I'm relative new here, well don't post very often.

From reading the threads and conversations with some providers it's not all that rare for you ladies to have a boyfriend or significant other, or even in some cases a husband.  I'm sure this has been asked and answered in many different ways but just wondering how you meet a boyfriend.  I'm sure it's difficult to maintain a relationship and continue to be a provider.

I used to see a wonderful sensual massage provider, she also included FS, but she met a guy and retired from this field.  I'm glad for her, she is a great lady.

Just curious

As to how we met, she was having a very bad day to say the least and needed a ride home badly. I was headed home from a business trip and we lived in the same city. So I gave her a ride. Two years later she Married. She retired for a while but it didn't stick. Now she is back at it. Any other questions I can answer?

Yes I am leaving some details out. Lets just say her day was really bad. Turned out to be one of the best days of my life even if I didn't realize it at the time. So chance and luck brought us together.

By the way most ladies will not post about their SO's as it is bad for business. Wish you luck.

people I am responsible for pleasing. You are asking the ladies who are more into open relationships and swinging...I am not into that.

I thought something was going on. Like that Taylor Swift or whoever music video with some pretty face neighbor boy waving to a girl on a hot summer day.

I read othe long posts you wrote spring/summer time. Quite a life story man.

The same way you meet a girlfriend.

Go ahead ask it hotplants  I"m not going to sleep until the other shoe drops.

I mean prepkid

and I've had more than a few gals whom I've gotten close to tell me similar stories:

These gals who charge nice guys like us for their time and charms (as they should) will often go and pick up guys for free sex, and even let the guys exploit them for food, drink, drugs, and what-have-you.  To top it off, theses guys will then run off on them when the gals fall for  them and do the same thing with another gal, leaving them heart-broken.  The gals will then find another guy and do it all over again.

When it comes to sex, I learned long ago that there is no logic or justice to the whole deal.

Sorry if I have hijacked the thread, but I think there is a relation between the two topics.

It's disappointing that girls will continue to seek after douches even after being heartbroken.

Working with an ex-provider right now who, after 20 years of letting herself be abused in every conceivable way buy "boy friends" and a couple husbands, is not trying to change.

This one is truly a sweetheart, and was a fantastic provider.  She had more than one serious offer of marriage from long time clients who were good guys, but couldn't break off with the jerk she was with at the time.

For many of them it I think it's rooted in self-confidence.  The woman who is beautiful, sexy, fun to be with outside the bedroom, has a mental and emotional bloct towards seeing herself that way.  This woman grew up in a single parent family and the mother was always telling her she was worthless, should have been aborted, etc.  Pages of 9/9s and above when she was active, well deserved.  But still has a hard time believing anyone, especially a man, can really like her or love her.

I don't think you will get too many of the ladies to respond to this...certainly not in specifics...but from a male perspective, I know I could care less. If my SO was providing, I would have but three rules..

1) No BB service
2) Nothing longer than a weekend
3) Save some energy for me

What people do for a living is what they do...I liked the person I met, why change them.

It is just sex after all...I think too many people take fucking too seriously.

most providers have an SO..a lot have husbands..kids..full time jobs..mothers..fathers..even grandkids..they need to pay their bills and take care of their families just like we do..to me these women are extraordinary..to be able to provide for us guys..AND..to be able to provide for their families while keeping everything in the right perspective..it is something i will always admire..they are truly special..

you assume that every attached provider is somehow meeting and falling in love while escorting, i would say that's probably pretty rare. usually the serious relationship comes first, and providing is a business or hobby decision made afterwards...as a couple. i have been with my Husband for almost 12 years, and providing for about a third of that time. it was something i was curious about from an erotic and service standpoint (i am a submissive and my Husband and i live a Master/slave lifestyle). i shared this with my Husband and we tried it out once. that first time it wasn't planned out thoroughly and wasn't such a great experience for me...the guy was young, the service aspect wasn't clear, etc. i didn't accomplish my goal so we set the idea on the backburner for a while...more than a year actually. then we revisited it with more of a plan. i learned how to market myself to the very specific type of men i wished to serve, how to go about screening, etc. that turned out beautifully and here i am.

for us it is not about money but about my serving men with particular needs. and notice i said "us," because my Husband is very involved in every aspect of my life, this included. He always helps with screening and i never agreed to meet any man at all without his approval. this is not something i would EVER do as a single, independent woman.

also it's important to point out that besides the fact that we are Master and slave, my Husband and i do not believe in physical monogamy. we are NOT swingers or in an open relationship...open implies two people doing whatever they please, with whomever they please. i am under my Husband's control so any other man who touches my body at all is his decision first and foremost. and of course as Master he does not have to answer to me...although ironically he is not into casual sex at all and the few women he's been with over the years have all been a bit serious.

so yeah...that's how i got here. unusual yes, but trust that every provider with an SO will have a different story.

It's not just gals.....plenty of guys do it too.  

but women are just wired differently. Some want the attention of their SO all the time, and others like time to themselves a few days a week.

As a good guy it's hard to understand why a woman would want to be treated badly, but if giving her a little distance by not calling or texting keeps the relationship healthy, than no problem. I have never hit a woman in anger or otherwise not including the nice smack on the ass. I have questioned why a woman would stay with a man that does hit her all the time. Or the alcoholic, that treats her like shit and wastes all their money on booze.

Nice guys don't always finish last, they just have to be slow and steady to win the girl. Well some like it hard and fast, but you get my point LOL. I won't change for a woman, but as everybody is different I might deviate a little to make her happy. I'm not perfect so I'm sure the girl will have to adjust and have the same understanding and consideration.

as you have spoken, It is happening to one provider I know. She has great reviews, great hobbyists and she goes out to the bars, meets and date guys who abuse her and then wonders why. She has often said she has had sugardaddy offers on the table for years from some hobbyists. After her last crying session on the phone, I told her I wasnt into the drama !

while it happens in escort world, it is the rule in stripper world.  there are exceptions of course... know one who is married, but told her hubby - you ain't taken care of biz at home, so I am going to go out there and get me some! and she does.  He brings home a paycheck, watches the kids, and cleans house and cooks, heck I want to marry him - but he according to her, falls short in the bedroom...

but yea - they do that - and I've always wondered why, but I suspect you are correct - I know you to be a decent guy - and I suspect that much as I have expereinced this phenomena up close and personal - so have you!   But I could be wrong.... and maybe you are a scroundrel  LOL!  My pick up line starts with "I'm a baaaad boy!"  Seems to work.  Better than "hey, I'm a respectable law abiding citizen!"

garner that faux love they are not getting in the real world. I actually feel sorry for many of them, who think they can't breathe without someone reassuring them they are great, beautiful, and worthy. Then again, I don't know how one can correlate paid sex with any of that, because it is not REAL to begin with. I was always the controlling force in my RL relationships, and seemed for the most part to attract "good guys" that I get bored with rather easily. I don't like an asshole, but I do like a challenge and someone who can stand on his own without me. I can't deal with 'needy' people, and we have much of that right here.

For me, there would be no way to balance an SO and what I do here...just no way. It would be exhausting trying to give that much of myself (not just my body) to so many people at one time, so I made the decision to not date until I am totally done with hooker world.

It is hard to maintain a relationship if you are a doctor, lawyer or Indian Chief. Well maybe not an Indian Chief, but come on man. Some of these ladies are great, some of them are not. Some have a SO who treats them fantastic, some have relationships that suck. Guess what ? They are people just like everyone else. They may be a little more honest or open about their sexuality but do not try and define them by what they do for capital. Or figure out how or why they decide this path in life. They are  people with colds, coughs, kids, dogs, bills and in some cases, thank God , very very tasty pussies and deep throats that they share or at least rent out to we horndogs who are not being fulfilled in our "fantastic" relationships out "here"

Of course my tounge is in my cheek with this post but it would rather be tickling JLS or London or any others who trade time and put on their blinders while dealing with me for as I see it I am Adonis as I get cuter when I bring my friend Mr. Franklin .

Proving once again that there are a million stories in the naked city.

She doesn't anymore. Not in my damn house. She hated it anyway. Many become jaded towards sex and men.

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