I have had a situation arise several times now, which makes me think there is some reason behind it.  The one common thread is that all of the ladies seem to have no problem with me.  In fact, they seem enthusiastic about meeting again.  

File the OKs and WL, under irrelevant and move on.  

I was giving the answer that if he has little to no issue booking dates, don't worry about lists.

Keep at it; must be a glitch somewhere.

All seem to amount to the same thing, with P411/Date-Check/RS2K and these verification sites being considered a bit more "reliable" in the vetting of both guys and gals than TER.

Has one of my dates requested for me to 'Whitelist' him.  

Robbin - When I first started, I had a lady do the very same thing.  I still see her to this day when I can.  So this kind of courtesy and thoughtfulness does not go un-noticed.  Well done.

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for why they don't WL you.

I to appreciate a lady or the ladies that have Whitelisted me.  A couple have done this voluntarily and I have had to ask a few.  But the courtesy goes a long way in my book.

they are no substitute for a P411 OK or an actual reference.  I'll bet if you did a poll of the women here, far more than half would say they don't use WLs to screen.

At least the first half of the statement.  The good thing about P411 is it's about equally for providers and clients.  In fact, given that providers have an obligation to provide OKs under almost all circumstances, it's more oriented to clients.

If there is a "glitch" it's on TER's end, but it's the providers, not TER to which he will end up being a pest. Any good will the White list we create will be undone by bugging the ladies constantly for a White List.

Guys are the ones who pay for membership... provider accounts are free. While providers have the option to pay additional fees for visiting ads or preferred placement, that's not required.  

We are REQUIRED to give the p411 OK, or else someone from p411 will send us a nice email "reminding" us to take care of it. And, even if we don't feel comfortable giving the OK, we're generally required to comply. There is no similar requirement to give a TER whitelist (unless, you count the implied threat of a bad review).  

Why in all that is holy would you ever associate yourself with an organization that in your opinion cares so little about women?

If there's an implied quid pro quo, then why don't ladies give out more whitelist approvals? I've never received one, though I have several P411 okays.

Have you ever asked a provider for a whitelist referral? If not, that's probably why you've never received one. Most guys ask. I've been asked several times - I've never given one out without being asked.

I've never had a provider claim she'll only take p411 oks. Many times a provider will tell me  a GF of hers gave me a WL and were good to go. I have no idea if they've ever asked the GF about me.

...than TER is in the ability to whitelist someone.  As was said, when a provider receives a request from P411 to OK someone, perhaps it's easy to do it.  On TER, providers have to actively search for the place on TER to whitelist someone.  In my experience, several providers who wanted to whitelist me asked me how to do it.  Since I'm not a provider, I didn't know, but I tried to help them figure it out.

...surprised and grateful when I receive them.  The provider's courtesy results in many return visits whenever possible.

But as someone who I know has been around this board a long time, I'm sure you've read many posts by women who say they would NEVER rely simply on P411 let alone WLs.  I'd say this is an example of  "the exception proves the rule."

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Great that your providers want to do something special for you, spontaneously

I've gotten one such WL and there's no control here to stop someone from doing it.  I know of other members this has happened to.  Why would someone do it?  I don't know for sure but perhaps to have their stage name connected to a well known reviewer or poster.  I contacted the woman who WL'd me and never got a reply so I think I just dropped it.
At P411 this can't happen because a client must request the listing first.  If a provider can credibly prove she never saw the person, he's likely to be delisted.

as long as the provider verifies your authenticity. I ask my WLs to feel free to refer me should there be an inquiry before I alert her.  
The less work for me the better.

from other women (I have never personally had to refuse to give an OK to a p411 member)...

if a gal mentions she'll give you a WL referral, I'd imagine she's gotta like you enough to wanna see you again. A cordial reminder(s) is a better way to phrase pestering her  

OK me without an issue, but when it comes to WL it's a different story. One did it without asking, a couple had to be politely asked once, and a couple I politely reminded once and then I dropped it. All stated they would be happy to provide it. And I have repeated with all of them, so I believe they think I'm safe.

it must not be to easy to do. Once she had the instructions, she provided the WL immediately.

I have had several hot ladies do the white list for me and I appreciate it.  However, when I ask them to update it, they always seem to forget and then they contact me to tell me that they want to see me again and once the session is over and I ask them to update the list and it never happens.  I just don't know what is going on because this is happening with all of them.  You would think that they wouldn't want to see me again if they didn't want to update the white list but they keep coming back for more dates.

Along with the same half dozen mongers who say they have a white list from an escort they've never seen. There's 32k users on TER right now. The people who chime in knocking the WL are a very small percentage. I'm surprised you haven't PMd GaGa so he could add his usual know on the WL.

Apparently from your own experience, which is an even smaller sample than a so-called "half dozen escorts."  And how do you "know" it's a half dozen?  The bullshit's getting very thick here.

...unaware of. I have had a few say they will but don't. Then hear from them they can't figure it out. It's been discussed here on the boards and a provider explained how. Good luck finding that thread.  

Robbin, I certainly like your style.  After  nearly six years, over 150 ladies, over 550 dates, and 101 D-C verifications, I got my first "white list" last month.

Agreed

I think it's just easier to give an ok on p411 and that's why u have the quick and easy response that way. It takes more effort on the lady's part to white list.