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I'm very sad to report that
Not most men thank God or else I'd change job and it would be impossible for me to take any pleasure while being paid. However daty is like kissing; if it's not done well it can be annoying but for different reasons.
Some men's approach to kissing is to come straight out with their mouth WIDE open and tongue out (?!) That tends to wake me up and freak me out at the same time as having my face licked from chin to noose and ear to ear isn't what I call sexy nor erotic. It always reminds me of a little boy who is going thru the Oedipus complex and wants to kiss mommy like what he sees on tv so instead of coming with lips closed he tries the wide open mouth approach. Of course in the middle of hot sex sticking ur tongue out and kissing that way without coming first with lips is all good but as an opener and a first kiss: not the best. It's a bit like starting penetration in full speed mode; my engine isn't their yet let me warm up
Please forgive the car analogy!
Now for Daty, my only complaint is when I tell someone: "lighter, I prefer it more gentle" and the gentleman continues to apply pressure, hey after telling him twice while my nerve endings are fully irritated I too will say: "oh I'm too sensitive" as oppose to have a full fledged confrontation and say: "you're not getting the pressure cues". I can educate a potential SO about what I like but confronting a client about the fact that he is not getting the pressure cues isn't my place to do so unless he really feels open to it and insists but it hasn't happen to me yet. Usually the men who are that open to receive feed backs do not need to change their bed side manners very much as their openness to feed back lead them to be good lovers over time.
I'm not implying at all that you have bad bed side manners as I've never had sex with you so I have no clue. Maybe it's just your beard that irritates the ladies, that's very common. Maybe the ladies have had too much clit stimulation in a short period of time prior your appointments but if you try to follow where she's directing your head or any cues she's trying to give, you may have a better time. Now if you pick high volume ladies that are too stimulated before you get there there isn't much you can do. I've known some high volume ladies who were able to give the same service client after client but these girls are far and few in between. It's just human to feel irritated after a while.
I'm no doctor and my knowledge of biology is soooo limited but I'd think that there is more nerve endings on the clit then in the vagina so that's why ur dick versus ur tongue might be better
Happy hobbying
PS: For those who don't know me, please forgive my grammar mistakes as my first language is French and my entire education was in my first language. Before the age of 18 y/o (yes last year Mickey I didn't speak any English other than yes, no, ketchup
I didn't speak any English other than yes, no, ketchup
I think I might be able to handle your concerns as far as daty is concerned with you. 
I mean, with your guidance of course, if by some chance I'm not doing something to your satisfaction?
I certainly want to make a good first impression...
BTW, I truly believe when it happens it'll be more like, 'yes! no! don't stop!' The rest I'd love for you talk dirty in French for me!
The truth is I don't know how many licks to what side of a generic clit is the best recipe for a successful daty and frankly I don't want to know. If you get too technical you kill the whole thing. I'm not the one to read books when we're talking about something so instinctive such as sex. No PHD needed to have awesome sex; have you ever heard the insult: "you're having sex like an intellectual?" If you're not able to follow the dance during the act and turn off ur intellectual switch, chances are nobody's having much fun.
Very important detail: a full fledged wordy discussion during the act is a turn off (unless we're saying dirty words to each other).
I'm not into licking women but I suspect that different women like their daty differently but I could be wrong as I'm sure someone could dig up some "important" studies (I will never read) on a proven cunnilingus techniques that leads to orgasms.
I don't give much directions other than the occasional: "higher.. lighter... harder... slower, faster, please don't stop!! Oh baby I'm coming!!" or in desperate situations my hand and foot in the guy's forehead pushing him back in hope that finally the pressure gets lighter Just kidding!
Oh, and I should add a VERY important fact that many men don't seem to know... When we say: "I'm coming!!" it means if you stop or change what you're busy doing at that exact moment : you RUIN our orgasm(s). I'm sure you can't find that important detail clearly stated in too many books but if you care in the first place to make us orgasm try not to screw it up while we're busy having it as many men take the: "I'm coming!" cue as: "I've done my job, I'm stopping the motion". Let's try to keep in mind that we can have loooonnnng and/or multiple orgasms so pretty please don't stop the stimulation right in the middle of it!!!
In recap: if we say don't stop there are strong chances we mean it literally (even if we're adding special effects for your ego's sake it still means you're doing something right
One thing is for sure though; if we pull back when you're: kissing, caressing, licking, fucking... there is most likely a strong message to be heard and you'd be surprised to witness that some men try to hold you back even closer and tighter while getting a firmer grip on you so you don't squirm away. At that moment we feel the world can be a very lonely place lol!
It's important to add that some men do not want to please a provider during a paid session and that's all good with us. When someone is paying me I understand and accept it's not about me at all and I can have just as much fun taking great care of the guy's needs, wishes and expectations (I'm easy but not cheap.
However, if a client wants to please me and is not receptive to my cues (let's face it it's a small % but that's what this thread is about) that means he not receptive during unpaid sex as well; I find that very sad. Most likely he has gone through his life - and has good chances to continue on this tangent - not being able to share those great fulfilling experiences with (unpaid or paid) women.
Ditto, ditto, and ditto to everything BDG just said. She pretty much nailed all of your possible explanations, and the apropriate remedies for each.
PS. If the solution involves more practice at DATY to improve/perfect technique, I will humbly volunteer to provide all the instruction and guidance you might need
Cleo said it best... even seeing only 2 guys who are overly aggressive on the clit, can make you overly sensitive. And the clit has the same amount of nerve endings that an ENTIRE male penis has.... the vagina in most cases, has nothing to do with the clit, as unless you're lined up exactly, the clit will not even be simulated during intercourse. The vagina does NOT have the same nerve endings, or feelings that are experienced through clitoral stimulation.
I've also heard from(and experienced on occasion) from guys who state that, 'She kept trying to pull away, or push my head back, but I had a lock on her'. When a girl is crawling backwards away from you... you're probably applying too much pressure. Also... just like after male ejaculation, and most men are super sensitive... well, so are a lot of females. So, continuing to apply steady pressure after orgasm, can be very uncomfortable, and sometimes even painful. Just like most men like a small break after orgasm... so do some women
Some of us ARE very sensitive before and/or after orgasms. I personally enjoy lighter stimulation and DO need at least a few minutes to "recover" afterward. As you can probably guess, being on the sensitive side is a mixed blessing.
