and you are right, they are absolutely breath taking moments.

a very few times, but once with two ladies.....

I've had mutual Os very few times. Can't really say how many but like Mr Fisher I probably have enough digits to numerate them.

The most recent was in 69. A couple of the most passionate were in Mish - where I knew the lady was close and I tried to hold off just long enough.... nothing like looking deep into a beautiful ladies eyes while you both orgasm.....

One that I believe to be a true once in a lifetime experience involved two ladies - One lady lying on her back. I was holding her legs way back while screwing her. Her friend sat on her face and passionately kissed me, while fingering the first lady's clit.

I could tell by the breath pattern that the "sitting" lady was about to blow and by the muscle movements of the "laying" lady that she was about to blow. That was hot - but what put me over the edge was, believe it or not, the kissing......

I don't look to climax at the same time

I much prefer to be able to focus on her having her orgasm, hearing her vocals, seeing the sexual flush come over parts of her body, having her pull me closer to her, touching/caressing/sucking parts of her body to 'supercharge' what she is experiencing.

For myself, although climax is fun, I much more enjoy getting close to the edge, and pulling back, 3,4, or 5 times. I find it makes the eventual release much more intense, although refractory time is increased with this method.

After my climax, I love when a lady, after she has had hers, asks if I can do more DATY with some of the other techniques I shared about with her when we were making small talk at the beginning. I've had a few dates where we had a DATY buffet for an hour, she exhausted from 3-4 trips 'up the mountain', and me covered in her 'enjoyment release', the scent of sex heavy in the air.