or are you?

But it's only an aspect, and a small one at that.  I'm not about to reveal any more of myself here than I need to, but in my case I'm personally known to plenty of members here (most prominently, Gambler, mrfisher and a number of ladies) who are familiar with the "real" me.
That said, it's certainly an aspect of mine to not suffer fools gladly.  And at the moment there are several fools clogging up the board with infantile drivel who need to have it pointed out.  Not that they are capable of learning from it.
I'm sure we'll be hearing from at least one of them, lol!

I believe whether my disinhibition is benign or toxic is not really for me to say.  If the people that read my posts have an opinion on it, the majority would determine how benign or toxic I am.

i always tell people in my real life that they DO NOT want to follow me on twitter if they offend easy, i am two totally different people when it comes to scocial media, i tweet lots of girly porn (im a girl) and say pretty much whatever the hell i want, on facebook wher i have family and coworkers i am super tame, im not very vocal to othere about mine and the hubbys activites in this hobby,as it is new for us, but we do have a few people that we have shared it with, so i do think that you can be different when it comes to your personas on differnt media outlets, i am a super nice person,but can be a super bitch when it calls for it, and im not afraid to show it. so i can benign AND toxic.

am tremendously disinhibited here. I don't talk at all about the hobby except for here or with others who are involved. Inhibition reigns in a different social context.

I was trying to make - that disinhibition flows both ways, and conclusions made as to "toxic" and "benign" are equally unjustified based upon what we see in an online persona.

Are you "you", your board persona/s, or someone else altogether

observation that we all are benign and toxic at different times, and in different situations. Cool share.

pretty much it's been WYSIWYG.

And I like that just fine.

On threads I feel warrant serious thought and responsre, such as this one, I don't feel that my persona is terribly toxic. On other posts, I simply see opportunities for creating humor, and use the topics as a springboard, and the persona in play there is not totally benign.

While some here prefer to use an alias (or brown envelope or two) to really say it like they mean it, others tend to just use their real fake handle.  I don't care what is attached to a handle and simply read a post for it's face value.  Hence many of the posters here have my respect in how and what they say here.

You're the most healthy guy on this board.  

make him such a great asian american hobbyist.  He was cool, she was cool. DA never starts shit with anyone cuz he's always cool. And that's just how he rolls! rof

Though here my sense of humor, laughing and cutting up isn't evident. I do that when I'm comfortable with the people I'm around just relaxing and having fun. You have to be there in the flow of the conversation. That doesn't happen here for me.

I post when I see something particularly interesting or particularly stupid/offensive, to my way of thinking anyway.  I rarely start threads, as I don't often have anything on my mind vis a vis this arena that hasn't been done to death.  The content of my posts is me, 100%...why should it be otherwise?  Only three ladies that post with any regularity have met me, and I only know one hobbyist IRL...who's a very cool guy btw....so what's the point of being someone I'm not?  I think this place is a riot, occasionally a source of good info, and there are a couple of train wrecks that I thoroughly enjoy despising.  I'm at a place in my life when peeking in several times a day is possible so I post a bit more than usual these days.  It won't always be thus but I'm gonna enjoy it for now!

But I truly believe some peeps here are just an extension of their "IRL in person" personality.

As far as toxic with me it really depends on the situation but you have to define what toxic means to you.. For me I feel like it's more of being bitchy or not.

The degree of being bitchy or an asshole in posting I believe to be easier when posting anon on a forum rather than in person IRL.

xoxo,

Steph

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I can't explain anonymousfun or BV...there's no shortage of venting there.

Posted By: Drunken Asian

You're the most healthy guy on this board.    
   
 CPA will live long and prosper...  

I'm a mangina on the boards and in IRL tend to get attached if I'm not careful.

Ask anyone who's met me I'm exactly the same... Maybe a little bit more reserved sexually cuz I don't want to scare off the guys I date-some sexual things are meant only for hobbying .... LOL but I'm Feisty, Funny & Fabulous!!!  Lol 😜😜😜😜😜😜

to know anyone by their anonymous postings on a TER fuck board. Maybe others have the gift, but I am not nearly that insightful or perceptive. I can certainly opine on the content of their postings, but I have absolutely no idea if that encapsulates the individuals true persona and character.

I never had sexual relations with anyone aside from my right hand and fleshlight.  

I'm the same way with people in person as I am with them online. My language may be cleaner with some people more than others, but that's about it.

If someone cuts you off or does something dumb you'll honk your horn, yell and shake your first, which you'd never do if you were face to face.  But so what?

very 5th post or so, I noticed he just resurfaces randomly out of nowhere only to call someone a "mother fucker" or "FUCK HEAD" or "shit head".  In fact, in his world everyone must look like a fuckhead or a shit head. lmfa

they get macho, argumentative, and have a bad attitude.  

I think I'm a whole lot more open online than I am offline. There are people TER that know more about me than my best friends and family. And i can talk to my TER friends about ANYTHING without judgment. It's a very liberating feeling!

Even given that many of us are skillful actors, it seems baffling when trying to imagine one's persona stemming from anywhere other than our "real*" selves. So, yes, the personas reflect part but not all of our "personalities**."

'Posting' is just another medium of self expression, what I would call an artistic form almost, that's how I view it. While it may evoke emotion or reaction as most writing is intended anyhow,  it still is just words on a screen. Nothing more.  

some people walk right into a shit storm then get butt hurt when they get blasted. Plus it seems like we have some that don't get it and think guys who treat the ladies just fine BCD might use some words here on TER that wouldn't fly so much IRL. So they assume the worst about them.

Everything's relative, ya know?

xoxo,

Steph

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as you've been to me here!

Steph xoxo

TER's Most Clueless Member, perhaps? Oh, well, if the shoe fits.....

DA likes his chicken spicy too.

Is this punked lol? Ummm, the only infantile drivel or fool 'I' see daily is quoted below. Learn from the King himself? Noooooo. I think not.  

teaching methods you are selling us here...I'm curious to know what a post like this (which you are so infamous for) is actually 'teaching' someone?

Just sayin...

Steph

When I was labeled a rapist/rapist sympathizer?

I read the paper and thought "In real life, we all are to some extent, somewhat less than we post". It seems that is true, or most of us believe it to be so. Our personas are an exaggeration of a part of ourselves, and not representative of ourselves as a whole.  

on a slow Saturday evening in BMore. My treat.

One of my faces was apparently offended by what the other face said.

she holds back. LOL.

I love dinner dates and I'll be wanting some adult fun for sure!

Steph

thread. Thanks for the refreshing departure from the norm here.

Haha... I'm a control freak so best never to date me!!! But I'm very picky on whom I date soooooooo you may not make the cut!!! Muah muah!!!

Like a virgin, touch for the very first time!!! 😜😜😜😜😜😜!!!

How would he know? I mean he DOES get all the posts he doesn't like trashed. If they're not there, he never saw them right?

that goes kinda like:

Are you saying Panthera was entitled to his opinion on the thread he commented on, but I wasn't entiteled to my opinon on the thread, where Tobi accused me of being rapist sympathizer

And I've told you several times I've never shared anything personal about you with anyone, so enough with that BS please!

Your post is completely off base and I had no idea that Nicky would say anything about it.

Any responses you get from him or anyone else is your own doing. I did my best to help you. If what I said in my OP made you think about something like WHY you think I was talking about you, then maybe you need to spend some time pondering WHY.

Steph

which is a plural word but I guess it hit a nerve.

Gawd!

Steph xoxo

I am jealous now!!  

What is stupid about my inquisition?

Can you PLEASE get him to stop pm'ing me about lunch? Very annoying.  

I like that saying! Thanks for posting it. I have always noticed that the more I learned the more I realized how very little I actually know. Nothing like an education to make you realize how dumb you are. Lol!!!