'IF' I decided to go out on a civvie date, which I don't do anymore, but if I did, here is what I think I would answer.  

#2. c) gentle kiss on the lips, no tongue and only if I like him. I would never 'invite' him up so it would have to happen where we are and in the moment, not calculated. I would never second guess.  

#4. d) he'd have to get past answer C in question 2 to even remotely think about if he's an 'amazing lover'. They come few and far between babe in the 'amazing' dept lol.....but yes, they do exist

Last Sunday..

I have been dating alot latley.
Last Sunday I got laid. I wound up jizzing on her tits, and stomach..
I found myself getting up, and getting her a warm washcloth.
It was like I was programmed!  
I didn't realize what I was doing untill I was wringing it out.
She thought I was so sweet.. LMAO
If she only knew where I picked that up!

all good

i have found the hobby to help me mentally undress and imagine screwing most civvie girls i would have never noticed before..my libido usually is on overdrive and i am always super horny..i love this hobby..

I just want to add.......ALL of my hobbyists are great dates!  Always open to where the date and I never watch a clock...wink wink
Great post!  Thanks for posting.
Jenna

It has made me realize that there are as many possible

types of male female encounters are there are possible pairings of males and females on the planet - and thats a lot!  Mostly I tend to put "stuff" in buckets... there is the romantic bucket, romantic bucket with sex, sex, friendzone, pay for sex, favor for sex, you get the picture.

But now, as opposed to when I started in the hobby (PRIOR to the internet) it has changed how I view my options when I first meet a lady - I no longer think 'it will turn out this (exact) way" rather I think, "wow, I wonder  how this will turn out."  and know what? because I am relaxed about it, my encounters turn out pretty well.... better than before.

to try and find civie sex anymore.  Why bother?

I did give it a shot once about 3 years ago, and it was a disaster.

The hobby is the way to go.

I'll list three situations. This is long, but I've actually been thinking about this lately.

1. Guy I met on Match.com contacted me to 'hang out' for the night at my place. I replied, "I feel something will be expected." Not because I was prude, but because 1. I may not wanna' do it with him, 2. I was an escort at that time and felt he would be upset if he found out he had sex with a pro. Now, we ended up jamming together, (we are both musicians,) and we hit it off... here's the point. I actually thought, "Jeez, I enjoy f***ing hobbyists MUCH more than this!" To be quite honest, the skills here are more consistent.

Afterwards I did think "I just wasted my va-jay-jay on some dude when I should be saving it for work!" How f***ed up, lol.

2. A guy I met on Match last November before I ever even considered this... kept asking via text when I was going to come into town. I dodged the texts, but then agreed. Much chemistry on my side there. He seems only to want a date every couple months so I felt I wouldn't be hurting him.

As "it" was about to happen, I excused myself to pay for more parking... then called my pro friend panicking, asking her if I should tell him first. She said, "Hell no!" (In a more mature way, of course.) "You can't just tell that to anyone." After 15 minutes of counseling and helping me with that and the fact that I felt I had to 'perform' rather than just enjoy the experience, (after all, I didn't have to worry about reviews in my head in this case,) I went back up. We were just hanging and touching at that point, but he would have taken sex any time. After calming down a bit, my inner passionate demons emerged and I seduced the hell outta him and we had mind blowing sex. I left feeling attached, but quickly de-tached after my first client... ahhh, back to the norm.

3. I met a guy for a 'hook up' on CL a few months back. THE most GORGEOUS thing I've ever touched, let alone talked to in my life. Amazing sex every time, again, before I started this. I was around my home city on tour a couple weeks ago, bored one night after work, and shot him a text to say "hi". After confirming he was a-go for a visit, I did tell him what was going on... as I knew this guy wouldn't judge me. I went over expecting to give even better sex than before, and expected to get the amazing relief I had with guy #2. Not so. I left evaluating my every move, embarrassed I didn't "do" better now that he knew what I do. I left kinda' short changing myself instead of what used to be... "Man, that was HOT!" Probably won't do that again.

So... I'm always evaluating my performance instead of just enjoying hot passionate sex on regular encounters... could be guilt, could be the fact that sex this way has become the norm to me.

A few points from my perspective;

 
I look at cute girls and wonder if they work in the Business.

Seeing a Provider is much more enjoyable than seeing a Regular Girlfriend.

I have less Stress in my Life.

Makes me glad I never got Married.

I was very naive before discovering this world, and now I feel I have seen it all. I am not surprised by anything I hear or see anymore, and I also don't think cheating is the end all be all of some relationships.

I have come to appreciate hand-holding. The "longing" stares, one gives a date, as you await your number at a restaurant. The frightened clutching while watching intense movies. Anyone can have sex. Sometimes I just want eye candy attached to my limbs