goal of remaining faithful to your girlfirend.  However, it seems to me that it might be a little easier if you stay off the boards.

I don't know what it is, but today God just continued to send one woman after another my way.  Just as I am struggling to stay true to my girlfriend of 7+ months, first I have a woman in my office that is starting to show an interest in me (today, she asked another co-worker if I was married).  

Next, a drop dead gorgeous woman walks in the office on business, and while she and I have talked numerous times in the past, today I was just smoother and we exchanged cards, and within our limited conversation, we both established that we are recently divorced.

Finally, an ex-girlfriend calls me up and we end up going out tonight, the first time we have seen each other in 4 months.  We go walking together and then I buy her dinner and we have coffee together, spending about 3 hours together.  While I try to kiss her at the end of the night, we only embrace tightly for a good three minutes and she reminds me that I have a girlfriend and she cannot kiss me.  Instead, she accepts an invitation for a date tomorrow night.

Of course, hobbying would prove safer than going out with an ex-girlfriend, but it just felt so good to see her again and she is a completely different personality than my girlfriend, who tends to border on perfectionism and being high-strung.

Although I have been in better shape in my younger days, now in my mid-30's, I just feel that I am having so much more success with women than ever before.  Not sure if I am exhibiting more confidence, I make better conversation or just that someone my age who is divorced with no children is considered a good catch, but I never had this kind of attention from women before, and honestly, each of these women are very attractive to me and ranging from about 25-35 in age.

While I have it pretty made with my girlfriend, it is difficult to cope when there are so many quality women exhibiting more than a passing interest.

Just wish I could get back to a place where I was seeing/enjoying intimacy with two different women on altering nights...probably isn't going to happen or at least not for more than a couple weeks before my cover is blown.

This is nice, but it would have been much appreciated had I experienced this while I was younger.  Why now?

With that view of yourself (and no, you aren't 'exhibiting more confidence')I'm suprised ANY woman is showing you attention. Maybe they just feel really sorry for such a decrepit old man.

Closet coprophobic1198 reads

Yeah...maybe he's a wheezing tubbo' lard now and surprised that anyone's paying attention at all...with reviews stopping in 2003, who knows?

Just don't see any point in posting reviews when I mostly see AMP women or women on Craigs List that are here today, gone tomorrow.  If anything, I am a couple pounds less than in 2003, although I am getting the occasional gray hair on my head. :(  Oh well, at least I still have all my hair so it could be worse.

Seeing my ex-girlfriend again tonight and not sure I will be able to resist making a move.  Difference between last night and tonight will be ALCOHOL.  Last night there was only a few endorphins going through her head as we went walking, and then I am sure the dinner and dessert with coffee only served to make her will stronger and her judgment better.

Tonight, however, first I will start her off with a pre-dinner drink, then another drink with dinner, then a drink or two with the live performance I am taking her to...hopefully, by the ride home I will be able to scratch her itch.

Worse case, however, I have a fun night with her and get myself worked up and take it out with multiples on my girlfriend tomorrow night.  

Yes, I am a pig, but where there is a pig there is always at least one woman (and usually more) to enable that pig.  Oink oink.  

In my defense, at least this pig shows his enabling women a good time in and out of the bedroom...after all, that is mostly what a woman wants...to be entertained.

Good luck zorro.  You are going to need it when your world crashes in around you because of the cockiness.  As for your last comment about women wanting to be entertained - I'm not sure if I am entertained by your comments or repulsed.  Sounds like the pig in you has to pay to be enabled. What a man!  And to top it off, you are going to get your exgirlfriend drunk to get a little. And if you don't, your current girlfriend will get lucky tomorrow.  Glad I don't have her luck!

There is an old saying "feast or famine".  Those of us who have lived through those times have learned to appreciate the feast times, not take advantage of them.  Take advantage and you are going to find yourself in the famine stage quickly.

Sorry, just had to add my 2 cents..

Karizza,

No, tell me how you REALLY feel about me. ;)

Much to my ex-girlfriend's credit, she politely refused my advances the night before last.  We went out, had a nice dinner, each enjoying a  Margarita with dinner before the performance, another drink at the intermission and then had her home before 11pm.  Nothing more than some nice hand-holding, non-sexual but affectionate touching and an affectionate hug and some nice kisses on the cheek to end the night.

The ball is in my ballcourt but if I want my ex-girlfriend back it is clear that I am first expected to rid myself of my current girlfriend.

Spent last night with my girlfriend and I found it was A LOT of work and not entirely sure it was worth listening to her bitch & moan about her day at the office for 45 minutes, then hear her bitch & moan about her girlfriend for another 15 minutes, then talk about other nonsense for another 30 minutes, before she treated me to a nice dinner out and we returned and went right to sleep...waiting until an hour before I had to leave for work before getting my bedroom reward.  Didn't used to be like this...before sex was THE priority while now it is more of an afterthought.

Not sure where this is headed but I am seeing my ex-girlfriend for lunch today, and as far as she goes, she is dating, and I am not objecting to her doing so (as if I am in a position to do so).  I am just saying that she has full disclosure of her position, that's all.  

As far as my girlfriend goes, she is aware that I am not pleased that we are only having sex once a day when we see each other as opposed to twice a day or more in the past.  It is up to her to decide whether she wants to rectify it or risk the relationship.  I will not settle for the ordinary and want the extraordinary in an intimate relationship, and I have told her as much.

Women as they get older they realize that men will not always be chasing them. They realize that gravity and age is working against them, it is hard to compare a 19 year old Co-ed to a 36 civi with 2 kids.
Also I think that a women sex drive changes or focus does as well, but for the most part everyone grows up a bit as they get older, and they realize that sometimes you have to after what you want to or like.

I do feel that women like men who are confident (not cocking or self centered), who take care of themselves, and have a future.

Personally though after a while all women will realize you are playing them and either not care and play along or move on.

And lastly some women like older men simple because they are more mature or atleast think they are anyways :-)

Well can I get a double date then and then I can decide :-P LOL

LOL unfortunately little sis still lives in North Dakota so that's just not going to happen. And unless you're African American I doubt she would go for it anyways. She's only attracted to men of color! I, however, am attracted to all men.

You ask a question in the subject header with no indication of a sincere desire for a response in the body of your post. Reminds me of G2's response to you under your posted question, "Am I doomed?" You may want to go back and re-read it.

GaGambler660 reads

rather than actually asking a question.

Zorro, you are a pig. speaking as a fellow pig,my advice to you is to just go with it, enjoy your good fortune. It seems like thing are going your way, they may not always go this way.

Life seems to have cycles, you seem to be on a good one, rather than question your good fortune, enjoy it, nothing lasts forever

I congratulate you for having the lofty goal of remaining faithful to your girlfirend.  However, it seems to me that it might be a little easier if you stay off the boards.

Good things (as well as bad) seem to come in clusters.  Being thankful may be a good place to start in your situation.

My only issue with your situation is that it appears to have a braggadocios quality.  As men become more financially successful which usually occurs as we get older it comes as no surprise that we receive more attention.  This is to be expected and must be managed or the problems that you are experiencing quickly arise.

Zorro as has been said below you seem to come here for acclaim and endorsement. As I said below you seem  determined to behave in evermore risky ways until you destroy this phase of your life. While you claim to seek advice you absolutely refuse to hear it.

 I wish you well, personal change isn't easy, but in my unhumble opinion the best thing that board members here can do for you is to leave you to post without comment. As such as long as you continue this pattern of determined self destruction I will refrain from further comment on posts like these.

I do wish you good luck.
-J

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