Recently I got into a very strange discussion with one of our more argumentative members, who I am sure will weigh in on this so I will not out him yet.

Basically, it went like this. My favorite was not available that week, and I missed her, wanted her, lusted for her bones and all the rest of her. He explained to me that he thought that was bad, and that he never really thought about seeing a provider unless he was on his way to see her, or with her. I was shocked. Part of the pleasure are the sweet memories, and the lustful anticpation. The greater the anticipation, the more fun I have. And my mind will go back to moments, sights, comments, that were particularly enjoyable for a very long time.

He maintained that was not right, somehow, but I do not get it. After all, this is about building and satisfying desire and that is definitely not limited to the time with a lady.

Hopefully my friend will explain himself here. As for the rest of you, when do you start to lust for a lady, how much is she in your thoughts as you plan the date and even before, and how much do you like to revisit the delights afterward? And, ladies, is there something wrong with us doing that?

zig

Since I prefer GFE and Arrangement/Mistress type of situations, I have men calling me from all over remembering our experiences and fond frolicking times.

I do daydream about men and our times together.  People have become desensitized to this business and some view us as HOLES and some view us as lovers.

I would not worry about the man with no feelings towards providers. He is perhaps not yet met the woman who sends him into dreamland.

Everyone justifies in their own way what works for them and how to deal with this business.

I personally prefer the hotness of foreplay and anticipation.

Hi Ziggy,

She is just so sweet inside & out that how can one not savor those moments?? As long as the client does not cross the line between fantasy & reality, everything's good!! So enjoy the moments for they are fleeting!!

...he can't even spell excited LOL

Nothing wrong living in fantasy world as long as you keep in mind that its a fantasy world.

One thing Cubs fan can do is watch a Cubs game. That easy...

correct.the best thing about this hobby is the unforgettable memories you have with a select few and the craving desire to see them again..some people are compartmentalized..they only live for the moment..he is seeing providers who give him no connection..he probably likes it that way..you can never light the flame of desire when there is no spark..

I think that once the encounter is over, thinking about how amazing it was can be almost as hot!  That's part of why I like the reviews....... I LOVE hearing his memories of our time together.  You can also fantasize about how awesome it will be the next time.

Along those same lines, I have a page on my site, available only for friends I've seen, so that they can really remember our time together....

Anticipation ROCKS!

As long as you don't cross the line and are aware of what it is, there is nothing wrong with fantasizing about moments or anticipating seeing the woman you are scheduled to meet. After all that is why you are seeing her, she gets something inside of you going (so to speak).

Some guys in this hobby see providers as quick satisfying lays and it ends there and other guys it is a bit differently. Just because you see it differently than someone else doesn't make you strange. We all have differing opinions about things in life.

I've had sessions where I closed the door when I left and forgot about it.  Some weren't even bad, just same ol'.... Had a few sessions that I wished I never showed, some where we didn't click, some I think of now and then.  Been in this for about 4 years.  Never really had a "date" where everything was memorable.  I never really got myself worked up to see a provider.....until now.  Had seen this gal a few times, even had a double with her and her friend.  Yesterday was one of those times where everything just worked.  When I first decided to get into this hobby, I had the anticipation that all providers were super-sexual providers where your socks blew off and your hair stood on end.  Well, I had to lower my expectations.  Oh, those providers are out there, no doubt, but what I'm referring to is the "connection".  Whatever the hell that is.  Yesterday with this woman was not only the best sexual experience of my life but one of the best days of my life.  After our romp in the sack she was hungry(for food), and suggested lunch.  Never had that happen before.  To forget about an experience like that one would have to be a robot.  Of course I'm going to recollect that day....until next month when we have another escapade.  Damn, my legs are still weak.  But, after a few days my memory will wane, until a day or two before our next date.  I only hobby 1/mo anymore because of health issues so I think my anticipation gets higher.  I would argue that the 1-2/week hobbyist risks becoming desensifies.(sp)  I know I was.  I just shake my head over the hobbyist that tells me he has no emotions regarding the sexual experience...."they're just hookers", yet this same hobbyist always look for the GFE type.  The GFE true provider is giving her all to actually bring out those emotions.....so you do think of her(repeat visit, way she is, enjoys her "job").  I call bullshit on this hobbyist every time.  So, I do recollect of a great session, but to get worked up on the planning?....not really.  
Have a safe day!!!

I have too many chores to clutter my mind with needless anticipation , though  I do start lusting when I am on the way to her incall .
 
As far as lingering on the past , it quickly becomes a blur , since I'm usually thinking towards the future .
 
 My question , Have  guys who tend to get caught up emotionally with providers  had many ,  or  any civilian relationships ?
 
 

I am in total agreement with your views and also your beauty!!!

and based on the other guy's attitude, his own is probably all he's ever gonna get...