I could talk about choice of clothes, personal hygiene, use of language, etc, but these are superficial.
An upscale gentleman accepts the responsibility he takes for this who love him or count on him and is mindful of others needs, interest, and feelings.
I lived for a few year-- in my early 20s-- with a lovely lady many years older than myself . During an argument, I said very hurtful things to that lovely and noble lady.
A few days later, I sheepishly apologized and asked her to forgive me because I was upset.
She answered: "Upset? listen If you are upset enough or sick enough to have decided to kill yourself, you pay all your back bills, clean your apartment and toss anything in it that can be hurtful if found by those who care for you. You write each person a letter apologizing and assuring them they have bought meaning to your life and none of this is their fault. You make sure your bank accounts are as they should be. Then you find a way to kill yourself that'll cause those who care for you the least trouble, You arrange your funeral and only then you kill yourself. Upset is not an excuse to cause pain to those who care about you."
An upscale "gentleman" tries not to cause pain or insult. In an argument with some the upscale person tries to frame his/her arguments in a way that respects the other person.
He/she takes full responsibility for his/her role in meeting the need of patients, clients, students, friends, wives and children and parents if they are still around.
And he/she tries to give as much respect and pleasure as possible in transactions like those we have in the hobby. He should leave his/her partner feeling respected and to the degree possible having enjoyed the encounter.
In sex in general he realizes nice guys finish last.
Thats the abbreviated version
Why do the prostitutes post that crap on their websites?
Every guy with green is an upscale gentleman.
And some without it as well. That's why there's OTC.
Attn: Prostitutes, unless you invoke some specifics, why would you think that any reader doesn't feel entitled? What if the guy has lots of money but is a blob? Or has no social skills (which means that most of the guys are summarily disqualified)? Please don't insult the men.
self image, and also about your desperate loneliness. Damn, you have an ax to grind and you just can't stop. Must be something like: you have no social life and have to pay women to even look at you, so you hate them for that.
Care to answer the OP?
Or are you going to resort to some ad hominem next?
needs to be labeled for what it is. As to the "upscale gentlemen" issue, that is an old chestnut that been aired quite a few times, but it was grist for you mill, just another device to say something nasty about the women that you pay hundreds of dollars.
I see that you're a "fully qualified Psychologist".
I'm sure dani and many others would like to know as well.
I see that maybe an upscale gentleman is "mature, experienced but not arrogant"? What if he is a blob that hasn't taken a shower in a week?
You see, it is very confusing to some of the guys here.
expose him for the lonely exhibitionist. "Refreshing" in the sense of a clean wind blowing away the incessant derogatory drumbeat intended to reduce women to mere scorned objects.
Because right now you have BBFS right where he wants you. You are playing his game, not the other way around.
I have been rather hard on our good friend BBFS, I think his last troll thread only got a score of four from me for "appearance" although he got a solid eight for performance due to the number of responses he got, but as unimpressed as I am about his trolling talents, he is most definitely winning both the battle and the war with you. Quite frankly it's him making you look foolish, not the other way around. AND he's doing it without even breaking a sweat in the process.
But you still haven't answered the question.
I guess you don't know the answers.
So maybe some of the prostitutes who write that on their sites can explain what it is.
And then you too will know just what an upscale gentleman is.
And you failed the test on every count.
An upscale gentleman is everything you are not....and
you are everything an upscale gentleman is not.
You're welcome
2016 = 28
Can you be more specific? Did I somehow send an inquiry to your site, if so, why are you posting as a man?
Very odd that you would know this information otherwise.
Or perhaps you got misdirected from the M4M websites that you must be mistaking this for. Not that there's anything wrong with seeking out M4M, but that's not what my OP was asking.
An upscale gentleman is everything you are not....and
you are everything an upscale gentleman is not.
You're welcome
2016 = 28
When we read what you post.
You prove it to us all in virtually every time you post.
You're welcome
Whether there is a test or not we need to just let it happen. TER obviously won't do anything because they see no harm done in anything that is posted. We all need to accept for the entertainment (or lack there of) value that it brings to the table.
D.
plus 10 times
Upscale gentlemen are respectful, clean and fun. If you think for one minute that any lady here will see just anyone paying then you're a bigger idiot than I ever imagined. An upscale gentleman is a GENTLEMAN!
That answer your damned question? :
If you haven't seen them before how would know if they are upscale? Another failed attempt at an answer.
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It really doesn't take much to tell the difference between a douche bag and a gentleman. Maybe since you're not a hooker you can best answer the OP? LOL!!! I'm sure you can tell what a gentleman is way better than I could 
If so I have beach front property for sale in Florida for cheap. I have several people who will tell you it's true. There are also some great fliers to back up my claims
I'm still guessing you really know what a real gentleman is? Lmao!!
Thanks but I already own enough property
Your lame ass attempt at fucking with me won't work. Haven't you heard? I'm a slut and I fuck gentlemen all the time dear 
Run on with your bad ass self You're definitely proving what a gentleman is not
Fyi, references are not just rumors. Funny thing is, I've been a hooker for 15 years and VERY FEW times have I ever encountered a man that wasn't a gentleman but hey what do I know? lol!!
Your brilliance is way over the top on this one
Xoxo,
TL
a woman who relies on the experiences of and reports from other women, who have no reason to lie about a guy, is a dunce.
so why are you on ter?
duh.
My personal fave, of course, is: "discriminating gentleman".
whos sometimes going to opera, theater and good jazz clubs.. and reading some meaningful books by referral from a good friend of course, not NY Times. Xo
No, a "refined gentleman" is one who gets out of the shower to pee.
. . . And some of them can be quite overzealous. Words such as upscale, high class, and even VIP are just so . . . cliche'.
I suppose that everyone wants to be apart of the 'crest above the rest' without facing the simple truth of it all.
My answer only applies to myself. I am not speaking for other ladies. I pride myself on my gut instincts to where I can differentiate whether a man is an actual true and genuine gentleman or someone who is your average guy just looking for a quick fuco. I have learned over the 10 years that I have been in business that most proper gentlemen have no problem filling out my contact form and share with me their work information. This tells me that they have done a thorough research on me only to learn that I am highly reputable and well trusted. This also tells me that he is very selective in whom he is wanting to spend time. If a man goes through this much trouble to find that one special lady that he feels compatible with, then he is indeed a special type of man. Also, a real gentleman always writes or calls me to introduce himself to me by telling me a bit about himself and always gives me a compliment during his correspondence with me and let's me know what it was about me that caused him to choose me versus the other ladies. He doesn't visit multiple ads of ladies and call each one hoping one of them will answer the phone and ask if she is "available now" as if we are just sitting around dwindling our thumbs waiting for the phone to ring so we can make some money. They don't call and say, "Hey baby, you available." A genuine gentlemen uses proper English skills with words spelt correctly and correct punctuation is used. A upscale gentleman treats me like a lady and not an object. He allows us time to get to know one another by conversing on the phone before our scheduled time together so we would feel more comfortable with one another once we meet in person. He also sometimes takes us to dinner. A real and true gentleman doesn't contact me and leave a message asking me to contact him only to ignore my phone call or email once I do. A true gentleman doesn't contact you asking to spend time with you on a certain day and time then when you write them back to say you are available during that time and would love to meet him, you never hear from them again. A real gentleman doesn't contact a bunch of ladies hoping to score for the night not caring who she is and then when those same ladies calls him back, he has to ask which lady she is because he called several and can't remember all of their names. A true gentleman takes the time to visit your website to learn more about you to be sure you will be compatible with them instead of contacting you and asking your rates and ask if you do Greek. A true gentleman doesn't call you from a bar, or while he is drunk. Lastly, a true and respectful gentleman doesn't call you at 2.00 am asking if you are available. Any ladies have anything else to add?
also, it's a fantasy...if i can't imagine myself as an upscale gentleman while i'm in the arms a beautiful woman, it kind of lowers the quality of the experience.
of course all the women i see only see upscale gentlemen, because, they see me... res ipsa hookitur...
I suppose that everyone wants to be apart of the 'crest above the rest' without facing the simple truth of it all.
How many times do you see a web page that says: "exclusive" "for discriminating tastes" "highly educated" "For VIPs" ,"low volume" and on and on. It's a marketing gimmick. The tricks like to think the girl is "exclusive" and "upscale" so they can think they are exclusive and upscale.
Both parties are conning themselves.
Are you saying that there is no such thing as a highly educated lady that is low volume? It's unfortunate that that some ladies use these inaccurate terms when describing themselves. I can't speak for all ladies but I can honestly say that there are many ladies out there where their description of themselves are very accurate. I know several ladies who are indeed upscale, low volume and highly educated, including myself. It's unfortunate that we all get painted with the same brush as those ladies who you claim are less than honest. The one true way that you can learn if a lady is who she claims to be is simply by reading her reviews, and having a conversation with her. It's amazing what you can learn about a person by simply having a conversation with her.
Hugs,
Juliette
I suppose that everyone wants to be apart of the 'crest above the rest' without facing the simple truth of it all.
Thank You. Why is it so hard to simply answer a question rather than see 20 posts bitching about the OP because people don't like him? His delivery was poor but the salient question was valid.
How many times do you see a web page that says: "exclusive" "for discriminating tastes" "highly educated" "For VIPs" ,"low volume" and on and on. It's a marketing gimmick. The tricks like to think the girl is "exclusive" and "upscale" so they can think they are exclusive and upscale.
Both parties are conning themselves.
..this, several times over
I never understood those terms either, upscale, VIP, exclusive, etc... I get the luxury, but the rest don't make much sense.
I explain very well what I am doing, what I like and what type of people I enjoy hanging out with. I honestly want to know the answer to the OP too.
I read the comments bbfs4ever has posted, a little tasteless and not very respectful towards women most of the time, but with this one, he Sparked my curiosity. Someone answer the question.
also, don't feed the troll
He is booking a provider's TIME, not a result, not a list of menu items, just time with a beautiful woman in his company.
An upscale gentleman appreciates that this beautiful woman (who he has CHOSEN out of the crowd of otherwise available women) has consented to spend time with him - having never met him before - and becomes fast friends with him.
An upscale gentleman may or may not round up on his donation.
An upscale gentleman may or may not tip, based on a meeting exceeding his expectations.
An upscale gentleman doesn't troll discussion boards, trying to demean women in any way possible.
Crux of the biscuit, I truly believe that when I book with a woman, I'm paying for her time. TER allows me to know how she likes to spend her time. Does that make me a gentleman? I don't know. Upscale gentleman? I don't know. While I do have a six-figure income, I still have to work for a living, and have a defined budget for my playtime.
I hope I'm a gentleman. Upscale gentleman? Frankly, I don't give a shit. I think they're indistinguishable.
Thank you sir a gentle man indeed.
An upscale gentleman appreciates that this beautiful woman (who he has CHOSEN out of the crowd of otherwise available women) has consented to spend time with him - having never met him before - and becomes fast friends with him.
An upscale gentleman may or may not round up on his donation.
An upscale gentleman may or may not tip, based on a meeting exceeding his expectations.
An upscale gentleman doesn't troll discussion boards, trying to demean women in any way possible.
Crux of the biscuit, I truly believe that when I book with a woman, I'm paying for her time. TER allows me to know how she likes to spend her time. Does that make me a gentleman? I don't know. Upscale gentleman? I don't know. While I do have a six-figure income, I still have to work for a living, and have a defined budget for my playtime.
I hope I'm a gentleman. Upscale gentleman? Frankly, I don't give a shit. I think they're indistinguishable.
You are a perfect gentleman in my book. Kuddo's to you.
Hugs,
Juliette
An upscale gentleman appreciates that this beautiful woman (who he has CHOSEN out of the crowd of otherwise available women) has consented to spend time with him - having never met him before - and becomes fast friends with him.
An upscale gentleman may or may not round up on his donation.
An upscale gentleman may or may not tip, based on a meeting exceeding his expectations.
An upscale gentleman doesn't troll discussion boards, trying to demean women in any way possible.
Crux of the biscuit, I truly believe that when I book with a woman, I'm paying for her time. TER allows me to know how she likes to spend her time. Does that make me a gentleman? I don't know. Upscale gentleman? I don't know. While I do have a six-figure income, I still have to work for a living, and have a defined budget for my playtime.
I hope I'm a gentleman. Upscale gentleman? Frankly, I don't give a shit. I think they're indistinguishable.
I'd like to state that you're a troll... 100%
I'm kicking myself for having entert---- nm
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In order to smell the roses you have to stop!
We all need to realize that's he's won this thread too because he has all of us bickering with eachother lol
Have a great day everyone, I'm off to work
D.
Upscale means that gent travels a lot, stays in nice hotels, saw different cultures and knows why he should pay to the escort. On another hand I think no one knows who you are, if you have ever paid to the escort, where are your reviews.
You are very bothered by the fact that no one explains to you what upscale means. I hope I am a bit clarified things. I am almost sure this didn't make sense to you, because you either student or don't have funds to hobby. And you are also student in this particular thing; life will be very cruel to you, you don't get an idea that you have to be generous in order to enrich yourself. Xo
I could talk about choice of clothes, personal hygiene, use of language, etc, but these are superficial.
An upscale gentleman accepts the responsibility he takes for this who love him or count on him and is mindful of others needs, interest, and feelings.
I lived for a few year-- in my early 20s-- with a lovely lady many years older than myself . During an argument, I said very hurtful things to that lovely and noble lady.
A few days later, I sheepishly apologized and asked her to forgive me because I was upset.
She answered: "Upset? listen If you are upset enough or sick enough to have decided to kill yourself, you pay all your back bills, clean your apartment and toss anything in it that can be hurtful if found by those who care for you. You write each person a letter apologizing and assuring them they have bought meaning to your life and none of this is their fault. You make sure your bank accounts are as they should be. Then you find a way to kill yourself that'll cause those who care for you the least trouble, You arrange your funeral and only then you kill yourself. Upset is not an excuse to cause pain to those who care about you."
An upscale "gentleman" tries not to cause pain or insult. In an argument with some the upscale person tries to frame his/her arguments in a way that respects the other person.
He/she takes full responsibility for his/her role in meeting the need of patients, clients, students, friends, wives and children and parents if they are still around.
And he/she tries to give as much respect and pleasure as possible in transactions like those we have in the hobby. He should leave his/her partner feeling respected and to the degree possible having enjoyed the encounter.
In sex in general he realizes nice guys finish last.
Thats the abbreviated version
it is an assessment of your character and whether or not you are a gentleman. The test is fluid and perpetual, judged by others in the community:
Are you a man of character? Do you possess the qualities of honesty, courage and integrity? Do you behave in accordance with high moral and ethical standards consistent with the community evaluating you? What is your reputation - are you an individual of good repute?
Are you a gentleman? Do you treat all others in a proper and polite way? Does your conduct reflect a man who acts in accordance with high standards of propriety and correct behavior in the community evaluating you?
I would say your handle and your posts speak volumes of your character as a gentleman.
Crass handles and derogatory terms for others, a sense of entitlement and superiority, demeaning statements... yes, your handle and posts speak of a man of low character, lacking gentlemanly qualities
been called a useless, ignorant asshole in such a polite and gentlemanly way in his entire miserable life.
Thank you
2016 = 28
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As far as I can tell this person is a sociopath. Everyone just keeps fueling his behavior. 😕
engaging with him by replying to the substance of his comments, versus simply calling him out as a lonely angry troll. I called him out because I believe that the men here have an obligation to show the women that we don't accept their constant degradation by one of us as just amusing horse play.
Now in regard to the substance of his "gentleman" OP, this has been discussed quite a few times and there is nothing wrong per se in re-visiting the issue. I recall some amusing threads on the "gentleman" issue. However, this troll used the question as an opportunity to once again air his anger at women in an intentionally condescending tone.
I think this means they'll choose a guy who writes a nice respectful email vs the "u avail?"
What about:
"U awake"
"R u hot? Gr33k????"
"U there" (from a regular
"U There?"
"Ummmm... where?"
I get "Where r u located?"
Reply: "I'm right behind you. MUAHAHAHAHAHAAAAA"
Makes a provider upscale...
Does she say thank you before swallowing your cum?
or pehaps, excuse me after burping it back up?
This is messaging to the Hobbyist how he is expected to act, especially if he wants a great experience.
I picture a guy who is 40+, drives a nice car, has some bucks, some education, doesn't swear a lot, drinks in moderation, and opens the door for a lady. Oh, and clean and well groomed.
Am I close
Upscale gentleman
Someone who is clean & freshly showed , dressed appropriate , Places the donation in plain site upon arrival without me mentioning it, excuses his self to the bathroom to wash his hands before touching me , is respectful and kind to me .
Respect.
R-E-S-P-E-C-T - find out what it means to me!
So per Aretha Franklin, respect means something different to her than say the girl before her. In some countries, the respectful thing to do is to burp after a meal. Burping after giving a BBBJCIMNQNS can also be a sign of respect.
Really, respect is knowing what the proper etiquette is for each individual situation you're entering. If you're going to visit another country for a reason, such as obtaining business, teaching a new thought, feeding the poor - whatever - it's best to study up on the culture to find out what to do and what not to do so as not to insult the locals. A "thumbs up" in the US could be a "Fuck you" in another culture.
A respectful client (woman or man) may be thoughtful of what the lady may like or dislike. For instance, I used to have a client who shorted me $3, $50, $5, whatever - and I tolerated that. Over time, I saw disrespect in many ways, including a blackmail situation. Though 3 bucks isn't a lot, the guy isn't bringing what the girl asked for, and most likely that's a sign of disrespect. To me, it wasn't, but over time I learned it was. He wasn't upscale, he was disrespectful. It started to show in many ways.
Another thing is to book a hotel in a bad part of town that isn't upscale, and can put the girl in some danger. That or put her in a situation where she may stand out because she dresses upscale where no one dresses upscale. A respectful (upscale) gentleman may book a higher end hotel to bring her to a place where she won't face so much exposure.
Nowadays, all of my guys are upscale. They may not drive high end cars or wear a suit, but they're appropriate for the situation.
I will admit - I am not upscale in some sorts. I don't always study up on the culture. For example, I was in New York City just today, and I was that annoying person making 180 degree turns in the middle of a highly populated area. I knocked over someone's coffee cup, I pissed another dude off and slowed him down. I walked slowly and looked up at shit like a tourist in a fast paced town. I didn't look upscale. (Though I looked hot as fuck.)
However, if I were on a date at the Arboretum, walking fast paced, looking forward, and not turning around may not be appropriate or respectful to my date. In New York? Probably better not to act all touristy or act like you're taking the scenic route lol!
Hope this helps. Some of the richest men I've met drove normal everyday cars, had normal condos, and wore t-shirts and jeans. They spent their money on women. Very respectful men, and some of the best spenders I've met lol!
One more thing - even text or email etiquette. Sum it up to some, and to others be very communicative. I break the text etiquette like a mother fucker, but I'm working on it. LOL!
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