but that said, the provider should be more aware of her comments particularly with a first time session. She may have been trying in someway to distract you from noticing her on hefty figure.
If a ladies pics are old and she has gained substantial weight, note this in the body of your review. As you know, the provider data doesn't change after the first review so you are helping the cause by noting it.
I have had this happen a few times and it is disappointing particularly if the lady has gained a substantial amount of weight.
That said, move on, read your reviews, do your homework and you will find a lot of very nice ladies who will treat you with respect and with whom you can have a great time.
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I just wondered what other providers views were of such behaviour by an provider and what other hobbyists would do in my position.
I went to see a provider .She was not from an agency but an independent she had her own website. When I first got there I noticed although the pictures on her site were her they must have been taken quite a few years ago. She also seemed to have gained a huge amount of weight. Despite this she seemed dead nice and I kind of felt bad to leave as I know what it's like to think people don't like you for how you look.
SO I stayed and for some reason she turned nasty (after I had handed the money over). She burped and farted the entire time and she also seemed shy to take her clothes off.All that could be forgiven but what I can't deal with was catty remarks made by her about me when I was a gentleman to her.
e.g
' you have a very cute face and nice eyelashes and slim body you could pass as a woman if I dressed you up, not being funny or anything'
'wow you are totally different to how I imagined you on the phone ,thats a compliment believe me'
She said that a few times.She told me I looked like a chav (like a wigger) .And then finally when I was picking up my clothes asked me if I was looking for my bra.I take great care of my appearance so I was shocked she said that.
I actually suffer from Body dysmorphic disorder (I see faults with my physical appearance which are not there) which is why I see escorts as I have no confidence and am shy with women .And the next day I was at my doctors asking him if I needed plastic surgery on my chest.He told me I have pecs nothing else and in his view she must be on drugs and not to see her again.
Personally I would prefer a provider not to comment on my appearance at all. whether she likes it or not. I would never insult a provider, expect that same level of respect in return.
I can see if she knows you well, and things get very informal to where she knows you're cool about those comments. I would certainly be mighty pissed if I spent my hard earned cash on someone that misrepresented herself on her photos, and then bagged on my looks.
I'm confident that the scathing review is in the approval loop right now. If not, you've got some writing to do.
Hypo, you just got hooked up with the wrong woman. A class provider (as most of the ones who are active here are) would never say those type things to a person they were with.
I would suggest looking here on TER for highly reviewed women in your area and trying one of them. I am sure you will discover a whole new world.
but that said, the provider should be more aware of her comments particularly with a first time session. She may have been trying in someway to distract you from noticing her on hefty figure.
If a ladies pics are old and she has gained substantial weight, note this in the body of your review. As you know, the provider data doesn't change after the first review so you are helping the cause by noting it.
I have had this happen a few times and it is disappointing particularly if the lady has gained a substantial amount of weight.
That said, move on, read your reviews, do your homework and you will find a lot of very nice ladies who will treat you with respect and with whom you can have a great time.
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-- Modified on 10/19/2007 10:53:24 AM
sorry you had to go through that. She was completely in the wrong and very unprofessional...you should write a review.
It's hard to understand why people think it's ok to treat others so cruelly but they do. I hope that you take what she said with a grain of salt because she's the one with the issues not you.
I have stuck a review in. Iam a Brit it will be in the London section.
I don't normally write reviews but this time I think an exception needs to be made.Perhaps I was a mug and should have left earlier but the problems really didn't start until I had already handed the money over .
I did my homework beforehand and I can't see what else I could have done to avoid this.
You told your therapist what a sex worker said to you? Wow, that's messed up.
Therapy will not work unless there is total and complete honesty between therapist and client.
Been there - done that. Your therapist may decide not to tell you something (yet). You may decide not to tell them something (yet). But therapy is completely based on getting you to the point where completely honest communication happens. See you are really talking to yourself - the therapist is there to help you with clarity and to keep you from hurting yourself. Also for the record - therapy is the most emotionally brutal thing you will ever experience, because you strip away all your illusions and learn and accept who and what you are.
Telling your therapist what a provider said to you is not just NOT messed up - its pretty much required.
-J
first she grabs ur cash then she farts, burps plus her photos were of what she use to look like 10 yrs ago! You definetly should not let anything she said bother you anymore. when people make cracks like that and act like she does she is putting u down to feel better about herself. You better write a review and warn people of her actually you should of gave her $1.00 and walked out the door when you seen the photo was wrong and she started farting & burping. u don't have to give up ur money as soon as u walk in. talk to her for a few then determine on what u want to do! but this is just my thoughts on the subject.
another thought of mine is of course u tell the therapist about it! why would you not tell them?
ie he imagines & hallucinates bad shit about his body.
it is not a great leap to suspect that he might also be hallucinating about exactly what the provider said.
Any MD (who turns out to be a GP, not a therapist) who says that an unidentified 3rd party is probably on drugs without specific evidence, is FOS. What, is he assuming that any provider is a junkie?
You know what they say about ASSUME.
How incredibly classless. And who is she to talk? Doesn't sound like she's much of a prize either. I agree that this provider is deserving of an unfavorable review.
I sincerely hope that you have not taken her nasty remarks to heart, and PLEASE don't see her again! Sounds like she needs her meds adjusted! Everyone has bad days, but that's NO reason to take it out on a client! Sorry you had to go through that. Ugh.
XOXO,
Stella
Women are as messed up and random as men are.
Like you for instance, claim a mental disorder that involves hallucinations. Because you are a client, we take the position that it isn't YOU that's doing the hallucinating, it's HER, because of course, we don't know anything about her, except what you (who has been diagnosed as a hallucinator) tell us about her.
So, because we don't know anything about her, your therapist says, "she must be on drugs". Well, which drug could she be on? The same ones as you? OTC? Or what?
Actually, we think your doctor is on drugs. Or maybe just naturally high.
So while we agree with your point that yammering about the details of physical appearance misses the point (you're supposed to just enjoy or deal with it) we are positively frightened by this candid glimpse of your mental processes, and the realization that some MD is feeding you shit.
Dr Fill...... Where did I mention I see a therapist? , I don't have one. I simply went to my GP the next day who knows about my concerns and told him some girl had made a comment about my chest. He rubbished her comments and said a plastic surgeon would think he was having a laugh if he sent me there.
I saw one briefly but I would rather spend my cash and going to the pub etc . Are you s medically qualified doctor? .Then you ought to know I only make wrong judgements about my own appearance and not about anything else. Is this an attempt to rubbish my opinion on this provider because of my medical condition? I think this rather unfair, am I not allowed an opinion? . Sure you only have my word for what occured in that appointment and that is for members to make a judgement .
And who is this WE ? do you have multiple personalities then? perhaps it is you who needs the shrink.
my dx is that you are fucking nuts, aggravated by the fact that you rely on people who are also fucking nuts.
You should know that nobody can opine as to whether another person might be on drugs, based on that person's comments about your appearance. But you don't seem to be able to figure it out.
I can't be sure what your point was in saying that, and you might have been using some poetic license, but you did in fact say that he told you she was probably on drugs. And of course somebody else pointed out that you shouldn't lie to a therapist, in your defense.
Let me point out, that when you claim a disorder involving hallucinations (BDD which is pretty hallucinogenic itself) and say you're going to a doctor to discuss reports of your appearance, it's perfectly reasonable to think you would be taking this non-medical issue to your shrink.
This is further reinforced by your question that any response that you interpret as critical is a denial of your right to speak, without considering that you asked the question, and took the chance on an answer. Nobody is obliged to you, to be dishonest by limiting their answer to what you want to hear. In fact, dishonesty is generally regarded as a BAD thing.
My personal prescription in these cases is, GET A LIFE. Join a Corps, like the Peace Corps, Marine Corps or something, and find a real problem, something more serious than facial fucking hair. Sheesh!
If you HAVE to be obsessed by hair, find a lady who wants her pussy shaved, and see if you can get your mind off yourself long enough to keep from nicking her. Sheesh!!
Just what are you going on about now you window licker? I see you've stop using 'we' , so you obviously had your meds today then.
What my GP said she was 'on drugs' I don't think he meant it in the hysterical way you believe... where I live if you say someone is 'on drugs' it is another term for being wrong. It's almost slang. Trying to shore up support for your idiotic aasumptions by painting my doctor as sterotyping escorts.
Perhaps you should get a life giving out spurious medical advice on an escort review forum? Yes I do have BDD but there are different degrees and auditory hallucinations is not a feature. Preoccupation with your own appearance is a feature. Which means while her remarks would make a man without my condtion most probably laugh it off and forget about it, I take it personal and ruminate on her comments.
My review if you have read also goes into other issues regarding this provider which also made the meeting a poor one which would also be relevant. You are now trying to rubbish my opinion on this escort by pointing out my condition to others. They do not need you to do that as it is quite clear in my initial post that I suffer from this.
If you have an issue with someone with medical problems posting reviews on here and think my reivew is not objective due to this. I suggest you take it up with the people who own this site as they approved my review.
I don't have a problem with a critical response I do have a problem with how you are going about it. You are quite right to point out you only have my version of events.
You could be right perhaps this escort is a really nice woman who treated me well but I had a brain storm and imagined all this. Perhaps I imagined all of it and never saw her in the first place. Perhaps I am in fact a provider or a punter using an original way to slam a provider . Or perhaps I just like to right total rubbish about people for my own amusement ... like you?
The jurys out.
Sounds like a bad review is in order. Pics years out date, burps and farts during your session, then makes cracks on your appearance and demeanor? Do everyone a favor...write the review warning others to stay away...
Ya know how many years I had to put up with the smart ass comments from classmates, and other people I had to work with? Comments about my appearance, Comments about my butchie hairstyle, comments about my weight? Believe me, I probably had one of the lowest self esteem issues on the planet. But I have a good heart, and don't see the bad in people. Actually I take that back, I DO see the bad, but I look past that to whats inside a person, their personality, sense of humor, cubs vs sox fan, etc. etc. etc. 
The outside is just the SHELL holding what you are inside. Everyone is beautiful in my eyes. (minus a finger, balding, gimpy, LARGE, small) it doesn't matter.
Most of the time you come across people that are self centered, snobby, ignorant, bossy, smelly, and big-assed jerks!
Once in a while...your seen for who and what you are inside, and accepted because of it.
xoxo
~Di~
I wish more people in the civvie world were like you, Diana. Some of the people I work with on a day to day basis are quite judgmental of others, and I work in a people-centered profession.