I just met a lady who said this before I walked out the door. I find it ironic that (and I even told her this) the MAIN reason that I decided to see her was because of what I read in several reviews. And then she doesn't want me to write one. So should I respect her wishes or write one anyway? She hasn't had any reviews written in 6 months.

Respect her wishes and don't write one. If you enjoyed her company and she treated you fairly it is the right thing to do.  Not all providers want reviews. Maybe she has changed her mind since her earlier reviews or maybe the other guys just didn't respect her wishes.

Especially if she asked upfront.

The right thing to do is respect her wishes. She has her reasons, whatever they are.

Respect her wishes unless there was some red flag that another hobbyist should, in all fairness, be made aware of: bait and switch, upsell, etc.

To wit:  "Why don't you ask for your reviews to be taken down?"

I would respect her wishes and not write a review.

I'm surprised you even need to ask. If a lady asks you not to write a review, of course you need to respect her wishes. Doesn't matter what her reasons are. Besides, if you wanted to see her again, not respecting her request sure would ensure her not seeing you again.

I have tons of reviews, all excellent and I am thankful my clients took time to write them - they sure helped my business to thrive and my name be out there on the top TER list.

Like any other civvy girls, we are human and NOT in lingerie & stilettos 24/7.

Like any other girl, one day we will meet one special guy in our lives and - even if he knows what we do for a living - we don't want him to READ what happened with other guys AFTER we started to date in a more serious way.

I have a very painful experience where one single review written by one time wonder in the most detailed way possible, did cause a break up between me and the man I love.

He couldn't handle, in his eyes I was having pleasure with other men, even if it was not real,   just part of my act and plain work for me.

So, if a girl ask you not to write a review, please forget about your personal ego trip on these boards and grant her wish.

If this  guy had granted mine, I would still be with the man I love.

One review caused me too many tears and it still hurts deep inside because I miss him with all my heart.



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Her reason might be that she wants to attract as little attention from LE as possible. When her business needs a good review, she'll lift the ban.

If she's fair with you, delivers as 'promised', and meets or exceeds previous reviews then should be no problem respecting her request and not submitting a review.

Do what I've done ... write a review for your own memoirs, but don't submit it.

Her reasons are her reasons. It is her life and you need to respect her as she respected you.

b-

not respect this lady's request? Why??

Every time a lady gets a review, her name goes back to the top of the "new reviews"- and her publicity shoots way up. No new reviews = lower profile.

Hmmm..

he should have respected your wishes, and that's why hes wrong (the client..)

That being said...

I do feel for you here, but I don't understand how he found out you even have reviews here? Isn't it like leading two different lives.. or did you meet him on a job? I'm sorta lost, as to how anyone would know.

For example, I have been an underground emcee in California for almost 12 years (essentially leading one life as an executive and another as a musician and never the twain meet..), and am locally famous. However, my employer would fire me with that knowledge, but due to the fact I go by an alias, they would never know?

I mean was it really that review, or the concept of your career? To be honest, it wouldn't matter what I read if I really loved someone and KNEW they did this type of work (which wouldn't bother me..) In my opinion, it meant he wasn't the right guy for you. But I could be wrong!

Sorry to hear that though, I would NEVER disrepsect a provider like this, in fact, even if I was disatissfied, I personally am uncomfortable writing reviews, even though I appreciate those that do.

Take care, I am sorry for your loss, we've all been there and it hurts like hell.

-m

She may be hiding out from a stalker-
she may need discression at this time -

If you got ripped off, had a bad time, or if she has sporadic bad reviews I might suspect her motives have less to do with safety than image.  I would have asked her why.

From what I infer, she has very good reviews, and I  suspect you had a good time.  You don't say that you asked her why so you should give her the benefit of the doubt and do what she asked.

Thanks for sharing that and opening up my mind.

...don't let a woman define you.

I'm paraphrasing from Borat, the movie.

Holeydiver,  jackass comes to mind if a man does not respect someones wishes-.. If a woman wants privacy- heck give it to her- It could be a serious safety reason and IT ISNT up to you to put her in harms way-

( of course, if that woman wants privacy, she shoudnt be on TER either)  but, we dont know the story. Everyone has one.

Its apparent , he had a pleasingly good time with her, being that he never said he didn't.

Most men DO let a woman define them -
especially when they are married- or , have 99 reviews under their belt..

Merry Christmas to You my dear sir-