landing a date with a lady that became my AT-ATF! Similar excuses, the difference is I wasn't out any money, just time. Also, I did get laid those days, just not by her. She is UTR and does it part time, so I don't think she thought much of it because it is just a way for her to make some extra cash. When we did finally meet there was a spark! She has not missed a date since!

I would consider giving her the benefit of the doubt and taking her up on her offer to see you at her place. If she follows through, I would believe the events to be true. If you do, I would send her one more email, asking her to call you. If she does, you're probably good to go! Don't forget to joke about the "I didn't know you did Greek!"

BTW, I'm thinking about hiring my AT-ATF at my small business. I now think the benefits outweigh the risks.

My solution, don't call her again.

Many, many fish in the sea and the odds are you are going to catch a better one.

5 minutes after the start time call her and tell her you can't make it because you have car trouble.

but not on the interstate. But of course your inner monger has told you this already and has also told you you're throwing good money after bad with this one. You have but to listen

to respect everyone, until they give you a reason not to. And she also taught me not to give someone who disrespects me a second chance, she said only a fool does that.

Go up and down the running list of providers in your area and I'll bet you can find at least 10 who appear more worthy of your hard earned cash.  Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice shame on me; fool me a third time and I'd post with an alias the next time you talk about her on this board lol

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The subject of no-shows has been discussed at length, as it is an issue that probably all hobbyists face at some point.

I generally give a provider a chance when she does a no-show. However, with two no-shows, you may have found a provider who makes a habit of this. I've often wondered how many no-shows are due to a more profitable encounter arising.

You have to go with your gut feeling, but the odds are moving against you.

...make it $200. and so on.  Eventually you won't have any more money to hobby with.  Problem solved.

But it's completely up to you.
If you are curious if an in-call situation might work better - and have nothing to lose - then go for it.
You know the odds going-in are perhaps only 50-50 that it will work out - so if that is acceptable enough to  you, then what the hell.  But if you are going into this with a sense of entitlement as an aggrieved party, then I'd pass.  But on a lark to see if she'll end up 0-3 or 1-3?  Up to you based on your desire and demeanor IMO...

offered you a real special deal.

A better question would be why did you set up an overnight with someone you most likely have not see previously?