Having a bit of anxiety about BBBJ safety. Is it safer than BBFS? all the internet resources seem to say it is not safe. So why are BBBJ providers so common? Are STI’s from bbbj common in the hobby?
Oral sex without protection (condoms or dental dams) is "safer" than vaginal or anal sex, but it is not entirely safe. Unprotected oral contact carries a risk of transmitting sexually transmitted infections (STIs) in both directions. Look for sores in and around the mouth. 👄
Nothing is 💯 safe. Covered is best if you're stressed. Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable.
if her customer is a male. Infections on a male penis are generally discoverable by visual inspection. Likewise with a provider infection that is visible on the labia. However, an internal infection in the provider's vaginal canal is often undetectable until it has progressed to the point that it becomes painful for her, or is producing a discharge like the ones visible on males.
That is why the client should always insist on Eating Her Pussy.....if the gal has an infection---you have to get close enough to detect it via sight, smell or taste......if she resists----back off bucko......there is a reason she doesn't want you exploring too closely ! And if it smells bad---there is something causing that to happen---so buyer beware falls into play not only when you are paying to play----but equally so when you are playing to play !
A visual inspection certainly helps! That said, about 50% of men are asymptomatic for chlamydia. 25% are asymptomatic for gonorrhea.
There are also harder-to-quantify risks of HSV and HPV (the vaccine doesn’t protect against all strains).
Don’t get me wrong, I do bbbj, just correcting the info.
I am a older guy and love BBBJ. Nothing is guaranteed but stick with higher end ladies. Once things are wrapping up head to the shower or sink and wash your hands and penis well with soap and water. Maybe I am just lucky but its been working for me many years. Also just make it part of your lifestyle to get tested at least three times per year. I use "any test now " and they will email you the results in a day or two. Be careful who you see.
the messy truth of blowjob safety is this: the sloppier, wetter, and more drool-soaked the encounter, the less the risk. Wrt your sexual health, a deluge of spit is your best friend.
hear me out.
first, the physics of friction. dry skin rubbing on tissue is bad news because it creates microscopic tears. those tears are basically red carpets for bacteria to enter your system. a truly sloppy, spit-heavy blowjob turns your dick into a slip-and-slide. when you have a constant tsunami of drool, there is zero friction to cause those micro-tears. you want things drenched. dry == dangerous.
plus, a torrent of spit acts like a miniature carwash. pathogens need to sit still and latch onto your cells to infect you. when your partner is gurgling a ton of sloppy fluid, that river of spit flushes away bacteria and viruses before they can get anywhere near your urethra. you are essentially drowning the bad guys in real-time.
also: spit is not just water. spit is packed with mild antibacterial enzymes and antibodies evolved to neutralize invaders. a dry mouth is a stagnant breeding ground. a mouth that is producing or overproducing spit is constantly deploying a wave of organic chemical defenses. the more fluid, the more diluted and uselss any bugs become.
this is why catching hivv from a blowjob is practically unheard of. the virus cannot survive a bath in salivary enzymes.
even for stubborn bacterial stis like chlamydia or gonorrhea, their chances of survival plummet when they are diluted by a massive volume of sloppy fluids. they get washed away long before they can do any harm.
so, to toot my own horn, if you want to keep things safe, look for a provider who is not afraid to get sloppy. a dry, polite encounter might seem neat, but it actually carries way more risk. wrt safety, a glorious, dripping deluge of spit and fluids is your ultimate protective shield.
at the very least, it's hot.
I can verify Pandora is the sloppy BBBJ queen. When all was said and done, a pool was constructed inches away from the scene.
so much fun!!!
Sloppy is just more fun! Guys always look at me weird when I stick a towel under them. I tend to get the bed wet otherwise 😆
HSV-1, CMV.
And, interestingly, gonorrhea.
Oral gonorrhea, certainly. I don’t know why this is so surprising to so many people.
Its the only way to be sure.
Or...go get a rx for doxy and prep. Then let the good times roll.
That’s exactly how I do it.
…he sounds very handsome.
I’m just the reincarnation of some fuckin guy who regretfully told admin to delete his account when he was getting married back in ’18. That was sort of stupid.
When that happened, the name on all my reviews and board posts was changed to some random number. Well, all except for the last few months of posts, those seemed to have been deleted 🤷♂️
I’m definitely not Bob, never been a Bob, but I guess if you don’t like “Frank” you can call me “ghost of 2648667”
Holy crap! That might’ve been a good handle for the new account! Why didn’t I think of that 🤦🏻♂️
and a great guy. A real freak, too.
the honeymoon come to an end. Sorry, had to ask.
It is the number you were assigned when you registered with TER. You were the 2,648,667th person to join.
Correct, it's your ter username id
Okay. So what’s yours? Or what’s mine now? What I mean is, when I look at my account there’s no such number listed anywhere. Where’s it at?
Mine is 3198655
Yours is 3714134
You can't just see it, it is supposed to be internal information. You have to look for it or leverage urls that might take your ID as a parameter instead of your name.
Im just explaining how it works.
Your ID is the key of a databse entry that contains your info. Including aliases.
Yes, aliases also map to this id. So if you can reliably map an id to an alias, you will generally know who this alias belongs to.
The membership ID number, or whatever the correct label is, USED to be a visible number on your Account info page. (Maybe that's where you saw your 264... number.) They removed it from being displayed quite a while ago.
Okay. So what’s yours? Or what’s mine now? What I mean is, when I look at my account there’s no such number listed anywhere. Where’s it at?
...numerical order in which we joined. It serves no purpose for us; it's more of a bookkeeping thing for TER.
Okay, fair enough. Thanks 👍
Just weird that they have it where the av-er-age bear won’t see it but still leave it laying around where some people can find it. Let it all hang out, or secure it away for real. 🤷♂️
Oh, and to the question that was asked above about marriage and honeymoon. Every honeymoon ends. Some marriages don’t end, but mine did. Didn’t take me long to realize I was staring down the barrel of 40 years of hardly any sex; and with a person so totally dissimilar to the one to whom I had proposed that it almost certainly had been a trap. spent months fruitlessly begging to go to couples counseling, and then I bounced. Call me a quitter and an ass, I wont argue. That’s almost disgustingly oversimplified obviously, but basically what happened lol.
Personally I don’t think you are a quitter or an ass. There is no shame in moving on when relationships aren’t working out. Especially if the other party doesn’t want to make an effort to try to improve things. Sounds like you did the right thing for you. Respect.