Just wondered, whats the easier job for them? Anybody got stats on this?

If it was just about what is "easiest" it would be a BJ that is mostly hand.  That's what the streetwalkers used to do...

That being said, my ATF and I both prefer oral pleasure. It's by no means a quick experience though, since we enjoy mutual oral so much, it is definitely easier for her and fun for both of us.

I don't keep stats, but for many, it's an easier method, especially if her guest is an easy cummer.  I've met a few anxious providers who tried to get to me burst quickly with BJ, but that rarely works. I asked one in particular to slow down and take her time and that the better she is at acting like she's all hot and bothered, the better her sessions would go and getting the guy 'hot and bothered' was the key. I saw her a few months later and she thanked me and said she was getting more repeat clients because of that advice. I would have graded her a '9' on my second visit.

One is not always easier then the other. Strange as this may sound. but, it rocks my world to rock yours. On other days it's all about me...

first, preference has nothing to do with what is "easiest" or not. if i had to say which was less physically draining for me, in most circumstances (because there are always exceptions, like my friend who fucks me non-stop for 2 hours at a time) it would be intercourse. however in general i would have to give a slight edge to fellatio, as that just so happens to be my favorite sexual activity. yes, it's labor intensive (i VERY rarely give oral for less than 20 mins at a spell, and may go on for hours if that is what is wished of me), but it's so wonderfully erotic and intense and revealing and just plain HOT, particularly when my partner is very passionate about it as well. now of course the ideal situation is to have enough time together where we can do it all, hopefully a few times.

full intercourse.  I like both, and I'm happy to do whichever the date prefers at whenever he prefers it.  But, if given the choice of one or the other, I prefer the full service.

... and whatever builds it is good in my book!   Intensity can take the form of raunchy chandelier-swinging or slow sensuality.  I prefer a man not to be shy in asking/describing what he enjoys... I am rather verbal and love it when he is also.  The specific act is of much less importance than his ability to communicate exactly what/how he likes something.  I don't happen to believe there's such a thing as "dirty words" during playtime and provided he is respectful in our communication and introductory period, once the doors close I'm all about one of us taking charge (mutual control is even better) and being rather explicit in what we like.

There is really no such thing as "providers" every provider is different.

I have not found such a preference, or least not a preference that translates into a difference in ability or performance.

However, I *have* found dramatic differences in skill. About 1/3rd are equally skilled across the board, 1/3rd are more skilled at bj and the remainder are more skilled at other things.

Whether the difference in skill corresponds to a difference in preference, I suspect it does if for no other reason than people tend to concentrate skills in things they enjoy, and enjoy doing things in which they feel more skilled. But I've found the numbers about even.

The size of my pool of civie sex partners is about 10 times the size of my pool of providers; and interestingly the break down in civie women was about the same.

So I suspect that provider preferences and skills broadly represent those of the female population at large.

Are you saying that in your opinion the hobbyists should accept the individual preference as being unique (or a unique experience), or as one Provider suggests, advocate what the hobbyist prefers before/ during a session?  The take charge approach?  Especially when visiting a new girl, we don't know up front which 1/3 category the Provider will fall into.  We can only glean from TER reviews, which is extremely subjective.

Not only are reviews subjective, (I mean, seriously, how much LESS objective can someone be than a freakin sex partner!), but even if they are accurate, there is a huge YMMV factor. That could be negative -- but it could also be positive.

I know that people say that for X dollars a provider should be able to give a uniformly great experience -- and some, I believe, really can through some miracle. It's a great ideal. But I think realistically we are dealing with a human and there will be variations case-by-case.

The problem with all this communication that providers advocate is that MOST hobbying is on a 4-F once-and-done model, and using that model, you are not supposed to discuss sex and/or money. So how in the world are you supposed to communicate your preferences? ESP?

Furthermore, all the communication in the world won't improve the BJ skills (for example) of a woman with a near pathological aversion to having her mouth on your penis.

And, yes, such providers DO exist, and no matter how much you try to communicate, their capacities in regard to non-preferred sex acts are just abominably bad.

And, of course, even though this is p4p you don't want to make a woman feel forced into an undesired sex act, so you are kind of stuck.

That is, UNTIL you guys have laid hands on each other. Then, I think, most providers are comfortable discussing sex. Then you can say "Oh baby, you have such a hot mouth, I'd really love to have you soap up my feet good and then suck on my toes" or whatever it is you'd like. Then you can say "Yeah! I like it when you do that, it is such a turn-on .. can you do it some more?"

Basically, once you guys have laid hands on each other, communicate just as if she were a civie sex partner.

But, just like with a civie sex partner; you can't change the lack of enthusiasm for certain sex acts with any amount of communication. Some ladies just don't want to do X or Y, and trying to talk a provider into such things is no more effective than trying to talk a civie into them.

So communicating can improve those things they like to do; but won't likely have much affect in other arenas IMO.

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