Re:My former student just ask me to go and have dinner with her

I give her pop quiz!

just say no thank you

Role play with a provider or SO. Or when you pay for her dinner, offer to pay for her future shrink. It never works out. Unless of course you were the nobel prize winner for NO. (The true hero of Viagra. Go Bruins!)

Former student?
Need more info.

Is she still attending the school where you teach?
Can she ever get into one of your classes in the future?

Is she already pregnant with your child?

Will netmichelle meet me soon?

his former student when he was in the early 30s and she in her early to mid 20s.  No one from that major university objected to it.  He got tenure a few years after that.

I have to think your college/university would have "administered" training to faculty about the significant potential problems.  Rather than ask us, ask your dean.

When I went to college the teacher dating a student currently attending that college would have been fired.  However that was long ago in a land far far away.

I don't get the conflict if she is no longer your student.  Is she still a student at the institution where you teach?  If so, the answer is easy--no.  If she has graduated or otherwise moved on and is of the age of majority, I don't see the problem.

It will be the best sex you ever had. You can do things with her and not feel like your a taste tester for GoodYear. When a chick into you she will go the extra mile. Nothing risky about it. Pizza and a bottle of 151.

Wny Not? Mary Kay LeTourneau did it

as did her Professor father

Tell her that you are both flattered and exhilarated by her offer.

Then explain that you have a responsibility to the University (Institute, whatever..), your profession, and have a profound respect for the institution of education in this country that doesn't allow you to take her offer, despite your natural male response to such an offer.

Perhaps once her "career" at the school is over and the potential conflict goes away, things would be different.  At this point, a little humility wouldn't hurt, such as, "I doubt that a bright attractive woman like you would still be interested in dinner with old man at that point."

You preserve your career and professional integrity, and she knows that the door is open.  Some women may regard your dedication as sexy.  Others get pissed at any form of rejection.  

In any case, you are doing the right thing, telling the truth, and leaving the door open. The problem then becomes managing your expectations - I suggest forgetting about it unless she shows up after she grads.

Last thought, if she received low marks in your class, stay away for sure.  

"VonRyan....Do you have anything to do with these pencils on the floor?"

"well...uh...no teacher...
but this bulging magic marker in my pants is taking away from my studies.


Booiiinnnnggggg!


Cheers!

If she is a former student and not affiliated with the school you are with, then I see no viable reason not to, unless there is something else you have not shared. You also stated it was dinner and did not expand on whether she indicated or hinted that there was more to it than that, so it does not appear to me to be a problem. Good luck and go with what you feel is right.

xoxo

Katt

I'd bang her in a heartbeat. When I was a T.A. in college (many many years ago), the undergrad students were always fair game. I have come to understand that such behavior is not "p.c." today. But as long as she is your "former" student, I say "go for it" and don't look back!

I have heard of several cases of professors marrying graduate students. What I am unsure of is who first took the initiative.  It would be interesting to see reponses from both sides.  Any autobiographies out there?