A provider I respect, admire (and would emulate if possible) asked me whether I thought most providers were psychologically ill or just expressing their sexuality.

That was a year ago, and I hadn't formulated an opinion.  Now, after a deeper (quality) and wider (numerosity) experience with providers, I have a conclusion.

Anyone else considered this question?

Why not ask the next lady you see, just as she is pulling out the condom. LoL

I think being insane is great! I worry about those people who live life as a "normal" person. What the hell is that?

Now if you are asking do I think there is a pervasive unhealthyness about providers, I would say based on my limited experience, no!

Statistically speaking, the sample size I have experienced would be considered to low to make any valid conclusions.

I think I may have said this before, there are as many reasons for being a provider as there are providers.

non-providers as well.

My Ramblings ..

I didn't know we had to be "ill " to do what we do.. What is it we do ? We have sex ..

Don't all women get paid for having sex in one form or another ?

My life is complex... full of great things, loves, losses, pain, despair, happiness, children, a home, another business, living my life by Web appointments, hockey and soccer schedules and by your schedule as well.


Our life as a provider  is no different from anyone elses.


 Look at your next door neighbor. She walks like me.. talks like me.. long hair like me maybe ? PTA mom? Soccer Mom? Hockey mom? Business owner ? There are many of us.. Some just do not advertise it.

How about the wife and husband on the other side of you.. What has she given to keep all that she has ? Her car.. her home.. etc..  Sex.. think about it.. if she wasn't ? Would they still be together ? No, she still gets paid.  (haha) Doesn't the wife always use sex as a form of control to get something ? Mmm interesting to think about huh ? You then give her whatever she wants afterwards ... .. She gets paid. Or the wife that used sex for pro creation and had kids so she had a posh comfy life .. She got paid !

What about the single mother down the road from you or at your workplace.. Ever wonder how she affords life's little luxuries while paying for her vehicle.. a home.. 2-3 children ? She play the modern single game and have a few boyfriends ? She gets paid.. Or one boyfriend that helps her out a little ? Its because she has sex... Anyone women that doesn't .. doesn't get anything... She gets paid ! I know this! We all know this  !

Is anyone's life really any different from ours ? Hardly..

Ciara

Related Q: Is it the chicken or the egg?  In other words, if a lady wasn't troubled or unstable (or whatever the PC word is now) when she embarked in the profession, the no-shows, ass-holes, dead-beats, sweeties, adrenaline rushes, risk of LE involvement, fear of STD's, fear of being "outed" to her civilian friends and family, fear of violence/out of control client, etc., would probably be enough to challenge even the most stable among us.

Thxs!

Now if you want to take a poll of the guys....that is a whole different story, LOL.

so why can't men (or me) do the same? I may not have the body...but I do have the 'heat' as it were. Nobody has ever complained about what I do for them....some even really admit to liking it....(grin)

your thoughts are hard to argue with. Being on the bad side of the stick when it all went wrong....I have felt that way many times. Now that I have had it up to my back side in the area of civi woman...and use providers to fill a void/need...does that make me any less of a man? Soemtimes I really think it does.

oz

Bravo, well spoken!

Self Empowerment! We all can only live within ourself as an individual.

IMHO, wives, GFs, SOs have done more harm to the sexual act with their 'headaches' and disapproving quirks, and endless ways to use sex as a weapon in so-called 'normal' relationships. My first experience in the hobby was with a friend whom I always suspected but never judged her about her secret life. One day after knowing her for about 5 years, she invited me to her place and confided in me about the life she led. I was not too surprised because she does have a way about her that is super sexy. We put each other at ease about the whole matter and she proceeded to give me the most mind blowing sex I have ever had. We're still friends and through a number of socials that I went with her, I have met perhaps a few crazies but most of the women are educated, have great style and manners, and if they are really into this life, they always have the "on" button ready. I still see my friend and while she never asks me for money, we have gone on vacations together and I always look out for her with investment ideas and helped to network her into some now lucrative rental properties (apts.) with some guys I know who do very well in real estate. So, yes Ciara, she may not look exactly like you and for sure she is one of most sane people on the planet. Tip the glass to all the great providers out there who fuck you with pleasure and don't demand anything but their fee.

Yea, now if sheep could cook, I bet ALOT of women would be singing a different tune.

I'm no psycologist or a pathologist. I might make the argument that the hobby has nothing to do with someone being "troubled" or "unstable".

could someone who is having difficulties become more troubled by the stresses of the provider life? Sure, why not?

There are many of us who are being driven to the edge by far less.

Your question does not pertain to avoiding the edge, but I know I have said it before, life only has meaning in literature and in your mind.

So what do you make it mean?

And I agree with all of what Ciara says below.  Equally applicable to soccer-moms, providers, soccer-dads and hobbiests, etc.

Would it be valid, however, to distinguish "the escort lifestyle" from others on some basis'?  

   -The excitement of meeting a constant stream of  horney strangers?  

   -The interweaving of risk and reward?  

   -The "outlaw" nature of the work?  

   -Being paid for getting laid?

Other than police work, what occupation even comes close in so many areas?

The other 1% is lying

Try being an adventure guide.

Try paddling in the northern wilderness, in charge of 25 young adults with more energy and hormones than the southern fleet?

How about a guide for mountain climbing? 10 climbers, Denali and O2 and weather concerns, that will keep you hopping!

It seems that, mountain climbing, paddling and providing all require humping? Hmmmmmm?